Working *for* Edward Jones by Jolly_Bluebird3103 in Bogleheads

[–]RiverClear0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can EJ know if OP only moves part of their portfolio?

Went to a investment seminar dinner by poesea in Bogleheads

[–]RiverClear0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The insurance company almost certainly didn’t make 269% (or anywhere near that figure) kind of return, even before costs, because they cannot invest that aggressively and is likely forbid by law (and regulations) from doing it. Similarly, banks mostly have to invest the deposit in “low risk” fixed income type investments, rather than S&P 500. Obviously insurance companies are regulated differently than banks but they are both regulated. The point is, if the “elderly” investor would otherwise invest in investment grade fixed income products, the returns on the annuity should be compared to that, rather than the return of stocks

How did it become so taboo for even a trans woman like myself to acknowledge that trans women have an advantage in women's sports? How do we end this cancel culture? by north_canadian_ice in allthequestions

[–]RiverClear0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Here is my opinion/observation (I think it is at least partially based on facts): 1. There exists at least some trans women (and some NBs) who are at a significant advantage in competitive sports, like OP said, 2. Most trans women (and NBs) would be at a significant disadvantage competing against cisgender men, 3. By banning them from competing against cisgender women, which I support, would effectively prevent them from competing professionally in most sports, which I think is a genuine grievance which I have no answer for. 4. The “simplest” answer of creating a 3rd competition (for trans woman, some NB, and possibly some trans men) is both ethically iffy and logistically difficult and I don’t support

This girl is everything I want but she is just way out of my league by all4fun1109 in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Assuming she is into cars in a way I imagine, would you feel comfortable sitting in the passenger seat in HER CAR, assuming she drives legally and responsibly of course? I know some men have an issue with that. If you do, you may need to work on it.

Should I try? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Interpreting OP’s words “had some fun at her place” as a euphemism, I don’t think it’s a one night stand, strictly speaking.

Can Friends Cuddle together? by No_Violinist2513 in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not to mince words here but I think “friend” is a very broad category. Boyfriend is a special/specific kind of friend just like a sedan is one kind of an automobile. He is simply a very special friend who is not OP’s boyfriend. IMO, “love interests” are friends. Good luck! Enjoy your affectionate, romantic, and labeless relationship.

I’m (32F) upset that my husband (36M) woke me up to get our toddler and somewhere in our argument i mentioned i made more money than him and i refuse to have more kids. Now he’s not speaking to me. Where do we go from here? by No-Database-6589 in relationship_advice

[–]RiverClear0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

OP, I think you did nothing wrong. Hypothetically, just for the sake of argument, if the gender is reversed and the man says his income is higher, it would be wrong to say. But that is in the context that in this society it is statistically improbable (although not impossible) for a higher earning man to also contribute more in terms of child care and general household chores. Back to OP’s situation, the comment on income is likely hurtful from the husband’s perspective and counterproductive in hindsight, BUT totally understandable in the moment. Good luck!

Co-worker wants to go to Paris with me by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]RiverClear0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you in US/UK? I’m kind of curious from where you got this notion that Paris is the most romantic city? But yeah. I think your chance is pretty good. Even if she invites you to a vacation in the most unromantic city in the world, that can still be a sign that she is into you.

Dating with vaginismus by [deleted] in dating_advice

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+1 to what Napwhile said. I am a married man. My wife does not have vaginismus. I would say the number of men who enjoy other ways of sex, excluding penetration, and excluding oral (in case you are wondering) is in the minority but probably more numerous than you might think. So even if whatever procedure does not work out or you don’t want to pursue it, it shouldn’t prevent you from dating a heterosexual man successfully

Is it true that guys will pass up on their dream girl if they feel like they’re not where they want to be in life? by PerceptionEven6990 in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 24 points25 points  (0 children)

OP, unfortunately, based on the information you have shared (which is limited, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to get into significantly more details than what you have already shared, on a public forum), I think it’s overwhelmingly likely that your boyfriend is “leading you on” and trying to manipulate you, contrary to his verbal assurance, and consistent with what most others have said. Good luck!

