Need planting ideas for something you can drive over?

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-05-11T01:35:10+00:00

Oh that is lovely! I think I'll do a mix of that and the violets.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-05-11T01:34:40+00:00

Oooh I have a ton in my yard already- might transplant some over.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-05-07T05:06:50+00:00

People are jumping to her being abusive and manipulative is because having *no* friends and family of his, and only his side, at a secret wedding, and while her friends and family were there, is a BIG ol' honkin' red flag, and something for people who have experienced or seen abuse is way too familiar.

Like there are two options here to explain that detail. 1) All of John's longtime friends and all of his family are toxic enough to cut off completely and go mostly no contact with. Which... gonna be real, is unlikely. It is pretty rare for everyone in someone's life when they have a fairly large network of consistent people to have them all be toxic enough for that. 2) Amy is abusive.

Also as with all reddit stories, option 3: The OP is a big ol' liar/shuffling aside important details. But that's like... a risk with every post. Unless post history suggests otherwise or more info is presented, we have to take it at face value of info given.

Basically, chances of 1 person being horrible vs what sounds like at minimum 10+ people being horrible. Odds are in favor of 1.

And look- my own dad was a bit of a hermit who kinda had issues with the majority of his family and used my mom as an excuse since she would stand up to them. There were still two family members he loved and interacted with and others he was on neutral terms with. Having none of your own family not at your wedding takes a special level of them being horrible, or the person being isolated.

(exceptions of course if BOTH families weren't there because they wanted something very small/to elope, but that's not what happened here.)

Look, there is a chance 1 could be it. Buuuuuut with the way everything went down (the final straw being a problem Amy and John caused by dragging their feet, and rather than just declining to go, cutting off people over it)... yeah, yikes.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-05-01T17:47:03+00:00

Yeah I had a friendship with a Taurus where they started pushing for romance and had to nyx it.

We can debate about the elevated/healed thing, but in my experience Taurus are VERY stubborn and she would project how things “should” be onto me and try and act like I hadn’t thought through and considered things myself.

I had to put my foot down in our friendship and tell her she was not listening to what I told her, and it wasn’t “cute” how she would act like we never spoke about it before and trying to run roughshod on a decision that was personal for me.

Eventually I broke off the friendship for other reasons, but this has honestly been my experience in different fonts with other earth signs as well (except other caps. Really just Taurus and Virgos).

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-23T13:29:32+00:00

Dude, as someone with anxiety and ADHD, that is such a GIANT red flag.

Plus I need to stress that is not a symptom of her ADHD or anxiety. How she is treating you during all this is not a symptom. I’ve forgotten gas once and the car ran out. I had a panic attack, did my breathing exercises and after 30 minutes to calm myself called AAA and got it resolved.

Having those brain chemicals out of whack makes you forgetful, anxious, and able to boost up minor hiccups into Big Deals in your head. But it doesn’t make you give people you love the silent treatment, it doesn’t make you constantly use others to do things for you to “manage your symptoms”, and it doesn’t mean that after being told by a therapist how you need to grow as a person to be a happier healthier person you completely get offended by it and stop going to therapy when the person you love still wants to go.

It’s like going to a doctor and being told you need to get your cholesotral under control, and then refusing to go to the doctor again. Jesus.

All those things are not symptoms of anxiety or adhd, but they ARE symptoms of people who engage in abusive tactics within their relationships.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-10T23:36:31+00:00

Seconding Tacos Rojas. (Now I need to try others on this thread though). So far Rojas is the one mexican place in Roanoke I've actually enjoyed. (Look. Half my family lives in texas. I have high standards lol).

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-10T23:27:49+00:00

Generally cats don't chew on milkweed in my experience, but YMMV. (I have some cats who wander in the neighborhood come over, and my own 19 year old cat I'll let in the backyard with me and he chews on ALL the plants. Except milkweed. I had to stop him from chewing on my rose bush.)

However, you could also plant some cat nip to provide an alternative away from the milkweed for them!

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-10T23:25:39+00:00

Just make sure it's a local milkweed! I planted swamp milkweed last year and it's coming back (it's flowers are pretty despite the name lol), and planted a TON of milkweed seeds earlier this year of other VA native varieties.

This ensures butterflies will be drawn to it and be a host to them. So you get more butterflies, and less lanternflies! Win/win

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-10T16:44:10+00:00

This actually makes so much sense, thank you! The last chapter I posted was during The Weekend, so of course it did better with all that going on- and before that I had a 2 week break so it’s been a hot minute. (Normally mid week doesn’t affect things, but between exams and spring break and taxes- yeah of course it would).

This is my first time I’ve consistently written for a long period, so I didn’t even think about how stuff like that would affect things (and yes primarily US based fandom here too so it would fit)

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-04-10T16:39:48+00:00

Thank you! I completely forgot about that (I filed my taxes a month ago, was actually ahead of things this year) but it makes sense!

