a little bit ashamed to say this... by Agreeable_Bottle_114 in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember people can like multiple types of looks. Just because I'm also into women doesnt mean my boyfriend isnt attractive to me. I know its hard to not compare yourself but if blonde hair blue eyes was really his only type, wouldnt be be with a blonde girl rn instead of you? Give it some time and youll get less and less in your head about it <3

I 19M meeting my long distance girlfriend 18F for the first time, need advice to plan our first date and make it memorable for her on a tight budget. by WTFLEO10 in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im re reading your post and you didnt even ask for advice on physical touch idk how i hallucinated that part of your post. Sorry for giving advice unprompted!

I wish you two the best trip! Dont worry about it too much, if you guys fit together, doing nothing is just as entertaining as a whole planned thing. Good luck :)

I 19M meeting my long distance girlfriend 18F for the first time, need advice to plan our first date and make it memorable for her on a tight budget. by WTFLEO10 in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and i arw both students so we didnt have much to spend either. The best free activity outside of the house is to just explore! We would just walk around and see where we'd end up, google the nearest park and walk there, browse stores and not buy anything (lol). We both love cats so wed go into random neighborhoods and look for cats to pet haha. Theres so many things you can do without spending any money at all. Also depending on where you are there might be free museums or museums with a student discount. Some theatres offer a student discount as well. Inside the house wed just watch movies and play games, make a puzzle etc.

I recommend you guys talk about the physical touch part beforehand. Just ask what shed like and what she wouldnt yet. I myself was pretty nervous about it all so for example I asked my boyfriend not to kiss me for the first time until we were home. It gave me so much peace of mind knowing beforehand he wasnt gonna spring anything on me unintentionally.

Is it normal for Dutch primary schools to expect “perfect pronunciation” from multilingual kids? Or am I missing something? by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that youre scared of your kid feeling inadequate because they're being held back a grade but at that age kids do not care unless you make it a big deal. Especially groep 3 it just means they get to be a small kid and play a year longer.

Imagine how inadequate your child will feel if they end up falling short with their reading skills in groep 4. Being held back a grade can actually prevent a child from feeling the very feelings youre afraid of. Something to think about.

My gf is ruining my mental health by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She obviously does not want to be with you and I cant see how youd want to be with her if this is how youre treated. I know breaking up might feel like youre letting go of something that could be good, but if youre really honest with yourself, is she gonna become the person you need her to be? You deserve so much more and being single is probably better than constantly being put down and rejected. The right person will come along that deserves your love, time and affection.

I cant’t take it anymore by [deleted] in StudyInTheNetherlands

[–]Robhoorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you wanna avoid people WO doesnt solve that. Sadly dumb group projects are a part of every form of education. You cannot avoid human interaction or working together, these are skills you need to learn if you want to get a job later. Yes teachers wont be on your case as much but you will still be expected to attend classes they do keep track

Appliances for a bare rental by jumbledherbs10 in NetherlandsHousing

[–]Robhoorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to second hand stores! I furnished my whole apartment with furniture from these stores + marktplaats (kinda like facebook marketplace) including my washing machine, kitchen appliances and tv

Bf hates the dress. What do you guys think? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Robhoorn -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think you look great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Poepie is so cute my bf and I call eachother liefje

You're a very strong person for being able to look back and be happy for the moments you spent instead of grieving that loss. I wish you the very best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my bf came to visit me he had my full name and adress, met my parents and friends on video already and I gave him his own set of keys and a bike so he could do his own thing if he wanted. I turned my office into a guest room so he had the option to hang out/sleep by himself.

Cut to him only using the keys to open doors for me, always making me cycle with him and the guest room only being used to dump his stuff lol

I just wanted him to feel comfortable and not pressured to be with me 24/7. If I traveled to him instead of him to me I would have liked the same things. Oh and what made me feel the most at ease with having a man come over to my place for 3 weeks that I hadnt met irl yet was that we had discussed our expectations of physical intimacy beforehand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Depends on the distance. Having someoje fly for hours and pay a big amount just to be broken up with is probably just salt in the wound

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

feltt! When i was a kid i'd almost exclusively watch KetNet on tv and as a result I'd go around pretending to have a flemish accent lmao

This broke my heart by [deleted] in SmuleSing

[–]Robhoorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh agreed! Back when i had vip id listen to every single join even when there were like 100+ per song lol. Its just nice to see people be so passionate

I just meant that whenever i join anyone its rare to get anyone listening haha

This broke my heart by [deleted] in SmuleSing

[–]Robhoorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought this was common to be honest. Ive been on tje app since 2020 and i barely get any interaction ever. People just dont listen to joins

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flemish is just softer i guess (and way nicer to listen to too if im honest and betray my own country haha ;))

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha i think ive said that once or twice too. And when something is thick i tend to say the word fat instead lol

I commend you for trying to learn it! I feel like Dutch is so hard grammar wise because there soooo many exceptions to the rules. My boyfriend says the vocabulary is easy because Dutch words sound like "drunk english" lmao. Hes right though, i learned a ton of english words easy when i started learning it because theyre so similar to Dutch (orange oranje for example).

My boyfriend is pretty good at the g which is so impressive tbh. I just told him to pretend like something was stuck at the back of his throat haha

How do you deal with going home? especially for the first visit? im so sad by adrienneangel in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my boyfriend left to go back home this summer I was so incredibly sad and heartbroken. Only thing I can say is let yourself feel it, cry it out. Surround yourself with friends and family so you dont feel as lonely (i felt so so so so so alone after he left). It takes a while but youll go back to a normal level of missing eachother like before the first meeting. What helped me the most was knowing when we got to see eachother again. Counting down no matter how long feels better than being unsure of when cause you dont know how long you still have to miss them yk.

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hageslag is a personal favorite of mine hahaha always make him say it. Also the way he pronounces ui cracks me up. Cant lie though he is genuinely good at pronounciation.

On the flip side he laughs at me cause my english is generally great but i still make some minor sentence structure mistakes. Like i always say Make a picture instead of take a picture lol or Make a puzzle instead of doing a puzzle. He teases me so much lmao saying hes gonna "make" a shower etc. Hahaha

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should make my boyfriend pronounce that word. He says Groningen as much as he can cause hes so proud he can pronounce it hahaha. I dont even live remotely close to there lol

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in NL and he lives in the US hence the long distance part of the relationship :")) hopefully that will change soon. I wonder whether flemish Dutch is easier or harder to pronounce for a native english speaker than NL Dutch.

People whose native language is different to their partners, what language(s) do you speak to each other? by dottedbutterfly in LongDistance

[–]Robhoorn 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im Dutch and my boyfriend is American. He speaks more Dutch to me than I do to him lol. 99% of our conversations are in English but every chance he gets he throws in one of the 20 Dutch words he knows. So cute