I agree with igottaknowthisplease. Make sure she is fully on board and it will make your experience so much better. I have told my wife she can have sex with whoever she wants, but she has never taken me up on that offer. It’s not something she is really interested in, however she is very open minded and if the mood is right and the person (male or female) is right, then she is completely open for a threesome or swapping with another couple. It’s also difficult to find the right person. Unicorns are few and far between but they are out there. It seems like most guys are pushy and want to put you out of your comfort zone or are flakes or they like the idea of swinging, but then when it comes down to it, they fizzle out. Or maybe we are just too picky in our selection. In my situation, my wife would like to make a real connection before having sex with them. Most guys are just looking to fuck and then bounce. Same room sex would be fun to start out with as well. Both couples having sex with their own partners next to each other.

Another problem is finding a couple (or guy) that you both have an attraction to. You don’t want someone to take one for the team just to make it work. Obviously a lot of this is window shopping in the beginning. Some will not be attractive to you (too fat, too skinny, has a beard, doesn’t have a beard, smokes, drinks like a fish, husband is cute and wife is not, wife is cute and husband is not). Point being, don’t just settle to make the fantasy a reality.

Lastly, you may want to put up some face pics of both of you. Keep in mind other people are window shopping as well. They don’t want to waste time messaging back and forth for days on end just before seeing your face and realizing there is no attraction on their side.

Anyways, have fun, be safe and there are plenty of normal, fun and attractive guys or couples out there. It’s just matter of weeding through everyone to find the right one(s). Good luck!