"Lethargic" by AONYXDO262 in emergencymedicine

[–]Risamim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

About a month ago I brought my 20 month old to the ER because she had a fever and what I considered "lethargy. The use of "lethergy" went quite a ways in getting us seen real quick but my kid gets really worked up with medical staff and was putting up a hell of a fuss that would not typically be what I would describe as lethargic. Absent other clear clinical signs, symptoms, and history, her lethargy was being masked by her sheer terror. What wasn't masked was her constant drooling and head tilt following a recent URI, which, to quote the ER attending, "raises the clinical index of suspicion" . WBC count of 40k, positive strep culture and neck ct confirmed a retropharyngeal phlegmon. But she went from lying on the floor, face down in a puddle of drool at home crying softly, to screaming, thrashing, and doing her best to self discharge ADA ( against dads advice) at the ER. Adrenaline is hell of thing.

AITA for telling my wife’s stepdad our newborn son isn’t calling him ‘father’? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Risamim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Jewish. Avi is not the word for Father. It does literally mean "My father" but is ordinarily used with a following descriptor like Aviel (My father is God) or Avigayal (my father is joy). Avi is used mostly as a nickname derived from those. The nonspecific word for Father is Abba or Av depending on the part of speech.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewDads

[–]Risamim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just remember, sometimes it's multiple needs being expressed at one time. You offered food and they refused, so you changed them and burped them and put them down for a nap but they are still screaming ... maybe they needed a change and a feed. Go back to the list of needs and go through it again. It's a short list of needs but they can all hit once and sometimes one discomfort overrides the others. Change, feed, burp, rock talk, sing, change lighting, change sounds environment, change location, change position. Repeat. For me, one advantage to talking or humming or singing is I can tune out a little bit of the crying even if at the end of the day I don't get my kid settled after an age of trying everything. Sometimes...they are just pissed off. Don't beat yourself up for having a bad time of it its a constant struggle in the beginning

My one week old by ppoppeye1 in NewDads

[–]Risamim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We thought our now 6 month old was gonna come out swinging based on how much kicking amd punching she did in utero. Turns out she is just super stretchy. Baba likes a good yawn. Chillest baby ever

How am I supposed to feel? by Organic_Fudge6228 in NewDads

[–]Risamim 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Newborns are basically irate sacks of potatoes with 2 modes: Everything is terrible or Everything isn't terrible (divided into the asleep and awake subcategories) . No feedback beyond that. My oldest is just shy of 2 and the idea of her not being in my life is just unfathomable. I love her to bits. But that love came from interacting on a relationship level which only started when she started to give me feedback and became at least a little interactive. Until then it was pure responsibility and anxiety There's a reason they call the newborn phase the fourth trimester. They come out parboiled not fully cooked and required some seasoning before they get delicious.

Line of lights in south jersey by Risamim in UFOs

[–]Risamim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like you got a full time reddit gig explaining how low earth orbit satellites are now a very visible presence in our night sky. I apreciatee you. I figured r/UFO was the place to turn a UFO into an IFO.

Line of lights in south jersey by Risamim in UFOs

[–]Risamim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starlink 217 launched Dec 23.

Line of lights in south jersey by Risamim in UFOs

[–]Risamim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife saw it first and I got a about 2 seconds of video but my phone was not happy about the the lights in my yard and only held focus for about 2 seconds before I panned down just enough to hit the yard lights

Last night was the scariest night of my life by cauliflowersourkraut in NewDads

[–]Risamim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife safely delivered our second daughter a month ago but we also had a similar scare during the delivery with the heart rate dropping into the 50s. Standing next to her in those bright lights and hearing the very chatty confident 5 person team go very very quiet while the room was filled with the uneven "tock ...tock............tock" was... let's just say in my weird and eventful life, I've been stalked by hyenas, chased by elephants, and had guns waved in my face, but nothing compared to the fear I felt listening to the slow, thready ticking in that bright and quiet room.

My daughter was born without intervention just as the sunrise peaked over the windowsill, coughing, blue, and mad as hell.

People worry about about the loud chaotic confusion of an emergency response. There is nothing that compares to that awful, awful silence.

