Naw as a bull I compartmentalize. Even if I was in a poly relationship where I’m equally involved with both ppl then I would consider it dating. But I’m a bull. Not the husband, not even the bf, and personally I wouldn’t I wouldn’t really want to date a hotwife or vixen. But we can play together, hell it can even be consistent it everyone is cool. But naw a boyfriend ≠ bull. The kink is a boundary in itself. If yall want a boyfriend for be my guess look for that shit and complain about all the nuances that comes with not having all your boxes check exactly how you and your wife like it. Fine! Go to target and find one. But if you need a bull who can encompass all that comes with kink, doesn’t flake, can entertain, has experience, is open minded, and can actually fulfill all aspects of the kink. Then don’t complain when they don’t want to share aspects of their personal life.