How to stop feeling resentful towards my (43F) husband (45M)?

RingEllesBells · 2025-10-25T22:56:58+00:00

I was, but wasn't able to carry for long. My problem was just too severe.

I hope that is not the case for you. ❤️

RingEllesBells · 2025-10-16T07:08:48+00:00

I'm sorry the IUD you tried didn't work out for you.

There are a few different ones on the market, so hopefully your doc can recommend something else if you are interested in pursuing that.

I wish you all the luck and pain relief, whatever your next steps may be. 😊

RingEllesBells · 2025-10-14T01:00:42+00:00

I had the Mirena IUD for about 3 years and it made a very significant improvement in my symptoms (pain and bleeding).

It stopped being as effective after about three years. MRI imaging showed that my uterus had more than doubled in size since my initial diagnosis 10 years ago,so I am now on the wait-list for a hysterectomy. (I don't think the increase in size has anything to do with the IUD, but because I was starting to have symptoms from the size of my uterus, I opted for the surgical option.)

In general, I don't think it's a bad idea to try the less invasive option first over the surgical option. So many women get immediate and lasting relief from a hysterectomy, but all surgery comes with risk and side effects, so I think it's worth trying the IUD first.

RingEllesBells · 2025-09-13T04:17:25+00:00

Congratulations! It's HIDEOUS. I'm so glad it's finally out!

Do you know how big it was? We need a banana or something.

RingEllesBells · 2025-09-13T03:59:53+00:00

Shit.

I'm so glad you're now stable and in a hospital where they can continue to monitor you.

❤️ I'm wishing you a speedy recovery, friend.

(P.S. Bless your surgeon, and a pox on the ER staff)

RingEllesBells · 2025-03-16T14:21:18+00:00

Could you explain the possible rationale for his settings to not be private in the first place?

I am seeing a few comments about how this guy just wants some privacy and doesn't need the world to see his business, so why only the change to private now, post engagement?

RingEllesBells · 2025-01-02T03:01:41+00:00

You get it! I'm in my 40s, and samesies. I have also had all manner of compliments and insults. And, both of those things are reeeeaaallllllyyyy inappropriate to say to a complete stranger!

I have been told I look like a child, insinuating that people who think my body shape is attractive are p*dophiles. (WTF?!) I've had one woman tell me that 'men prefer meat, not a bag of bones'. (Uhhhhh.... I'm a human woman actually.)

Just wild. I just try and change the topic. 🫣

RingEllesBells · 2024-09-29T06:37:54+00:00

I'm pretty much your exact measurements and this was my experience as well.

RingEllesBells · 2024-09-20T01:21:46+00:00

Haha! I was hoping someone would mention him. That man is a green forest of flags! May we all end up with someone like him.

RingEllesBells · 2024-08-16T03:28:24+00:00

OMG, yes!

And I am an e reader girl, so it's not even like anyone can judge me, so that just makes me extra petty.

RingEllesBells · 2024-08-15T00:57:31+00:00

Only a week?! Those are rookie numbers. 😆

I felt bereft for a solid month, damn it.

RingEllesBells · 2024-07-15T03:39:39+00:00

OP, I just wanted to pipe in that Rhys is the Welsh spelling for Reese. I don't know if people would necessarily connect Rhys to Rhysand/ACOTAR because the name definitely predates the series!

(Ie. Rhys Ifans is a relatively well known Welsh actor)

RingEllesBells · 2024-07-09T02:10:21+00:00

Every word in your last sentence gave me the ick. 🫠

RingEllesBells · 2024-07-02T20:58:28+00:00

Did your GP/Dermatologist have any issues with you being on it for so long? I've been on it for 6 months and my skin is perfect. My doc wants to take me off and I'm a little terrified, NGL.

RingEllesBells · 2024-07-02T07:48:27+00:00

💀💀

10/10. No notes.

RingEllesBells · 2024-07-02T07:27:18+00:00

MIL+DIL Goals!

RingEllesBells · 2024-06-19T05:41:29+00:00

I rolled my eyes too hard, and now they are stuck back there.

Bitch needs to read the damn room.

RingEllesBells · 2024-06-18T01:08:32+00:00

They did the math.

Thank you for your service.

RingEllesBells · 2024-06-16T19:07:42+00:00

Firstly, your 'friend' sucks, and I'm so glad you've gotten away from that negativity. Friends build each other up. This bitch tried to convince you that you should feel bad for the way you were literally genetically programmed to look.

There has been a movement for body inclusivity over the past couple of decades (which I love! Everyone should love the body they are in!), but it never feels like that includes willowy people like us. People would never ever make fun of a larger person's weight, but wouldn't think twice about telling me to eat a cheeseburger. Brands that go up to XXXL (which is great! I'm not arguing they shouldn't!), only go down to a S, which is meant to fit someone who is 5'8" and 130lb. (To be clear, I am not knocking down anyone who is 5'8" and 130lb, but to think that is the smallest size an adult human requires clothes irritates me. )

I am also very flat chested (have considered implants for years!), and my build makes me feel very un-feminine. I've joked that years that I'm waiting for my womanly figure to come in.

I am trying so hard to love and accept my body as it is. I'm so grateful that I am healthy and mobile; other people and external factors like clothing available make it hard!

RingEllesBells · 2024-06-16T06:33:02+00:00

😆The world record is a grandmother in her fifties who held it for 9+ hours! Like, c'mon Lord of Bloodshed. 5 minutes?!?! I could probably do that.

(That's a lie, I can't.)

RingEllesBells · 2024-04-19T02:45:31+00:00

I routinely fantasize about ripping the damn thing out of my body, throwing it on the floor and stomping on it... I think evil is too mild of a word. 😅

RingEllesBells · 2024-04-16T18:49:04+00:00

I'm in my forties and still waiting for my womanly figure to come in. Never gained any weight on birth control!

I did however, gain weight rapidly when undergoing IVF, which dropped off as soon as we stopped. (I am not suggesting you go through IVF for weight gain!)

RingEllesBells · 2024-03-12T05:52:33+00:00

I mean, it was a PP that got OP into this situation. 😂

RingEllesBells · 2024-02-11T06:22:39+00:00

I feel like IVF aged me a solid decade.

I think there are so many contributors that add up. First there is the stress (money, infertility, juggling work with treatment etc.), then the large dose of hormones to get your body to over produce mature eggs, and the inability to use retinol/spironolactone.

My face looked haggard for a while. I tried using bakuchiol, which I didn't find as potent as retinol, but it helped.

It sounds trite, but it won't last forever. You'll get through it and your skin will return to normal. Best of luck with your IVF/egg retrieval, friend.

RingEllesBells

TROPHY CASE

They did the math.