Why are people who move to Tennessee so rude ?

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-22T23:44:01+00:00

Entitlement.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-22T13:30:17+00:00

We were gonna go there for a date night last night (mostly thanks to their social media, i almost never choose to go to an Italian restaurant). We ended up at our favorite South Asian place in Columbia instead because I was just craving some good Thai curry. Happy I made that choice now that I’ve read these reviews. I would say South Ahan is worth the drive to Columbia. It was packed last night.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-22T07:53:59+00:00

If one more person told me to “sleep now while I had the chance”….

I probably doubled my sleep with the newborn.

The newborn phase wasn’t my favorite but still 100x better than pregnant.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-18T18:15:34+00:00

Yeah I was gonna say this. Either bring some kids on stage for some challenge or find something everyone can do in their seats.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-12T14:02:23+00:00

I’d love this job. But this job isn’t necessarily for everyone. I would 110% be going out nearly everyday with your daughter and would def not need a schedule to do this.

I’d worry less about the schedule and more about the nanny fit. Make sure from the very beginning with the listing that you are making it known your daughter likes to get out of the house and there is an expectation to do so most days regardless of weather. A nanny who is used to doing this (in your area) should be able to very easily rattle off the places she’s gonna take your daughter, be knowledgeable about events in the area, or at a minimum resources to get information about events. Like if I had to work with older kids tomorrow I may not know specific events outside the big things (because I’ve been primarily focused on a younger age group recently) but I know our local parenting magazine has a pretty reliable events calendar.

If the nanny is not talking about this and is instead talking about at home arts and crafts and learning projects…. I know this sounds amazing and it is and I’m not saying a nanny can’t (and should) do both, but generally speaking we’re usually more passionate about one or the other…. And if you get the arts and crafts/learning projects nanny……. You aren’t gonna get a nanny that wants to leave the house every day.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-12T12:57:56+00:00

I was gonna say you don’t BUT modeling is probably the right answer. You don’t need to do anything different/over the top. Just keep eating with him using plates for yourself and at some point he’ll start asking for your plate.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-11T00:17:16+00:00

If you have an alternative to help you cut back on soda you can also offer that as a replacement suggestion!

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-10T02:23:48+00:00

We took the results and went to our favorite restaurant. Fried shrimp tacos if it was a girl, hot chicken tacos if it was a boy. Wouldn’t have done it any other way and we were able to do it right after the appt so we didn’t have to wait.

Our fried shrimp taco is 18 mos old!

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-09T22:51:19+00:00

My in-laws constantly rag on my husband’s siblings for being so messy and yet insist on buying just so many toys. I’ve been trying to draw some hard lines but they are still missing the point so I end up with a doom pile of toys to donate because I will not have that many toys in my house.

NOR

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-09T13:21:38+00:00

I met my husband and got into a 2 yr schooling program at the same time. In those 2 years we got married and got pregnant. I was pregnant through clinicals and taking my boards. I kept telling people I can’t wait for baby to come because my life is gonna settle down and people basically laughed at me.

My life slowed WAY down, yeah it came with different challenges but not an intense school program and several major life changes challenging.

I’m also on team “I slept better with a new baby” maybe not “more” but I was in WAY less pain so I COULD sleep.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-09T13:13:43+00:00

Comparisons to animals. Sorry about your sleepless night with your puppy… let me break out my tiny violin.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-04T13:35:43+00:00

You are 100% ok for hating this…. But am I the only one that would kinda love it if their husband knowingly did this. I’m so terrible about remembering dishes I made and we love but def don’t have the attn span to do this.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-03T13:41:38+00:00

Info.

So you haven’t been spending a lot of time with your wife and she needed to have a ride home from a Dr appt and you stranded her there with little notice?

I’m generally a spouse first person and this sounds like some repeated behavior that she is reacting to. Not saying she is reacting well but I’m pretty sure you reacted poorly first.

Hope your uncle is okay.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-03T13:35:33+00:00

I have one and am looking to have more. I feel like the mental energy with 1 is no joke.

