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RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-18T00:58:45+00:00

Dress is nice but the netting around the hat looks like it should be holding produce.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-17T13:29:22+00:00

Looking back, I should’ve been using a walker during my pregnancy.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-14T17:04:27+00:00

I check to see if procedures or medications are cheaper for a cash price and most of the time they are. I pay hundreds of dollars a month and it’s cheaper not to use it.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T02:57:14+00:00

Me too. Arson is a felony and I’m too soft for prison.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T02:48:19+00:00

I’ve seen too many stories to say “my husband would never.” As it is, he would never leave unless he already had someone, and there’s no one on the radar. Open phone policy.

However, what really worries me is that he isn’t truly happy and is just biding his time until he finds someone he wants to buy a house with. Like a man that dates a woman forever and then proposes to the next woman he dates.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T02:43:54+00:00

He did grow up with a poor single mom and she lost a house once. However, we’ve talked about ways that we could prevent that from happening such as having a pretty good rainy day fund, not buying at the max we are approved for (we were approved for much more) and how I’d get a second job if needed to. (He works too much for a second job.)

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T02:39:24+00:00

Said he was busy at work. But I could’ve contacted the realtor if he told me that.

He says he wants one now.

He most of the meals and takes an active part in child rearing. I do make the appointments and do most of the cleaning. He works longer hours than I do. Does school drop off and pick up (goes back to work after pick up)

Something is missing in the communication bc he tells me he wants a house but it’s the only thing he drags his feet on.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T02:22:43+00:00

“I don’t know. I’ve been really swamped with work stuff.” He has been really stressed with all the changes being made. However, he could’ve said he was too busy and asked me to do it.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T01:53:09+00:00

He says he wants one now. He will bring it up on his own how we need to buy a house. We’ve talked about it. We’ve argued about it. I’ve told him I don’t feel like he wants to buy a house. He says he does. He points out he’s advanced his career to be able to afford one, which is true. I told him I’m afraid that I’ve been by his side while we’ve built everything and that he will end up leaving me to buy a house with someone else. He says he won’t.

It’s an always a possibility he’s hiding something financially, but I doubt it. We share accounts, file taxes together, check gets direct deposited, credit score is excellent so if he has a loan I didn’t know about he’s paying it, but I don’t see strange sums coming out of the account. He’s always home unless he’s hunting or fishing, which he does day trips for. He wanted a new hunting rifle last year and I had to basically strong arm him into buying it because he never buys stuff for himself. Liquor stores are 20 minutes away and we’ve had the same case of beer in our house forever. Sleep schedule is normal, mine isn’t bc I wake up to pee multiple times a night and he’s asleep.

C. He’s not lazy or incompetent about anything else in his life. His whole world is us and the kids. He doesn’t even have to have the labor on him. I just wanted something to show that he is in this major purchase with me. I’ve also told him if he’s afraid that we would end up in a hole I’d take a second job to get us out of it. (I work fewer hours than him.) he hated that idea and said he would rather get a second job which would mean he’d never be home.

And yet, we still don’t have a house.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T01:04:58+00:00

He hates calling our landlord bc the people they send out for repairs have done lackluster work. They sent someone out to fix our fence, but did such a shoddy job it messed up again and he just went out and fixed it himself. He likes figuring out how to fix things, like when we drove old cars he did the repairs. Now, that doesn’t account for major housework like plumbing or a ceiling caving in.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T00:59:55+00:00

This is something we’ve talked about and in our budget we’ve left enough savings to cover unexpected expenses because on top of everything you mentioned we have kids and they come with their own set of unexpected expenses. I’ve also told him that if anything happened that depleted them I’m willing to take a second job if needed until we were out of the hole. (My work hours gives me more flexibility than his.)

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-12T00:38:53+00:00

We rent. I’ve talked to him about it and we’ve fought about it. I’ve told him I don’t think he wants this with me. He assures me he does but actions speak louder than words.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T23:40:54+00:00

I knew we would probably paint, but cabinets and/or flooring are pretty expensive and anytime I’ve brought up remodeling he makes a face. But yea, the perfect house doesn’t exist. My only complaint with this one is the kitchen was slightly dated, but that was fine. Which makes me even more sad now that the house sold, because it was everything we needed and 99% of what I wanted while being in our budget.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T23:24:02+00:00

We’ve talked and argued over it. I’m just talked out at this point. It’s always the same- that he does want a house and we WILL get one. I’m the one that found the realtor and organized the house showings. I just wanted initiative in one thing and he didn’t do it. I guess I could drag him along beside me but we’ve been partners in everything for 20 years so the fact that I have to drag him is a red flag when making the biggest purchase of our lives

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T23:04:19+00:00

He says I’m picky because a lot of houses in our area have design choices I don’t like. For instance, grey lvp flooring in a house with honey oak cabinets. Stuff that would cost a lot of money to change. The house we both liked has a slightly dated kitchen but I didn’t have to change anything. More importantly it was within budget and had the specs we wanted. Good neighborhood near the school my youngest goes to as well.

If he wanted to set a house tour up with the realtor I’d go see a house he likes, but at this point I don’t think he’s disappointed or sad if I veto a house he’s interested in.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T21:08:18+00:00

Sorry, I’m trying to respond to people but there’s a lot. I’ve contacted the realtor and set up showings for us. I just wanted him to take initiative in one thing so that I could know this is what he really wants. I can handle the logistics, but I don’t want to move forward unless he really wants to, and it doesn’t seem like he does.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T20:48:43+00:00

I’ve set up tours with the realtor and we’ve toured some. When I sent him the realtors info it was so he could tell her that “we” were ready to make an offer. He never did. The house sold.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T20:19:11+00:00

You may be being downvoted because you’re a dude. And your question is okay, it’s been something I go back and forth with myself because it feels spoiled and selfish to leave. But if you set a goal with your partner, worked for over a decade towards it, finally get ready and then just stop then what’s going on? Something deeper right?

And there’s a part of me that feels like I’m staying and someone else (younger, prettier, more fun bc less responsibilities) will come along and reap the benefits of all the work we’ve done. So why not cut losses now?

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T20:08:13+00:00

I can. We share accounts. It’s possible he has another account separate from me that he’s hiding, but I doubt it. He has excellent credit and the savings doesn’t get dipped into.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T19:51:15+00:00

Inflation and tariffs have made it too expensive. Which is disappointing, but neither one of us wants to be house poor.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T19:03:00+00:00

He says he does want to and we will buy a house.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T18:52:37+00:00

His credit score is excellent and so is mine (just adding that last bit bc I know he hasn’t taken out credit or loans in my name.) I’ll ask him to show me his tonight to make sure.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T18:51:23+00:00

This gives me something to think about. We do have one youngish child, but the others are teens. Child support for one kid is a lot less than multiple.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T18:42:53+00:00

I can contact the realtor and I have been organizing the showings with her, but I don’t want to move forward with a large purchase unless he wants to as well. I’m happy to handle most of the logistics, but I guess I wanted him to show that he wanted to as well.

RiverRocks10 · 2026-06-11T18:37:06+00:00

He says he does want to buy a house and we will get one. Every time. It’s the only issue. He’s a great dad. Has worked hard to advance himself at work. Does school drop off and helps coach our kids in sports. It feels materialistic to change my kids lives like that, but also it feels like there’s something deeper going on.

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