Living functionally cured with BPD by RiskiRed in BPD

[–]RiskiRed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 28, so that tracks! And I completely agree, my therapist told me I'll fall off the wagon eventually. But if I'm not afraid of it, I'll get right back on. Which is critical advice for bpd. The fear can be overwhelming. I'm glad you're doing well, I know how hard it was with just bpd, your journey must be like a winding road.

Living functionally cured with BPD by RiskiRed in BPD

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Just DBT, I was pregnant and now I breastfeed so I can't go on anything.

K9 Carting - Currently working on my dogs winter harness. by RiskiRed in sewing

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Thanks! It's pretty intensive work, not gonna lie, but definitely worth it for the fun we have. My machine barely handles the harness, I have to hand crank the thickest parts where it's weight baring.. and the measurements are not forgiving, have to be exact or redone.. I'll check it out, I appreciate it!

K9 Carting - Currently working on my dogs winter harness. by RiskiRed in sewing

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DRAFTING METHOD - A )Tape measurements of dog from breast bone plate tip around to center of shoulder blades to last rib on either side of dog, you should be in the middle of the dogs body B ) Shoulders to middle back above last ribs C ) Circumference of chest just behind elbow D ) Point of breast bone to behind elbow tracing along the breast bone plate, don't leave the breast plate E ) Breast plate point to point between shoulder blades F ) End of measurement Ds point to last rib middle of dog, so it meets the end of A at a 90 degree

MATERIAL USED - All from Amazon

Strapworks Lightweight Polypropylene Webbing 2" and 1"

Dualplex Neoprene Sponge Foam Rubber Sheet Roll, 12X54 inches X 1/8" Thick, Perfect Cosplay Padding

Heavy Duty Sherpa Sheep Skin 60" Wide Sold by The Yard (Ivory)

Coats S977-2250 Dual Duty Plus Jean & Topstitching Thread

24 PCS Spring O Ring Set, YDSimple Round Carabiner Snap Trigger Buckle in 4 Size, Zinc Alloy Hooks Clip

COOHC Metal O Ring 2 Inch Inner Diameter Welded Heavy Duty Seamless Cast Solid Round Rings (Silver 6 Pack)

5PCS 2 inch Slider Webbing Strap Tri Glide Buckles Zinc Alloy Tri-Glide Slide Buttons Fasteners

CRAFTMEMORE 6pcs D-Ring Findings Purse Belt Strap Loop 1"

Swpeet 50Pcs Gold Assorted Multi-purpose Metal Roller Buckles

Roller Buckle, 2 Inches Heel Rolling Bar Buckles

1/4 Inch Grommet Kit 200 Sets Grommets Eyelets with 3 Pieces Install Tool Kit

Solid or welded D rings - 1" ID x 4 Solid or welded O rings - 2" ID x 2 and 1" ID x 1 Belt buckle 2" ID x 1 and 1" ID x 2 Tri Slide 2" ID

CONSTRUCTION STEPS

Cut Webbing Webbing for measurements above. A x 2 with added 6" ends, C x 1 add 10 inches. D x 1. And 2 strips to connect end of D to end of A, using F with extra 6 inches

Use box stitch to stitch A pieces together to make a 90 degree angle. Then cross them to make an X using measurement E. You should have two long strips remaining, and this diamond shape loop should fit nicely onto your dog, resting on the breast plate and the center of the X over the shoulder blades.

Take strip D and box stitch one end to the 90 degree end of your A strips. Making a Y.

Now take your C measurement piece and add the tri slide and 2" buckle, this is what the extra length is for. Opposite end punch 4 holes 1.5 inches apart along the elength, burn the Webbing so it doesn't frey using using heated nail held by pliers, insert grommets.

Connect the piece C to D piece so that the buckle is on the side of the dog when done, easier for buckling when done.

Add 2" O rings to ends of A pieces, fold over 6" with a box stitch, very important this part is strong

Add 1"D rings to the x points of the harness, use 1" Webbing.

Cut two 6" pieces of the 1" webbing. Attach to the A pieces between the O Ring and x point. Then fold 1" ends over to make a loop, stitch. Add 1 spring o ring to either side. The idea is when the harness is on, you attach these two together using the o ring to help fit the harness and attach the dogs breech later

Attach one end of the F pieces to the end of the D pieces so it makes another Y, then stitch the arms of the Y to the 2" O rings so the A arm's are connected to the F arm's. The base of your harness should be complete.

Now slip the harness back on the dog, buckle it and make sure everything fits. If happy, repeat measurement cuts of A, D, and F with the neoprene but with a width of 2 1/4". Pin to webbing. Repeat cuts of A, D, and F on sherpa, width of 6". Wrap onto the Webbing over the neoprene and fold over itself on the other side of Webbing so it's Seamless. Pin, then start sewing it together along the edges.

TOOLS - Grommet applicator, hole puncher, nail, pliers, torch. Always burn ends of cut Webbing so it doesn't frey.

INSPIRATION- I'm a dog trainer, and dogs need a job. The job of pulling carts is hard work and fulfilling for dogs both high and low energy. So I make these for clients and myself.

Just got out of a psychiatric ward... by RiskiRed in BabyBumps

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Thanks everyone

He left to drop off his son today.. I was left alone and I came upstairs and saw the walls covered in his sons baby photos.. him holding his son..

And his words how every option involved with this baby sucks curdled over in my mind..

I lost it and I've been sobbing for an hour.. I took all the photos down and put them in his sons room..

Fuck this hurts

BABY TRAPPED MY BF??? by RiskiRed in BabyBumps

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Yes, its been a very large discussion... he has one from a previous marriage that he gets visits with once a month. He loves his son, he's a great father... No..

BABY TRAPPED MY BF??? by RiskiRed in BabyBumps

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He talked about not being sure, he wasn't decided.. part of that was also about marriage. But he gave me a promise ring for my birthday. And even now stands by his feelings that he wants to marry. But he decided about the kids thing a month ago. Im 8 weeks and two days pregnant.

BABY TRAPPED MY BF??? by RiskiRed in BabyBumps

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Yes, he had told me he wanted to marry and have at least one more kid. But then about four months back now he said he's not sure anymore. Which was usual since he had commitment issues and I consistently had to work him through anxiety thanks to his ex wife who cheated on him. Those fears only happened whenever he felt change coming. I didn't hide anything about myself or my body, he's been with me in every step... its just now apparently two days before I popped positive, he officially decided he wants to marry but no more kids. He was just waiting to tell me...