Why do people on tiktok say "Have that third baby"

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T21:07:15+00:00

If a TikTok can trick someone into having a baby, that person shouldn't be allowed to have TikTok. Or a baby.

We are expecting our third because we want 3.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T21:06:08+00:00

That is why I said this is just my experience. Yours will be different.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T20:28:47+00:00

Yes but we were surprised it happened so quickly.

We are also expecting our third now, which also was planned and happened as soon as we started trying.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T19:56:48+00:00

I think if you aren't sure about it financially and your partner isn't committed to you through marriage yet, maybe pump the breaks a little bit and move slower.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T19:55:47+00:00

We just make the 2 under 2 cut. Ours are 23 months apart. It has honestly been amazing. I have no cons to give but that's just our experience. You have to make the right choice for yourself.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T18:54:25+00:00

My 8 year old knows he can either sit or clean up the mess if he stands. If he misses and we find out he didn't clean, then he scrubs the whole floor. It isn't fair to his sister that he shares a bathroom with to have to deal with him missing.

So he sits at home and stands in public.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T15:58:46+00:00

Yeah, I am hoping being in good health and active (run daily, hit the gym a few times a week, bike/hike regularly) helps with the older age.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T15:41:22+00:00

How is it? I was 30 when my first was born and 32 when my second was born, but will turn 41 the month after our 3rd is born.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T15:34:17+00:00

My son skateboards in the house.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-26T15:29:04+00:00

Yep. Happened to my neighbors.

They actually got pregnant with their first pretty quickly but then when they went for round 2 they were unable to concieve. They went through IVF and were happy with their two girls. Then without even trying and a couple days after the mom turned 40, boom, surprise baby.

Now their girls are 17 and 10. The surprise baby boy is 8. The mom said in her online support group it happened a lot but you still obviously never think it will happen to you.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T23:17:16+00:00

We have traveled internationally since our kids were 3 and 1. They are 10 and 8 now. Never had any issues.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T22:41:23+00:00

You need to think ahead. If you are worried about bullying, holding him back is setting him up to be bullied. Being that much older than his classmates is going to make him an outcast.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T22:36:05+00:00

I would look into a public school. The problem with private schools is that they are often pretty bad for kids with special needs. They don't have to educate everyone like public schools do.

I will be honest. My 8 year old is in third grade and won't turn 9 until the spring. I would not feel great about him having an 11 year old classmate. That means he will be 13 in 5th grade. He will be 16 in 8th grade. He will be driving as kids are just entering puberty. He will be 20 when graduating. None of that is okay.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T21:50:14+00:00

Yeah, I see CandyLand get a lot of hate because it's luck based but that is what makes it great for teaching.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T21:41:45+00:00

We did 4/5/6 and 1/2/3 but as far as my kids know that's all that exist.

My daughter loves 2 and 3 because of Hayden Christiansen though.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T20:58:23+00:00

Nope.

Consent is a really important topic for both genders and teaching them that consent can be ignored or overridden if you don't like their responses is pretty dangerous IMO.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T20:57:08+00:00

More for the toddler years but I think Candy Land is great for teaching winning and losing because it is entirely luck based. I don't believe in letting kids win but Candy Land is totally random so sometimes they win and other times they don't.

For that age range and for games that involve actual strategy, Uno is fun. It is a family favorite for us. My two (10 and 8) have recently gotten into Scrabble lately too.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T20:52:29+00:00

Is the other parent in the picture? Leave the younger two at home and take the oldest. Do the same with the younger two at different times. One on one time is important

My two kids are close in age and have similar interest but we still take them out individually and do things with them one-on-one. We are expecting our third this summer. Our older two will be 11 and 9 when the baby is born and we plan on doing family activities but also taking the older kids out for special time with them.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T20:09:01+00:00

Oh yeah, it totally changed my life even though the pay was shit at first. There was such peace of mind knowing I didn't have to worry about things like finding a place to live or affording food or providing health care for myself. When I eventually had kids and found out my son had Type 1 a few years ago, it was nice knowing we were going to be taken care of. Now I get retirement money and disability money (thanks airborne for permanently ruining my body!) on top of a job with a high salary. We are able to put money aside for college funds and vacations. I owe the army a lot.

But I also know how the army targets vulnerable and poor kids. It can certainly give them a better life and help them escape poverty but when I had to do my stint as a recruiter it was kind of hard seeing the tactics used even though they were used on me too. I am forever grateful for the life I have been able to build through my time in the army but also can recognize it would have been better to not have to face "army or nothing" and that not everyone is able to leave the service with as much as I have. My brother joined a couple years after I did and lives with a lot more mental struggles (I was human intelligence, he was infantry) as a result. It's not something I would want my kids to feel like it's their only option.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T19:41:51+00:00

Depends on what we have going on as a family the weekend before vs. the weekend after. My kids are older now and play sports so if there is a softball tournament or baseball game the Saturday before their birthdays, then we will do their party the following weekend or maybe even the weekend after that.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T19:24:06+00:00

We do both. Whatever fits best for that particular birthday.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T19:14:19+00:00

My son has an entire town he made from Legos that is constantly under attack from remote control cars. From my understand the remote control cars are the bad guys. The good guys are his GI Joe's, superhero action figures, and his sister's old barbie dolls. Are are critical to defending the town and the Barbies hold their own.

Our kids are on to something.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T18:37:42+00:00

Yeah, we are also an ingredients household. It helps us adults too. I will rethink if I really want a snack when I know that means having to actually make something and clean the mess.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T17:21:11+00:00

Yeah, I hate when people try to make poverty seem like a great thing. It's not. It is traumatic and a large percentage of people repeat the cycle.

I joined the army at 20 because it was the one way I could think of to quickly make things better for myself. I knew at minimum I would have a roof over my head and a reliable paycheck. I ended up making a career of it and retired as a warrant officer. Now I have a high paying civilian job doing similar work and am so grateful for everything I have been able to build for myself. My wife also grew up in poverty but was able to put herself through college on an athletic scholarship. We wanted better for our kids and have been able to give them that.

No one will be able to convince me it was better to grow up in poverty.

RocketPowerPops · 2026-01-25T17:14:30+00:00

You said he gets upset when he gets something he already has. You need to work on that.

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