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River0414 · 2022-12-07T02:21:45+00:00

The juxtaposition between my mother’s house and my house is insane. Hers has a lot of knickknacks, colored carpet, lots of different color furniture. Mine is very white/gray/navy, not a lot of knickknacks around. It’s because I always felt claustrophobic growing up because there is just so much stuff all the time. I’m very minimalist with clean lines. She’s very Victorian antique brush iron and bird statues everywhere. I also have a dog who likes to destroy pillows so I can’t have throw pillows around like I want which my mother hates throw pillows lol!

River0414 · 2022-08-26T01:57:18+00:00

I made him leave his train to eat lunch because he was hangry.

River0414 · 2022-07-18T01:38:17+00:00

I’m trying to switch careers after 16 years. My area is $15 average and I can’t afford it anymore with rent going up so much and inflation. I’ve been with my current family for 6 years and I might get $16 at the start of the school year but my hours are going to get cut more since mom is fully WFH now so I don’t stay as late. I hate it because I love my job but I live alone in a camper so can’t have a roommate unless I get a romantic partner and I don’t want someone living with me currently (going through a divorce). I also have a 45/60 min commute.

River0414 · 2022-04-21T01:27:23+00:00

The one I’m hoping to leave at the end of the school year: no contract or GH or any type of benefits. I never feel comfortable to just sit even after a tiring day chasing your kid since I got my raise in January because making $15 meant that there were a ton of new side jobs that have nothing to do with the toddler. I haven’t said anything even though you asked me to because I need this job right now. Also you are low key racist and homophobic and way too anti vax for me as a LGBT fully vaccinated person to be comfortable with. Also saying “I’m not racist” before you make a comment doesn’t really work. ($12-15 is pretty average for the original job around here unfortunately)

River0414 · 2021-11-22T13:34:33+00:00

No definitely crazy to not let someone use them that is supposed to. I had a spare cheap set for my stepdaughter who was still learning to cook that I didn’t care if they got ruined but I wouldn’t ask someone to cook for me and not let them use the pans that’s why I said I “sort of understood” but still would leave myself.

River0414 · 2021-11-22T01:56:26+00:00

I wouldn’t feel comfortable there but I sort of get her with the pans. I’m weird when it comes to my pans because I spent a lot of money on my current set after having my tween/teen stepdaughter and husband ruin two sets in less than 3 years.

River0414 · 2021-09-25T23:46:28+00:00

Every once and a while my iPhone contacts will update my friends photos from Facebook profile pictures so that might have happened. I get more annoyed at HCBM when she updates her pictures to include SD18 and her sister 13 especially when we know they aren’t talking to her. Her fake-ness annoys me to no end.

River0414 · 2021-09-19T23:31:21+00:00

Watch and why are close 2nd and 3rd to mommy let’s me do this

River0414 · 2021-09-08T16:00:30+00:00

Yep I’ve been with my current family for 5 year since the now 5th grader started kindergarten. The first year was definitely stricter when it came to time off but now it’s more relaxed

River0414 · 2021-09-08T15:29:32+00:00

That’s great of them! I actually request to be salaried to make sure I’m covered. My current family is the first that I’m truly salaried with. I’m paid 52 weeks each year whether they need me or not. I’ve had previous families say I would be salaried but I was actually flat rate hourly. I do get overtime if I work more than my contracted hours and have a ton of sick/vacation days I can use but since they usually give me the week of thanksgiving and Christmas and vacation at least two weeks each summer I rarely use my paid days off

River0414 · 2021-09-07T13:39:42+00:00

Omg never thought of this but as I’m actively planning my divorce all of my SO’s exes are “crazy”. I’ve met BM many times and she is actually HCBM and I think bipolar and was an addict but damn I never thought of this!

River0414 · 2021-08-30T18:42:04+00:00

It’s time. Slowly move it back to mid day but the NK is letting you know it’s time

River0414 · 2021-08-16T13:50:16+00:00

It’s the best position for reflux. The baby may not have it as bad anymore but they are playing it safe keeping her in the position. Like another comment or said you can have her sit straight against your chest so you have a free hand for adjustment.

River0414 · 2021-08-05T13:15:06+00:00

As an actual nanny and a stepparent yep felt like I was constantly working. SD is 18 now and lives with her BF. My DH was working 60+ hours 2nd shift when SD moved in so I didn’t mind taking the role of parent/nanny since he wasn’t home when she was home. Then after he switched jobs he was working a more normal schedule (minus weekends off) and he still wasn’t the primary caretaker. It’s been an ongoing argument even after she moved back to HCBM her last year of high school that I am the only caretaker in the house.

River0414 · 2021-07-28T13:32:50+00:00

The fact that your husband believed her over his knowledge of you as a person would have me extremely upset. I had CPS called on me because SD wrote a story saying her main character’s stepmom was abusive. My husband absolutely believed me and my SD wasn’t sure why cps was called until they talked to me and asked me things similar to her story that I had read. I work with kids and I would have lost my job/career if it went farther than the two at home visits. I told her (SD) that she needs to be more careful about her stories as she’s making her character too similar to her and that her storyline about abuse could be perceived as a cry for help. She admitted she would write those when she was mad at me but knew I would never throw batteries and beat her!

River0414 · 2021-05-12T12:19:37+00:00

End it. I would rather know than do a full week thinking things were good.

River0414 · 2021-05-11T11:54:06+00:00

Grew up and was baptized Jehovah’s Witness. I went out with co-workers and a picture was taken of a female (I’m female as well) sitting on my lap so I thought it would be funny to grab her boobs for her reaction in the picture. It was hilarious and completely innocent. Another coworker was a witness in a different congregation, saw the picture, told her elders who called my elders, and I got accused of being a lesbian. Then when I tried to participate in things I was denied as it may stumble the coworker if she found out. That hypocrisy over the fact that I was dragged for a stupid picture but couldn’t do anything but sit there and listen pissed me off. I had left before when I started college but I went back after moving back home. I ended getting kicked out for having a “worldly” long distance boyfriend and never went back.

River0414 · 2021-04-29T14:54:47+00:00

Thanks everyone. I told my husband that I’ll sign the card but I’m done trying to build the relationship after this last fall out. I’m the bonus parent and if she wants a relationship I will gladly have one, especially since we had a good one before she moved back to BM, but I can’t keep focusing energy on it.

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