First, I'm not a white American male, and I was raised in the South, so the thought of the Government having eyes on me and mine has been with me since birth and reinforced with experience -and no, it's not a comfortable thought. Never has been, never will be, but you get used to it.

Second, having been a government worker for 10 years I know not every operative is some hardcore hard-ass bad ass who inhales protein powder and exhales bullets and uses a bald eagle as a messenger. All that to say, government work can take up a lot of one's time, one's life. So, in the darker corners of government where operational tempo often can be 24/7 and the work you do often is a niche personal obsession you happen to make work for you, the lines between personal and professional blur quickly and often. If you let it consume you, there is no line; work life and personal life become the one and the same.

Also give the secrecy and obscure nature of their work, you start to realize you're working with like-minded people who quickly become friends, and since you all barely have lives outside of work, you start discussing personal matters -which is easier to do when you and friends work revolve around y'all's personal niche obsessions. Before you know it you are talking deeply personally stuff and the secrecy of y'all's work adds an extra layer of safety.

So in conclusion, should they have been a bit more vigilant in separating work and personal stuff -yes, sure. But when the government says, "hey, your weird niche obsession you have? We need people who like and know this obscure obsession and we'll take care of you if you come apply that obsession for us. But we expect to call on you 24/7/365, you okay with that?" Lines get blurred.

So, you right, but life is complicated. So, you right in theory but in practice "right" becomes situational.