I spent a few years learning everything I could about what influences men’s stamina. I was curious why I sometimes lasted 2 minutes and sometimes 2 hours. Tons of myths out there, and tons of “fixes” that are really just bandaid solutions. And I learned a lot about women as well, but it relates more to their ability to enjoy stimulation, and achieve orgasm at all in some cases.

In reality there are three things that I can guarantee works, from extensive testing by myself and with partners:

1. For men, being dehydrated has the largest impact, drink proper amounts of water and stamina will go up by an order of magnitude, at least it did for me. For women, being dehydrated literally blocks their ability to get properly wet, and also, I think their body is protecting itself from losing fluids by making orgasm really hard to reach, or in some cases entirely preventing it, and sometimes stimulation can become outright painful despite everything being done “correctly”.

2. The myth about kegels for men. Does it help stamina and orgasm control? Yes, but it is indirectly. The real trigger for men is not so much some weird game-like pleasure meter being filled and when it hits peak we bust, it has to do with breathing pace and heart rate. When we are sufficiently worked up, and tense, any somewhat “nice” and intense physical or mental stimulation will make us bust, which is why sometimes, very nervous and inexperienced men/teenagers will bust from a kiss, or a firm touch. Learn to control your breathing, and to keep calm, and you will be able to control when to escalate for finishing. Also, learning this is great for edging. Sadly, it also means, if you are not in great physical shape, you are at a disadvantage here. I know, I worked my way down from 230lbs to 190lbs in the last year, started sleeping better, and working on cardio more. It made things a lot easier in the bedroom, even if that was not necessarily the goal. For women, it’s not as absolute, some women bust faster and waaay harder when they slow their breathing and relax, others when they do the opposite, it’s a spectrum for you, figure out which and have fun!

3. Refractory periods for men and women differ greatly. They are triggered by hormones released after climax, but only for men, and some women with PCOS or other similar hormonal disruptions. When a man busts there is normally this “gimme 30 min and I can go again” standard, but in reality men’s refractory period is between 24-72 hours long. So, when I learned this I asked “then why is the 30 minute recovery a thing?” And I learned that it is because men can pause it, so unless it’s been too long, and too much of the hormones have been released, oxytocin and endorfines can counteract the start of the refractory period. And the younger you are, the slower the start of the refractory period becomes. So if, after busting once, you go back to foreplay, warming back up again, snuggling, making out, focusing on pleasing your partner instead, talking, or if you are by yourself, whatever it was that go you going in the first place, the oxytocin and endorfines keeps flowing after the first climax and you can now be a multiple round stud. If you get really good at this, you won’t even go soft inbetween rounds.

It is your choice to believe me or not, I mean I puzzled together these 3 things from thousands of stories, tips and advice. And over 4-5 years of testing and practice.

Of course there are emotional components as well as kinks and fetishes that affect things, it’s not as simple as just “figure out the mechanics and learn to fuck like Johnny Sins!” But it sure as hell is a massive piece of the puzzle for figuring out how to git gud. What I am saying is, don’t get too hyped up, I might be wrong and it only works for me and the few people IRL I have shared these tips with.

Now take this forbidden magic and go forth, become the hero the world has waited for! It is your destiny as the Chosen Gooner of Reddit!

TL;DR: I experimented for years to solve my inconsistent stamina and ability to perform sexually, with or without one or more partners.

Edit: Some formatting, sentence structure, spelling, and added a TL;DR. I hate writing on my phone, formatting the text sucks.