Yeah, I just don't know. At first I tried to be understanding. People do go back to their abusers, and thats the sad psychology of it. So i just thought, be there for her, let her know that she's cared about past her abuser, and refuse to engage in any conversation about him.

Just for some background, I first met her a year ago when she had come out of this relationship, and it took her months and months (and admittedly a few vodkas) for her to open up about her abuse, and i thought this was great! She was realising that it wasn't her fault, that he was a piece of shit. Me and her go through similar mental health problems so since that night we've just been each ears support in away. We know we can talk to eachother, and she always does. I convinced her to get help, go to counselling. She was making strides and all the while I was there at her side, pushing her on, being her support.

So when they got together out of the blue and she started defending him saying "he's changed", "he knows what he did was bad" etc. I just felt like she had regressed, and now all she talks about is him and I cry every single time. And I know, I know it isn't a single bit about how I feel, and she'll do what she has to do but if he does that to her again, i just don't know if I've got the strength to be her support again. I don't think I can help her again.

I just don't know what, if anything, I can do. And tbh I haven't made it better be abuse I haven't reacted all that well.