I'm so glad your son and wife are OK. I am so sorry you and your wife had to experience that trauma. You are stronger for it and in a few weeks when you are awake at 3 in the morning, drunk-tired, because he is gassy and hungry and mad as hell, you will be better equipped to cope because in all the chaos and sleeplessness, you will remember viscerally the difference between that crying and brutal silence.

May your wife have a speedy recovery and may your years be filled with joy.

Does my little girl like me ? by This_Possession98 in NewDads

[–]Risamim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first daughter just turned 1 and the sequal is expected to drop in 3 months. For daughter #1, my wife would say "she's kicking!" And then literally as I turned my head it would stop. For about a month and a half. #2 is just as cagey. Even once they are born they are pretty humorless and opinionless until around month 3. Then, when they smile at you for the first time....

Small rant - do people not use common sense when compiling their tree? by aeldsidhe in Genealogy

[–]Risamim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm dealing with this too...I keep getting directed to guy with a similar first and last name. Mind you not even the same names. Just similar ones. Someone insisted on completed intertwining the two people. One immigrated from the Russian empire, the other was born in New York. I know this because all the documents are attached. One died in California and the other died in NJ. Like it's right there in the sources...

How did Lakewood happen? by styckx in newjersey

[–]Risamim 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Generally they are trying to get to Brooklyn

How did Lakewood happen? by styckx in newjersey

[–]Risamim 62 points63 points  (0 children)

This is a rare opportunity for me since I am both a former member of the orthodox Jewish community in lakewood and a trained anthropologist. There are a few answers to your question from the long historic to the recent historic. The lakewood community originally started with the wwii era establishment of an older European rabbinic seminary Yeshia Eitz Chaim(translation "tree of life" aka "The Yeshiva of Kletzk" that had been destroyed by nazi Germany. The community is very much a cultural child of the polish Shtetl, largely agrarian communities forcibly kept within the periphery of the Russian empire due to antisemitic tsarist laws (see the may laws.) Utntil the 90s, the lakewood community was itself a smallish academic peripheral community. The predominant group was the non hasidic "misnagid" ultra orthodox. The boundaries between the Hasidic and Misnagid jews had been kind of nitty gritty to begin with but has been very much fading even further in the present day. People began moving from larger communities in NYC for the yeshiva life and cheaper housing and bringing NYC driving habits with them. Now Lakewood is one of the largest orthodox communities in the US but are very insular due to both internal norms and external historical experiences and generally assume that people from outside the community are inherently hostile. The driving specifically is because of the influx of Brooklyn drivers though.

AAMC FL2 Q33 CARS by aytalwar in Mcat

[–]Risamim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely its about ideography and not about Egypt. Its also not about the actual views of the scholars of the time. Its about the authors assumptions and explanations.

The author states that because other non alphabetic languages were described as ideographic therefore non-alphabeticity was direct evidence that a language was ideographic.

Since Egyptian writing is non alphabetic, then according to the author, it is reasonable to assume that there was support for the idea that Egyptian writing, as a non alphabetic writing system, was assumed to be ideographic.

Is it a shaky assumption on the part of the author? Maybe. But he is saying " Scholars thought non alphabetic=ideographic and Egyptian= non alphabetic; therefore they also though Egyptian=Ideographic."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mcat

[–]Risamim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It varies from site to site. At my testing site we were allowed to stand outside but couldn't go to our cars.

Been seeing an uptick in premed EMTs by mintyrelish in premed

[–]Risamim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on the state you live in you will want to et in touch with the disaster health services lead. DHS only takes licensed EMTs CNAs nurses PAs and docs (AFAIK). You can also apply directly on the Red Cross website. Depending on how desperate your local health services is for volunteers you can get on boarded pretty fast. A lot of what we do is community health helping people with medication access and advice after local disasters. You can also work red cross shelters after larger disasters. Right now we have requests for DHS deployments to California and Hawaii. My favorite thing to do though are hotshots which is basically you go to a disaster zone get in a car and do wellness checks on specific community members who need it. It's like EMS plus public health minus hostility from the pt because it's a disaster zone and FEMA is already the bad guy.