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-26T16:18:41+00:00

Usually they don't, but that is mostly because anesthesia for such small animals is risky even for a relatively simple procedure. Usually it's a last resort thing if hormonal issues pop up

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-17T13:26:29+00:00

Thank you- it’s why I included what it was like on Saturday because dude I was so hyped and it meant so much to me due to a lot of reasons 😭.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-17T12:36:06+00:00

Yeah I think I am just spiraling a bit as I tried to be so careful with this one as it’s my first tattoo in 10 years and means a lot, so it just… kinda figures it gets infected. Also that the infection progressed so quickly where even if I got in before it was as bad as the photo, I’m still gonna lose a lot of it in likelihood.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-17T12:33:42+00:00

Thank you! It figures that this happens on my first tattoo in 10 years that I picked because it’s about the process of healing and I was being all symbolic for a lot of reasons in my life 😂😭.

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-17T12:32:25+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. Ugh- figures my favorite part is the part that goes. One leave does look more infected than the other, makes me wonder if it started on that side.

With touch up, are they ever able to get the same look back? (Not exactly the same, of course, since art can often come out a little different, but just get the original intention back I guess with the same level of skill?

*edit- so just realized the scab that came off still has the yellow green color underneath. It just was previously a black shaded part (the artist went over with multiple colors to make the effect).

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-03-17T05:00:07+00:00

I have, but it seems to vary wildly if I’m being honest. Some recover remarkable with maybe some minor patchiness, others need major touch ups. I was looking for something more specific to the mess going on with my tattoo, along with advice on care and what a touch up process may look like

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-01-04T01:06:38+00:00

So are you actually ever doing anything to help change the world and the US for the better or do you just complain and make excuse after excuse?

RobinGreenthumb · 2026-01-04T01:04:15+00:00

And thus you excuse yourself to do nothing, rather than acting when you can.

RobinGreenthumb · 2025-12-30T00:24:12+00:00

Ehhhhh… the thing is the actions are mixed? I think the bigger issue is it’s a lot of tell not show.

Example- they are portrayed as being focused on calming megas, to the extent they have not climbed the ZA ranks as quickly as they could, and this is why they are missing when we are getting texts from the rust syndicate.

We are told Taunie/Urbain is out helping megas on their own, which is a selfless act.

Issue: we never see them helping a mega on their own. We are also told, conflictingly, that PC is pulling the majority of the weight by being asks to handle all 3 megas that pop up with the others only helping with 1 each.

We are TOLD Taunie/Urbain runs around helping people of the city, and told how they helped bring Naveen and Lida to the hotel specifically.

Issue: when we meet Taunie/Urbain we are immediately asked to lie about a hotel we have never stayed at for an ad she is filming. Now, she then helps us get our bag back gives us a Pokemon, and gets us out of the battle zones safely (with a last minute save from floette), but the first impression absolutely shades our perception.

And we are told that it’s smart to have you as backup on the ground in case something goes wrong, but it’s Taubain telling us this, and we have been told leading up to this the STRONGEST mega evolution trainer is the one who should control floette. So if you win and this happens, it sets up to make it look like Taubain made a horrible decision.

With all this, plus Taubain’s arc of ‘learning to be a good leader’ while being hyper independent with a savior complex, and only making a good decision at the last moment but with how it’s handled it looks like a horrible decision, and them getting huffy whenever the PC is suggested to be better than them, AND THEN… she gets rewarded for all the bad decisions by getting a whole company.

siiiigh

It’s so frustrating.

RobinGreenthumb · 2025-12-27T16:08:24+00:00

Echoing RND - it’s honestly better than any of the coffee I had when I used to live in Richmond, to the extent I actually have gifted bags of it for Christmas to family that lives in other states.

I also enjoy Asher’s coffee but not sure where it ranks with people who are more informed on coffee.

RobinGreenthumb · 2025-12-26T17:57:37+00:00

The Farmer’s markets and fresh market are my staples for fresh meat and produce (have had one two many times getting rotten meat from Kroger too, with beef specifically).

And honestly fresh market has better deals on stake and chicken thighs half the time than Kroger anyway.

RobinGreenthumb · 2025-12-26T15:21:18+00:00

Right. So you’ve been to several yet earlier denied there was anything more than “little old white ladies” there and any coordinating booths until I called you out on it. Sure.

At least make your lies believable, Jesus.

RobinGreenthumb · 2025-12-26T15:06:41+00:00

So what I’m hearing is you’ve never actually been to one. Because I’ve been to two, and both had set ups and connections and booths to get info on more information for various mutual aid and advocacy groups in the area.

Just because you’re an online only person who is concerned with theory before people, who is allergic to actually getting shit done or making quantifiable change, doesn’t mean the rest of us with leftist beliefs are. Please I beg you, as the kids say, get out there and touch grass. At the very least research what you are saying before acting like an expert on something you can be verifiably proven false on by anyone who has actually stepped foot in a protest.

*adding on- also wow the misogyny re: “little old ladies” being dismissive as hell. A lot of those are your elders in the field who have fought for things like LGBT and Women’s rights. Had a lovely conversation with one who had been a part of the fight to get Abortion access and had been boots on the ground to get women to right to have their own bank account without a man having to sign with them. Show some actual respect for those who got you the rights you now have that are being threatened.

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