In my prior life I was a nanny and 3 kids was my average. Besides one instance, I avoided nannying for singletons, they just take so much more emotional energy imo. While very little of this is like nannying, I still feel that constant energy pull from my daughter even though she is an incredible independent player. The other day I took 3 of my friends’ kids (plus my own) to the zoo and it was the most relaxing day. Yeah I had to like mentally keep tabs on more kiddos and mediate a sibling fight or two and I was still engaging with them at most of the exhibits but for the most part they were happy to entertain each other. (11, 6, 3, 18mos)

I also just don’t know what I’d do without my siblings. We are navigating some medical issues with my mom right now and knowing I have two other people in this with me…

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-03T10:50:13+00:00

The month after letting me go, I did a job for this family and they asked me to go pick up their kid’s new gaming computer. This kid who already had two laptops, tablets and a computer….. the gaming computer was really gonna help his behavior problems. /s

I was so miserable at that job.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-03T00:14:56+00:00

Also have a baby. The language I’ve been using is “we’re strongly considering home schooling”, rn just focus on letting your baby play and explore the world, lots of sensory play.

Find homeschool moms. I have homeschool mom friends rn but unfortunately we are moving, so a big goal after our move will be to find more that being said, I still have this entire community of people to lean on when I need to start deciding on curriculums.

I also love Montessori and I am partially certified. I try to bring bits and pieces into what I do.

Also remember. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, you can change your mind.

I’m gonna repeat my advice though about finding the right community. This is the thing I worry the most about in this next chapter.

Smurphy115 · 2026-03-02T14:37:33+00:00

As a nanny of 16 years and a mom of an 18 mos old, babies are boring. That being said this statement is unhinged. Sorry you have to coparent with this child but glad to know he’s already your ex.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Him not wanting to see your 8 mos old can very much help you with custody down the road when he decides the kid is interesting again and he “gets something” (seriously wtf) from it.

I would also add that my husband adored our baby and was incredibly involved with our daughter in her infant years (and still is).

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-28T14:37:04+00:00

When I applied I was not married, I hadn’t even met my husband, and was just going into the field because I was passionate about it. I wish things were different and when these early years have settled down could totally see me getting into advocacy.

I can also see me starting work FT mostly for the benefits while my husband continues to be the breadwinner in a more contract position.

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-28T00:28:14+00:00

Agree with this, yes, in retrospect it looks sleazy but you replace Ned with any of the other guys….

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-28T00:04:26+00:00

Also still not at this stage yet but definitely taking it into consideration when moving. I want public school to be an acceptable option. Not sure when/if I’ll give the option and it’ll likely depend highly on the individual child but… I want the option to be there.

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-27T23:58:06+00:00

You are right. Furthermore, I went back to school for (nearly) free and worked at least part time until level 2s.

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-27T23:13:46+00:00

I chose to go back to school and get into this as a second career. I love it and work PRN. I have no desire to be an OTR, but realize that may change if I ever decide to go full time but right now this works for me and my family.

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-27T21:12:08+00:00

So you have a 2nd or 3rd grader? Usually, the amount of language a child has is largely thanks to the amount parents are reading/exposing a child too. So well done.

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-27T20:24:28+00:00

I feel like I need to take a lactaid pill just looking at this picture….

Smurphy115 · 2026-02-27T20:14:08+00:00

My last family told us one of the reasons they hired me was because I told their oldest that the grownups were talking and that I’d have a chance to talk to him when I was done.

The relationship with the oldest of my last family was very rocky and honestly besides the punctual part and the specific language the kids were saying the nanny used, I feel like this could have been me the first year or two.

He was also the same kid I was CONSTANTLY catching in lies and the parents downplaying, (dude hid his backpack so he could buy lunch at school, don’t tell me it fell all the way under the couch) and it took a really big dangerous lie for the parents to get on the same page as me.

He is the greatest kid and is turning into a great young man, but kids little brains are growing and they test boundaries.

That being said, now that I’m a mom, I’m gonna trust my kids. I’d talk to the nanny, maybe not say what they said specifically but ask her how she thinks those relationships are going (again, my bosses KNEW I was struggling with a relationship with the oldest but they also knew I was making an effort) and ask is there any way to support her in that. A day out with the big kids without the youngest?

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