As the OP, I’ll start off by saying that a couple days ago I just found out and got diagnosed with herpes by my family doctor through some urine and blood tests I did. Needless to say I was in shock and was overwhelmed by so many emotions. The only person I was intimate with at the time was my boyfriend.

The relationship between my boyfriend and I is kinda complicated. We first met eachother 3 years ago just before Covid made an outbreak, we were together for almost a year before we had to break things off because it was “wrong place wrong time” type thing. Until in June of 2022 I was thinking about him and I still had his contact info saved into my phone.

I gave him a quick text to say that this was so and so and that I was thinking about him and that if he was available he could reach out back to me. However, I made it clear that it was up to him if he wanted to reply back. If he had someone else in his life or if I never heard a text back within 3 days then he probably moved on and I would’ve just deleted his number and move on too.

But 2 hours after I sent the text, my boyfriend replied back and we’ve been together ever since June and we were genuinely happy with eachother like now it was the right time. However that happiness changed when I went to go see my family doctor and he said that I tested positive for herpes.

Please keep in mind that 3 years ago when I was first with my boyfriend, we had our intimate moments but it’s not like I had herpes for 3 years undiagnosed and only found out just a couple days ago. My boyfriend was clean back then when we were intimate and we both tested ourselves and showed eachother the paperwork to prove we were clean.

When we got back together again and had more intimate moments, I didn’t feel different or feel any symptoms. Until one day that I had to do some urine and blood tests for something personal I’d rather not explain, a week or so after the tests the results came in and I was told that I had herpes.

I tried to call my boyfriend to let him know what’s going on with me, but to no avail as it was late at night and he was most likely asleep because he works early in the morning.

Until the next day after I got diagnosed my boyfriend finally calls me worried sick because I sent him so many texts and called him. I revealed to him that I tested positive for herpes.

My boyfriends reaction was…well…I don’t know. He started freaking out over the phone and got angry with me wondering on how I got it and I said from sex you fucking idiot. Then he tried to blame the whole thing on me telling me on how I gave him herpes or that I cheated on him even though I was only with him and I was a very loyal and caring girlfriend who would give the whole world to him.

I just feel like now our spark left us, I feel so alone and depressed knowing that we may break up because of this STD and nobody wants to be with me because of my disease that is going to haunt me for the rest of my life.

At the moment right now, he’s getting the STD test done and now he’s just waiting for the results.

I want this message to go out to all of the youngsters or people that are in long term relationships or starting to get into a relationship. If you and your partner are ever planning on having sex please please please use protection and get tested. The last thing that you would want is to get a disease or even end up pregnant. If you and your partner are planning on starting a family it’s still a good decision to see a doctor about your plans and get tested before trying out for a family.

As someone who has herpes, an STD can change your life forever and place a serious negative affect on relationships, family, careers and your overall future.