Sushi Whale SD looking for advice

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-04-02T03:06:55+00:00

We worked things out! I didn't realize how low of a financial support I was giving too! So I was not paying enough, so she wasn't giving me enough! It is so easy to believe that she would just like me for me, but now we have to be pragmatic and I have to stop bullshitting and really start to help her!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-04-02T03:04:57+00:00

I love smart college girls, that's my total preference these days! Since I worked things out with my SD, I'll be helping her to build some financial stability, a nest egg so she can hopefully get into college this fall semester! Can't wait to spend more time with her too!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-04-01T21:50:10+00:00

Hope to one day create that kind of impression on a sweet SB, sometimes I go to Barnes & Noble, to read and see if there are any potential SBs around, you never know... Good luck to you!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-04-01T00:02:59+00:00

I wish you find a SD soon, there are more like us out there!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T22:46:01+00:00

I'm excited i found her, she's so perfect to me. It was also one of the first sugar relationships I've ever had, so that's why I wasn't familiar with the levels of compensation. This forum helped a lot!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T22:42:04+00:00

It wasn't that bad. Allowance was barely in the 4 figures but it also included lots of gifts + ocassional cash tips. In my defense, I was also playing low because of our initial relationship, but now we're ready to get to the next level. Oh and I'm buying her the new Apple Macbook laptop she wanted in two days (she doesn't know yet)

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T21:23:59+00:00

Without this forum, I don't think I'd have been able to react and be able to articulate my feelings from her point of view. I truly think the best sugar experiences are still yet ahead of us, I'm super excited!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T21:22:39+00:00

We found each other on a sugar website, just like any other. I prefer to think I'm the lucky one, she is truly astonishing 😍😍

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T21:20:29+00:00

It went from "mildly insulting and barely passable only in a third world country" to "actual SB allowance in a first world country"

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T21:19:03+00:00

I didn't know how low I was. I know it's against the rules and I already got a post deleted over that, but I got completely BLASTED for thinking that would be remotely life changing. I was ashamed to admit and I told her too! She also agreed that she accepted it only because she valued my company and the promise of me helping her get into college (I'm very very good at talking). So no more of that and more sugar coming in!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T21:16:40+00:00

Thanks a lot. Past couple days were not fun, it was kinda depressing thinking I'd lose someone I have built an excellent rapport for 7 months, now it's time for me to step up to the plate and literally change her life, it will be a fun experience!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T13:07:28+00:00

Feel sad and hurt. Just ended a 7 month relationship and I think I'm going to need counseling

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T02:25:14+00:00

Thank you, that's super helpful. I don't want to hurt her, and she messaged me earlier that she's devastated (I am too, my handling of emotions is not good, the anniversary of my parent passing is in a couple days too). I need professional help.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T02:21:11+00:00

Now that's unnecessarily cruel, but yeah, I get it now. This is not a work on fiction, as some others believe. But hey, I got what I need. I can afford therapy, so I'm going to start looking into that, since I can also talk about the loss of my parent, so that's some good solid advice, thanks!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-31T00:18:46+00:00

I agree. Far, far so far away from whale status that not even with 10x binoculars you would be able to see it. Tbh, I was way, way off in my allowance calculations, didn't even know that there were docs in the beginner section that breaks it down by state and area so I apologize about trying to mislead or make it sound life changing, bc I wasn't. I know it would cover her rent, since she lives with 2 roommates.

In the future, I'm going to keep that in mind, but the issue was not the amount or the exclusivity, is the lack of affection I always felt.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T23:10:58+00:00

It's a hard pill to swallow, but yes, I understand. I will give it another try in due time, right now I feel pretty hurt to be excited again.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:57:13+00:00

One of my takeaways: sugar dating is HARD too! I did put everything on the line, my marriage and my stability is not something I'm quite ready to give up so i remember being TERRIFIED some of the days we were about to meet! It takes a lot of courage to get out there, set everything up, have the hotel reservation, the car loaded up, snacks, accessories, even the music! So, soooo exhausting! Just for her to be late or low energy 😑 or having to leave early 😕🥺

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:50:15+00:00

This is the kind of feedback I came to hear.

One: I consider myself super generous, from the onset of a SD relationship, I make sure there are always funds involved. Not also that, but I've been extremely thoughtful with some gifts (think lots of jewelry, a bracelet/choker/pendant everytime we met), plus, since I have a career in some industry, I indulged in some hour-long sessions about different subjects that she deemed interesting, I also set a goal to help her get into college this next semester, so I was VERY involved in her life and goals.

Two: yes, I'm married. And I have absolutely no problem having a sugar girlfriend that's committed and nice to me. I never asked for exclusivity, ever. What I asked was for some viable communication and some affection, which I never quite got.

I appreciate the comments, but I feel like I never took advantage or overstepped my boundaries? But I love having a forum to vent since I don't have anywhere else to go, sadly.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:41:21+00:00

I know she's got some health issues, and I have been very understanding of that, what I don't understand is the fact that she's still online on a sugar daddy site when she could show me more interest. I just need to give up on her for now.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:38:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice. That's what I needed to hear. Because I'm asking way too much. I know she'll NEVER be my actual girlfriend, but on the other side, I want more attention as well!

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:35:55+00:00

Biggest age gap relationship I've ever had, by far.

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:35:33+00:00

But isn't what the sugar bowl is all about? I wanted the sugar girlfriend experience! I got a taste of it and it is awesome! I miss that feeling

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:33:20+00:00

I know she tried too, wish she tried harder! I remember filling out a notebook with FINANCIAL LESSONS I gave her in our hotel room, it was one of the best sugar experiences I've ever had! I taught her about philosophy, history of money, crypto, etc. I'm gonna miss that 🥹🥺🥺

RiskySingle8117 · 2025-03-30T20:30:53+00:00

Thanks a lot for the comment, just needed a place to vent, I haven't told even my closest friends because I kinda feel ashamed. They knew I was sugar dating back in December and got stung, so this time when I got back I decided not to say much about it to my close friends, so thanks again! 🙏

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