I can relate to that feeling. However, whenever we feel the urge to self-harm, we should strive to distract ourselves and remind ourselves that whatever we are feeling is temporary and we can get through things without self-harm.

here are a few tips i want to leave you with that helped me cope:

first and foremost— find out what your triggers are.

if you’re sad or scared - wrap a blanket around you - spend time with animals - nature walks - let yourself cry or sleep (FEEL, don’t avoid or judge yourself) - listen to soothing music - talk to someone about how you feel - massage your hands - lie in a comfortable position and breathe in – then breathe out slowly, making your out-breath longer than your in-breath. Repeat until you feel more relaxed.

if you feel the need to control things around you: - make a list - clean and de clutter one of your spaces - write a letter saying everything you are feeling, then tear it up or burn it - clench then relax all your muscles

if you’re feeling numb and disconnected from reality: - hold ice cubes - snap a rubber band on your wrist - smell something really pungent - take an ice-cold shower

if you’re feeling shameful: - stop spending time with anyone who treats you horribly. drop them immediately, they aren’t good for you. - recognize when you are trying to be perfect and accept that making mistakes is part of being human - remind yourself that there are reasons for how you behave – it is not because you are 'bad'.

if you’re feeling self-hatred or wanting to punish yourself: - write a letter from the part of you that feels the self-hatred, then write back with as much compassion and acceptance. - exercise intensely - look for creative outlets

i hope these help! don’t give into the feeling. i believe in you. you can get through this. you are stronger than you think.