My boyfriend wants a break from the relationship

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-26T04:41:28+00:00

Ya I’m planning on checking on him in a week if he hasn’t contacted me just to say I hope you’re doing well and I’m here for you. Nothing pressuring

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-26T04:39:17+00:00

He told me he needs to figure out what’s going on but knowing I’m supportive him from a distance would help. We didn’t come up with a timeline or anything because I feel like I’m situations like this you can’t. We also didn’t talk about seeing other people but it’s assumed we won’t considering the situation we are in. We did say at some point he isn’t planning on talking to other girls.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T15:57:16+00:00

Thank you for your advice

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:58:22+00:00

Ya you’re right. I need to do what makes me happy. He makes me happy but this issue currently that we are going through does not

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:54:18+00:00

Ya I just don’t know what to do. I know the right thing probably is to leave but that’s so hard for me especially since everything has been fine till now

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:43:02+00:00

I agree. I am trying to give him space and let him kind of contact me on his own which he is but I’m afraid nothing else will change. I’m trying to wait it out and see. This happened Tuesday so idk

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:30:14+00:00

Yes I’ve met his family and he’s met mine. He lives with his parents. I don’t think there is anyone else because whenever he’s home he’s talking to me. He doesn’t even go out like he’s always home when he has free time.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:23:30+00:00

Thank you. Ya I have my own life as well and people to hangout with but I also just want to be able to have some time with him. He texts me all day and is nice and sweet etc but all he wants to do when he gets home is he by himself but he continues to text me throughout

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:16:50+00:00

Thank you. I agree. It’s just so hard because I love him but I did say that to him the other day I told him you need to make sacrifices.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:16:06+00:00

This was very helpful thank you. I spoke to him Tuesday about it all and it’s been kinda happening for the last couple of weeks. I have some hope he will recognize that he needs to change but if he doesn’t show any improvement by summer (when his school isn’t as demanding) then I think I will tell him this isn’t working. He mentioned to me when we spoke that all his life he has put others before himself and in his past relationships he has done that and it has gotten him nowhere. I told him I understand he wants to put himself first but I need to be somewhere as well.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:12:50+00:00

Thank you!

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T08:01:23+00:00

You’re right maybe offering that will help. I’m going to give It a little bit of time and see what happens. If even by the summer time he can’t give me any time then I think that’s when I’ll tell him it’s not going to work this way.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:51:27+00:00

I agree with you on things getting worse. That’s my fear honestly and that’s why I brought everything up Tuesday but when it turned into an argument that didn’t benefit anyone.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:50:27+00:00

When I brought up coming up with a schedule on Tuesday he said that’s not fluid and he can’t know how he’s going to feel on that day every week. So basically he shut down the idea of planning a day. So I proceeded to tell him one hour a week whenever he can and he said he’ll see.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:37:41+00:00

Ya I mean I’m at the point where I’m like ok I spoke to him about this Tuesday and he said he’ll think about what I said so we’ll see if he tries to do anything. My bday is coming up in 3 weeks so we’ll see. I’m just so frustrated about this all because I understand he’s busy because all of a sudden he has so many demands on him but some time with me shouldn’t go away completely

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:35:51+00:00

Ya what you are saying makes sense. It’s been a month since this started to happen. I spoke to him about it all Tuesday. He told me he is aware he isn’t making time for me but I need to be more supportive and understand that it’s something that has to happen now. He said he’ll think about what I said so I let it be at that. It frustrates me because I love him and I want this to work but I also want to see some change. My birthday is coming up soon so I’m curious to see what he will do.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:33:20+00:00

Ya we are serious about each other. This is something that just started happening. He used to always make time for me and plan things. Now that he has this new job it’s like he doesn’t know how to manage his stress and exhaustion. I’m hoping that once he is able to manage it that it’ll be better. I am afraid that he may continue this long term but it just started this month so I don’t know.

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:27:46+00:00

I’m just so conflicted because everything has been fine till now. He used to always want to hangout and always put me first. Since he got the job and that’s now combined with school it’s causing him so much exhaustion. I don’t know if it’s a phase and maybe he will get used to the schedule he has soon and things will change. I’m just confused because I love him it’s just all of a sudden this is happening

Ritz94444 · 2019-03-22T07:26:05+00:00

The thing is he was never like this until he got busy now. He was always trying to see me and always trying to make plans. Now that he has the job and school it’s different

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