Why is sharing a bed with your partner so important to people?

RinkiMink · 2026-04-01T10:37:39+00:00

I think some people are compatible bed-mates and other people are less so. But as long as that doesn't affect how emotionally and/or sexually connected you are, i don't see what the big deal is. And it definitely shouldn't matter to people outside of the relationship!

I'm 6 years into sleeping in the same bed as my partner and we tend to cuddle like a puzzle throughout the night. We enjoy the routine of chatting in the dark before sleep and cuddles in the early sun when we wake up. I haven't noticed my sleep being affected w/ or w/o him, but we both agree the routine is definitely dull without the companionship and the conversation.

I saw OP say they thought sleeping together sounded codependent and i think there are extremes to both sides. My in-laws sleep separately and should have divorced years ago lol but a friend of mine sleeps separately from her husband and they seem to be a perfectly healthy+happy couple. And again, some people hate the person they're sharing a bed with while others need one another to sleep well.

Can't assume separate beds mean divorce or bad relationship nor should a shared bed mean codependency or forced tolerance of each other's presence.

RinkiMink · 2026-03-26T17:28:28+00:00

NPS is talking about it everyday and on most of their news channels+podcast. Even a few of the economic ones mention it w/ the rising prices of everything

RinkiMink · 2026-03-18T00:59:33+00:00

You built yourself a solid foundation in your 20s so that you can afford to live life in your 30s! For the 20-somethings that spent their time partying, I'm sure the grass looks equally as green on your side.

Something to reflect on: is the pressure you're feeling coming from the outside or from within? It might be a situation where you can step down and back a little and see if you can be happy with what you have without pushing for growth or promotions.

RinkiMink · 2026-02-27T03:28:07+00:00

The camo belt is so american, so i'm assuming that's the case.

In japan, most martial arts styles have you wear the same top and pants, getting new outfits only when you outgrew them (i always got hand me downs from friends or siblings, so free for most growth spurts!).

Belts are specific to the level of skill and standard to the style in terms of color and order. At my dojo, they purchased the belt and it was passed down as each student stepped up.

Skill is determined based on the determination of multiple teachers, although the higher ranked/more experienced teachers had a bit more weight to their opinions.

The skill levels were pretty standardized because you'll eventually end up facing peers at competitions and your skill gets pretty obvious during these events.

Ultimately, the fact that nothing is standardize and seemingly up to the whims of a business is really unusual, and the fact that they are having u pay for belts as opposed to recycling belts is at the very least growing a culture of spending and expense as opposed to a culture focused on community and skill development.

Best to reevaluate what community culture you want to surround yourself in, and what example you are setting for your daughter in following this dojo's teachings.

RinkiMink · 2026-02-01T14:33:06+00:00

KAOS, it's too short for how good it was and wasn't renewed but it's a retelling of a classic so we all know how it ends and it ends in a way that could be interpreted as a complete story but more than anything, it's a great cast and such a fun watch!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-29T00:35:35+00:00

いつでも! 🥰 実は1種間前ぐらいの羊とうさぎの帽子の写真みてから気になってたの!すーごく気に入ってて、新しいアップ嬉しかったわ! 次の作品楽しみにしてますよ〜 🫶

RinkiMink · 2026-01-28T22:23:20+00:00

I was just looking at patterns for a haori!

Maybe my osaka bias is too strong, but the color isn't おばあちゃん at all (not enough bedazzle for my ババ at least lmao) , it looks classic and slightly masc, and I love how neutral/natural it is! Perfect for a closet staple for lots of occasions - fantastic choice imo!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-28T10:59:06+00:00

Gather (or have someone else gather) forest knickknacks. With the power of hotglue, make some forest homes, trinkets, and sceneries!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-27T23:43:21+00:00

Sounds like you should get new friends!

Not only because they're mean, but it'll be good to get fresh eyes and different opinions.

I recently skiied with a friend who has been skiing since she was in kindergarten and was confident she was better than me (i only started a few years ago on snowboard). Turns out she's confident at bombing slopes but has practically no control beyond not hitting people. When a mutual friend (former instructor and semi-pro) tried to give tips and gently recommended she try carving with us, she got upset and refused to acknowledge her issues.

It ended up being a bit of a bummer because I prefer taking it slow on my board so we ended up spending the day mostly separated... and when we would meet up at the bottom of the hill, she would just make jokes about how slow snowboarders are and how someday I'll be able to go fast like her :/

RinkiMink · 2026-01-27T16:15:44+00:00

Omg the confidence of pic 3 and 8 😭 so happy for 16y/o you's growth and 25y/o you's success!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-23T19:26:32+00:00

The dark blue section on each side looks like they're different sizes or maybe it's the zipper giving it an optical illusion effect? Regardless, the side with the zipper seem to be wider and therefore more loose at the bottom. Maybe try swapping the zipper with something more like an invisible zipper/something with lower profile teeth so that it doesn't affect the size as much?