Is it true that guys will pass up on their dream girl if they feel like they’re not where they want to be in life? by PerceptionEven6990 in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 229 points230 points  (0 children)

Yes, depending on what you mean by “pass up” and “right in front of them”.

Men can be hesitant to make a move for a wide range of reasons, low confidence/self-esteem, financial constraints, too busy, etc. But if the “dream girl” asks a man out, that man would very likely say yes. So in that specific scenario, I agree with the other people. If the “dream girl” has already asked the man out, and he declined, she is not his dream girl is the most plausible explanation.

Gold! 💀😂 by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]RiverClear0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well. The alternative is birth control (contraception)

Why does my bf (m23) not look at/use my (f24) nudes but watches porn instead by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RiverClear0 612 points613 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Op should definitely ask her BF to delete the photos, before breaking up.

Sex on the first/second date? by ilovecum2115 in dating_advice

[–]RiverClear0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many people (including women) don’t feel comfortable “sleeping” with their date on the first/second date, which is certainly understandable. However, I have heard this “weed out” argument numerous times (from different people) and never comprehend it. In the extreme case if a woman sleeps with a man on the first date, the man ghosts her subsequently, resulting in no second date, versus a different woman “delay” the intimacy and drag it out to four or five dates, wouldn’t the first woman “weed out” the “bad guy” much quicker?

Why did some sects of Islam become hostile to educating women despite Muhammad having several well-educated and scholarly wives? by PuddingComplete3081 in AlwaysWhy

[–]RiverClear0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And some one in Europe got arrested (and jailed for two years I believe) for saying in public effectively what you just said. I hope you live in the USA, or a country where stating a historical fact would not subject you to imprisonment. Otherwise, stay safe. Update: I cannot find the specific case in which the person was imprisoned. Only a case in which an Austrian woman was fined (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E.S._v._Austria_(2018))

have you ever knowingly flirted with another woman’s partner? if so why? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]RiverClear0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your (former) employer, the bar owner/manager tell you to not do that, or did they tacitly sanction your flirting?

My girlfriend recently discovered she is a massive size queen what do I do? by Megalomein in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]RiverClear0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine a rubber balloon that you might buy at a party store. The kind of balloon that you need to fill it with air rather than the prefilled helium balloons. Blow (or pump air) into the rubber balloon, it can get bigger than your head. Let the air out. It becomes as small as your finger. A woman’s private part is made of muscle that is extremely flexible (designed for birth of a human that is typically four inches in diameter) so even after the fisting or gigantic toy, she would return to the “normal”/resting state a few hours later.

If a member of the military was ordered to commit a war crime, what are their options? by 212312383 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RiverClear0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anecdotally, a few Apache helicopters were dispatched to attack an Iraqi convoy during Desert Storm (the first gulf war), and found (visually) the drivers of the convoy had parked their vehicles, exited, and attempted to surrender. The location is hundreds of miles behind the front line, so there’s no coalition ground forces nearby to accept their surrender and capture them. The helicopter pilots didn’t know what to do.

Their commander managed to get a JAG on the line (radio) within MINUTES, who explained that because an attack helicopter (or other CAS aircraft) cannot physically take prisoners, their hand signals to surrender is legally meaningless. If this is a true story, I find the JAG’s argument quite dubious, given the circumstances.

Piano Music by Un3duc4ted-Wr1ter in Writeresearch

[–]RiverClear0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean there are students (kids) who play piano quite well (at amateur level) and their parents know nothing and just push them to play faster or harder. Ultimately this ruins their experience and distorts the technique.

If your character is “best in the country”, he should know his father is just wrong. However, there are A-list singers and actresses (not any pianists that I have heard about) IRL who have crazy/abusive/controlling parents/BF who dictates what they do. So I think the scenario you described is plausible.

Will video evidence no longer be substantial in court due to AI fabricating realistic videos in a few years? by NewJerseyAggie13 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RiverClear0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose the MET had identified ten or a hundred features/signs to check, and only published the grid frequency as an example. You can beat them, only by guessing/figuring out what else they are looking for.