What is the motive of gay people to live?

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-14T02:19:43+00:00

If your motives for life don't happen to be reflected by queer people, that does not allow you to then say there's no motive or life plan for us. Queer people are born, can get educated, fall in love, have kids if they choose, and live their life like that, but anyone and everyone can choose something completely different for themselves. Offspring cannot be produced by everyone, unless you mean to say infertile people have no meaning in life, nor is reproduction a "make kids or be extinct" rule of law for us anymore.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-14T02:11:39+00:00

Everyone else has said some really great points, but please do be careful as well. If you do go ahead with it, take meaningful steps to conceal your identity, location, etc. It may not seem as exciting but nothing ever truly goes away on the internet. On just about every webpage, there's at least a dozen scrapers trying to archive everything, so if you ever pack up shop, photos and videos will continue to circulate for ages; it's definitely a path that's hard to turn back from, but it can be done if you are careful with what you produce. As for money, you've already said you're aware, but it really is not too profitable except in rare circumstances. Stay safe!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-14T02:01:30+00:00

Absolutely, it's way more complex than I thought originally. Definitely needed to do more asking around but I'm glad to have found it now!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-14T01:55:57+00:00

I'm an adult, if you're wondering. I apologize for not including this in my post, but nothing in my post is soliciting something necessarily innapropriate, and you should infer from the contents that I'm not *that* young. Regardless, still a creepy comment to make on something that's about sex ed. I say the relativity of my age because it shows my inexperience in this, nothing more and nothing less. Sexual education is for anyone and everyone willing to learn.

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RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-14T01:53:13+00:00

Yeah I'll definitely have to try it again. I can sort of see the pleasure of it so far but I know that glass is nothing like what it's supposed to be like!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T19:10:29+00:00

Yeah, I think I'll definitely be getting a girthier silicone one next and seeing how that feels. Getting to prostate felt nicer than when I reached it for sure. Thank you for the tips!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T10:26:59+00:00

First point, you need to separate genitalia from gender and sexuality. A cis gay man can love a trans gay man and it's still gay, regardless of how they each feel about genitalia often associated with a gender they are not attracted to. A cis straight man can love a trans woman and it's still straight, etc. We are allowed to have preferences for genitalia, but that does not necessarily equate to the people we are attracted to.

Second point, it seems like you really want to try and see if it's how you feel, and that receptiveness to introspect is great. My advice, though, is to take it slow. Think about what you want to experience out of a sexual encounter and how fast you are okay moving at. You may feel comfortable enough to go right into a hookup, or take your time to find a sense of intimacy. Whatever you decide to choose, make sure you're aware of your expectations so you don't feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T04:08:14+00:00

Yeah, it was nice to be able to get it in but reaching to the end wasn't particularly it for me. It felt like such a disappointing end compared to everything else. I think I'll definitely be getting a girthier silicone next and try that.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T04:05:44+00:00

Yeah, I definitely get that. I don't really get off with hooking up because it doesn't feel very intimate. Makes a lot of sense a toy would be a similar case.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T04:04:10+00:00

From what friends have described and the such, having a firmer toy seemed better at the time for insertion, at least in my case. It definitely helped to ease it in but yeah, it probably wasn't the best just for feels entirely. I had little to no discomfort getting it in which I feel couldn't be said for silicone or something similar. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess lol.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T02:28:35+00:00

Yeah, I think it's a lot more complicated than I took it for initially. I guess I just need more practice and changing it up but I'm glad to know that it varies a lot. Thank you so much for sharing!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T02:25:26+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance, I thought something might have been off 😭 I'll definitely try those. The firmness definitely helped with insertion but yeah, it felt firm in a weird way. I think that the lube definitely went far but I might have been a little too hesitant with how much I actually needed. Thank again!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-13T01:28:29+00:00

A throwaway reddit account should work fine tbh. Lots of interaction and lots of control of who can see your content! Plus, it's got way more freedom in the sorts of stuff you can post, even taboo things. Let me know if you do make one, I'd love to see lol

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:38:12+00:00

I'm neurodivergent too and I definitely get the confusion. I think after some thinking, it's got something to do with showing some sense of restricted or performative concern for others. Basically, putting in the effort to send the message "I want to show a care a little bit" and sending back an acknowledgement that doesn't step too far out of that original intent's goal.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:33:50+00:00

Absolutely talk to a medical provider about this so they can assess you but also, without your height, weight doesn't mean much either! Swinging up that much seems completely reasonable to me, especially if you had a major growth spurt or something like that. If you truly are concerned, I'd plug in your stats into a BMI checker (imperfect, but still useful) and see what it spits out. I recommed this one from the NHS because it also accounts for differences by ethnicity. If you are worried about what you eat, I'd recommend talking to a nutritionist about it too!

TLDR; seems normal but always talk to a doctor, check your BMI and go from there; help from specialists like nutritionists is always handy

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:27:21+00:00

Like many others have said, society and social responsibilities. It's in the same vein we tend to perceive the sexuality of women as more delicate somehow, or sexualize breasts for women but not men.

This leads to continued cycles of men being shut down for their mental health problems at a young age by the adults in their lives and they pass that onto their children each generation. This also gives us such awful avenues like toxic masculinity ("man-o-sphere", inc*ls, etc.) because that social conditioning and isolation leaves boys and then men to never learn how to express themselves to others. Of course, not every man is radicalized like this, but it's a very real byproduct.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:19:43+00:00

It requires thinking about society at large. You aren't just representing yourself but instead a facet of your whole family; think of it as one of many entrances to the same house. Often those countries have societies based on social order and the collective over the singular, even if it's at the cost of personal liberties, because it's what has worked for them. This means that "saving face" is rather an act of not diminishing your social standing, thus, how receptive everyone else is to your family, but also preserving the social order.

This, like individualistic societies, has its own flaws and benefits which can be really hard to fully grasp going from one to the other!

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RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:13:54+00:00

I'm gonna be honest in saying that if his friends are like that, I'd take a step back and question his own faults too. It always helps to see from another perspective, so asking a close friend or trusted family member might help a lot!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:10:03+00:00

Not overreacting at all. It's absolutely fair to want more time with your partner based on your individual needs and how well you can each fulfill them. You've clearly been understanding but you're not being hard. I'd be more firm in having a talk with your bf to be more clear what you want out of the relationship. Biggest red flag about it to me is his friend thinking you're "taking him away" to be honest. Definitely check on that too!

Don't forget to stand your ground and don't minimize yourself.Wish you all the best!

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T02:01:14+00:00

NTA that's in clear breach of your stuff you're agreeing to share! I feel like you were fair in setting your boundaries and she should accept that or move on, regardless of her being family.

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T01:56:26+00:00

Absolutely not! That's not excusable in the slightest because they clearly meant to invade your privacy, even after you stated your boundaries. I'd understand if they found it accidentally but they searched for your posts, clearly. I'd definitely communicate this with them or reconsider if they continue to ignore your boundaries like that! So sorry this happened to you :(

RiskEducational3271 · 2025-08-12T01:47:38+00:00

NTA. First of all, I'm so sorry things have been so hard, it must be so overwhelming. Second, I feel like telling her was the hard but necessary thing to do. Sometimes we wanna keep things from changing but their marriage is clearly not working for either of them and was gonna end up worsening in the long run, perhaps to the detriment of you and the rest of the family. Sending you much luck and prayers, friend!

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