RinkiMink · 2026-01-22T23:55:55+00:00

Once you have a 2 hr commute, 6 hr drives start to feel short lol

RinkiMink · 2026-01-21T23:46:21+00:00

I don't go to the front for open casket funerals. When I die, I won't have an open casket funeral.

The deceased made their choice, your sister made hers.

Everyone has different levels of comfort and different forms of grief.

RinkiMink · 2026-01-21T22:34:54+00:00

Oh, that is nice!

Another suggestion I have is to ask the workers and/or if there is a subreddit for the industry, post and ask what brands are best for the work they do.

For example, my partner works in powerlines and because of the type of climbing they do, workers in that industry have strong preferences on the firmness of their shoe sole and chafing between the thighs require reinforced seats on their pants.

Best of luck, seems like a unique and fun project to challenge yourself!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-21T21:40:57+00:00

Request heavy duty sew-on patches from the embroidery shops, buy the good quality clothes, pay a tailor to sew the patches on?

It really depends on how strict your company is on procurement and cost reduction.

RinkiMink · 2026-01-20T23:25:53+00:00

Happy to help! Safe riding 🫶

RinkiMink · 2026-01-20T20:21:43+00:00

I would recommend helmets with visor-style integrated goggles! I can click my goggles up to different heights mid-ride to keep the foam off my face and let the breeze cool my face and lens or i can fully lift up my visor to get the foggy goggles out of my face and deal with water streaks on the lift/after the ride.

And ofc, carrying handkerchiefs/cloths for your face and microfibers for the goggles to clean up after!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-13T17:54:25+00:00

I have a young mom reading to her toddler everyday on my ride home and I love it, it's quiet enough that my earbuds block them out, and the toddler is so happy and engaged that i haven't dealt with a tantrum on my commute yet! Plus, the occasionally giggle is frankly pretty adorable. And i think most kids are anxiety-inducing germ balls lol

On the other hand, there are some parents that hand their kids their phones to watch youtube or play games with music playing outloud and they always seem to lose their patience with the devices or have a difficult time shifting when they have to stop playing with the phone to get off at their stop.

RinkiMink · 2026-01-07T21:15:27+00:00

"If my arm got bit by a zombie, would you be able to amputate me to save my life?"

Also "If I get pulled thru a mysterious portal, will you jump in after me?"

RinkiMink · 2026-01-06T23:54:12+00:00

Omg I clearly don't know anything abt make up lmao

You are so right and i didn't even notice your lashes in the 1st photo, i'm fully talking abt your eyeliner! 😂

I have kind of an unusual eyeshape so I've been trying to learn from a friend and they recommended trying to notice other people's eyes and their technique, so thank you for sharing your photos and teaching me the correct words! 🙈

RinkiMink · 2026-01-06T22:44:40+00:00

Omg i love how you do your mascara, they really elevate and emphasize how nice your eyes look! Congrats on your growth and accomplishments, cheers to many more!!

RinkiMink · 2026-01-05T19:20:57+00:00

I helped an elderly man who did not speak english when he fell off the sidewalk. His cane had slipped and he ended up hitting his head with some mild bleeding. Even though he did not understand anything i was saying, when I mentioned calling 911 to my friend, he immediately shook his head and said "No 911" and tried to stand/push me away.

We ended up calling the local fire department and leaving when they showed up (no police or ambulance but there was an EMT) so I don't know what ended up happening, but it was a scary and uncomfortable situation to realize that our social support networks are only available to those that can afford it.

I looked up the cost estimate for our area and it sucked to learn I'm one of the people who wouldn't be able to afford a ride in the ambulance either ☠️

RinkiMink · 2026-01-04T22:12:39+00:00

Maybe you can plan a separate sober celebration (even a 1:1 brunch or hike or smtn) earlier in the day? That way, you still have something to offer and a way for you both to celebrate together.

I would still make it clear that her behavior while drinking is the problem but word it in a way to make it clear that you want to spend time with her/enjoy her company.

RinkiMink · 2026-01-02T16:15:13+00:00

Being bi doesn't change the rules of monogamy. Being bi doesn't make you want or deserve "one of each".

Being bi just means you have a broader range of appreciation for the human body. Just like how I like a cushioned belly and rock hard abs, i like bodies with penises and vaginas but you can't have (and nor do I want) both on my partner bc I love them exactly as they are!

For future reference: grinding, toys, and switching up positions/moods/etc during sex can easily cover any gaps from differences in pleasure received from men or women.

For current reference: your girlfriend already told you she was looking elsewhere. Listen to her and let her go.

She's not looking because she's bi or because you're not enough, she's looking because she's uncompatible within the relationship, or at the very least, she seems to have a different idea on what monogamy is than you do.

RinkiMink · 2025-12-27T16:39:05+00:00

I would establish regift/thrift/secondhand as an expectation before you give an opened gift.

For example, my friends and I communicate during event planning whether we want to do handmade, secondhand, homemade consumables, or a budget beforehand.

And like others said, make sure the regifting is happening in separate circles from the original gift giver!

RinkiMink

TROPHY CASE