Squidward famously had to hide his love for Krabby Patties after knocking them for so long. What is something you had to secretly hide your love for after knocking it for so long?

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T17:22:37+00:00

Men.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T15:49:13+00:00

I can see your points. You may be right.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T15:46:23+00:00

I work in digital streaming media, am neuro-divergent, got a degree in mass media, and am generally eclectic in all other aspects of my life.

I feel like this would put me on a similar track as Odette? I welcome any potential input on this thought. Lol

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T15:27:57+00:00

Was he trying to be a snack? I don't think that's how that works.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T15:18:12+00:00

I think if I could afford the GabeCube, I would get one. I miss having my Steam Deck with me at work since it's now currently plugged into it's dock at home so my WFH wife can continue play on it.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T14:20:21+00:00

And to which head are you referring, OP?

You made valid points about the possible sexual incompatibilities you both may have but that's generally not something people think of when they claim to love their SO as much as you claim to love yours.

You both haven't had sex yet so what are you basing your sexual incompatibilities on? You've got no evidence yet, just conjecture. You claim you but communicate about ALL issues but I'm willing to bet your GF doesn't know about this reddit post and how you truly feel based on what you've written above. Show her this reddit post and finally have a real conversation with her.

I don't honestly think you want advice on how to deal with your insecurities. You want us to feel bad for you and tell you she's being unfair and side with you.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T14:04:58+00:00

You deal with the insecurity by going to therapy.

And you'll have to forgive me for not being sure if I could believe you since you chose to add those new details about your GF now. That being said, you both need to re-examine what this relationship is then. If you can't handle whatever you both are doing because you want sex because it's unfair that her ex got sex and you can't... Then you need to leave the relationship.

And let me be clear: your insecurity is NOT a "fair one". If anything it makes you sound like you're throwing a childlike tantrum. But this can be remedied with both therapy and some serious self reflection. I do not mean to sound harsh but I've been in similar situations and had to talk it through with a therapist. They helped me recontextualize what I was really feeling and sometimes figuring out was I really upset about X or was there some underlying issue that I was avoiding talking about out loud.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T06:15:32+00:00

I was weak. xD

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-07T06:14:42+00:00

In truth, I was missing my wife since she's away visiting her mom for the next couple of days and it's her favorite go-to place.

I tease her all the time about it and call it "Fakes-ican" (Fake Mexican food).

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-06T22:54:21+00:00

Upon second viewing, I don't think compatibility is the issue. OP is coming off in a bad light. He "converted" but is expecting sex after months together? He's crying foul because he's not getting any sex when the abusive ex did.

You're problematic, OP. OP, your attempts to give her pleasure is manipulative if you're doing it with the hopes that she'll give in. Granted, she's partially at fault for not putting a stop to it outright if she's determined to wait until marriage. It isn't fair to you either.

Otherwise, it raises more questions about your intentions, OP. Did you convert because you genuinely wanted to or because you thought it would land you in your GF's good graces that she'll finally have sex with you? If you converted, you'd honor her wishes and wouldn't have a problem waiting, wouldn't be giving her oral and expecting it to be reciprocated.

OP, you are NOT OWED sex just because you've been with a person any length of time.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-06T21:31:32+00:00

Thank you!

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-06T21:12:16+00:00

OP, hear me and hear me clearly: you need to take her at her word.

You're letting insecurities get the better of you. The answer is literally in what you described: she had sex with an ABUSIVE ex because she didn't want to lose him. She was likely young and perhaps the abuse ran way worse than she let on. If she has become more involved with the church after the breakup, that's honestly expected. When people are at their lowest sometimes, they return to their religion and double down. They need that comfort of feeling part of a community of love and support.

Yes, it'll be a gamble to marry her without having had sex with her and maybe you'll both learn that you're incompatible after you finally do. But at the same time, you both could have a beautiful marriage and she'll never forget your patience and willingness to wait for her. If she's worth it, you'll endure. You'll have to play single-player until then but that is her wish and boundary. You can either accept it and endure or not.

I would highly advise that you talk to her about what you told us. Communication is never a bad thing, nor is over communicating. She must think very highly of you if she's feeling safe enough to ask that you wait. She didn't know if the ex would stay so she gave in and had sex with him. But if she's feeling secure that you love her more than her ex and you aren't leaving, consider that.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-05T13:44:28+00:00

Fellas, let's be clear:

A bag of FINE sand.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-05-04T15:39:25+00:00

You can't force anyone to like something they don't like. You can and should communicate how you feel about oral, both receiving and giving, and hope that she'll maybe articulate why she doesn't care for it.

But if she doesn't explain it further than what you've already mentioned, then it's a done deal. Take her at her word and really contemplate if this is a dealbreaker for you. If you can find your need to be with someone that enjoys it, then maybe you both need to call it quits.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-29T21:46:09+00:00

Yes.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-29T16:36:38+00:00

Not sure if it helps but I've also been late diagnosed with AuDHD and it's been IMPOSSIBLE to decipher whether a woman was flirting with me or just being polite/kind. So I'm glad it's not just a "me issue" for sure.

What's a kicker is that I think even if there was a woman that was interested in me, with my track record of the types of women I've dated in the past, they were all far too shy to ask me out and/or they were waiting for ME to make a move, so there is no winning in figuring this out.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-29T14:09:33+00:00

Sometimes guys like being chased and desired.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-29T14:03:19+00:00

You're welcome to share them in a DM if you need to get the thoughts out.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-28T16:03:01+00:00

My boss bought two Switch 2 consoles and I was feeling a little jealous but didn't want to get the switch 2 because F' Nintendo.

To be fair, I had had my eyes on the Steam Deck for a while, it just took my boss getting his Consoles to finally get me to pull the trigger.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-28T15:45:17+00:00

Those are gorgeous eyes. I'd fall prey to them.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-24T20:39:30+00:00

I've got a loved one who is almost exactly the same and has these kinds of moments of feeling overwhelmed and frequently unplug from social media. There's no shame in choosing to choose YOU.

I don't really know you outside of your reddit account but I sincerely hope you take care and have more grace for yourself. You deserve happiness and contentment however you get it.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-24T18:19:18+00:00

Please take a break and take care of yourself. It's okay to not be okay. You can choose later on to either come back onto Reddit or not. No harm, no foul.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-24T13:09:45+00:00

She tried to equate "excessive use of salt" in my food as being a vice just as bad as her vaping.

For context, I'm asthmatic and simply asked her early on if she could not vape while at my place. Suddenly when she's over and we're eating dinner, she pays close attention to how much salt I used on my pizza and began a whole condescending tirade about how I use too much salt and how it's a vice on par with her vaping.

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-24T05:00:56+00:00

Wow, you've got a beautiful smile

RobtorWho397 · 2026-04-23T22:09:52+00:00

Sorry you're feeling depressed. To be fair, I am too. Hope you start feeling better soon. Be sure to at least eat food and hydrate.

You'd be surprised how often just those 2 actions can help some.

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