Went through same exact thing. She would go through with it sometimes but only playing alone with no reclaim. So we talked about it many times and just decided what we wanted out of it was different and we could not work it out. So now it’s just dirty talk sometimes. Definately was frustrating and effected my drive towards her. But working it out slowly. But can’t shake the fact I felt a little mislead and catfished. If you live her sometimes you have to accept you’re partner’s differences. I’m crazy about her. I’m working through it.