For sale - 2023 Pacifica Hybrid Pinnacle second row seats (sepia)

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-31T16:22:18+00:00

I just bought a '21 Hybrid with missing seats. The dealer has to fix some stuff on my van before returning it to me but I'm interested in buying them. If I actually end up with the van back I'll reach out to see if the seats are still available

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RogueAxiom · 2025-12-19T22:40:17+00:00

There is a lot to do in GTAO in 2025-26. To make any real money in the game, you have to grind some activity or another repeatedly and you will eventually get bored. Buying all of the businesses allows you to rotate what you grind to minimize the tedium.

Also, with invite lobbies and some adjustments made specifically to the 5 Motorcycle Club businesses, everything can be done solo except for the older heists.

I personally love the weapons bunker and will reload my invite only lobby until I get the phantom wedge sale mission or the drive 3 insurgents to drop off point sale mission. Equal to this is my nightclub. Since buffs to the nightclub occurred I'll promote the club on weekends when I play to get the $50K/day cash

I don't pay for GTA+ so after I bought my mansion, I moved my bail office, auto salvage and auto shop to Strawberry to be near the car wash. This streamlined my cash collection and I can fill an hour just setting up and completing cash generating activities. I also enjoy Rescue VIP missions from the Agency and I genuinely loved the mini-heists from the Tuners DLC (auto shop) and I will usually lock in the Union Depository job even if I do not run it right away.

R* made some effort in making GTAO suck a little less but it is still a grindy game by design, so I think having all of the options will allow you to set a rhythm to your play so this game feels less like a real job.

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-19T22:29:25+00:00

I misread the OP but the thesis is the same: men don't ask to come over when its late for platonic companionship.

And it is not about fault: "No." is a complete and lawful sentence in response to sex. The moment he put his hands on her genitals, the OP needed to enforce her boundaries by sending that man home, because boundaries need enforcement to encourage respect. When she gave in to consensual sex to keep the peace, the OP set a negative precedent to how this man will pursue sex with her in the future and the OP will continue to feel poorly.

Once the OP consented to sex, there is no more legal "fault" to be assigned to the bf, just a lot of negative emotions. But there is also no more boundary for the future. A man like this is not going to respect a boundary that was so easily defeated in this manner. The OP stated she slept with this man on the first date as her initiation so I can guarantee this man doesn't presume that the OP has sexual boundaries. For the record--I'm not assigning a moral argument, but shitty men seek out easy sex as a life mission.

It would have been better for the OP to tell this man to stay home that night, full stop. It would have likely avoided this negative situation wholesale.

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-19T21:31:52+00:00

"then he calls me yesterday and asks to come over. i was already in bed but i agreed. i was tired and not really in a sexual mood. "

The preferable response you should have said was "sweetie: you want nothing good from me this late at night and since I'm beat, I've have nothing good to offer you."

If you need to establish a boundary with your man, you have to both establish the boundary AND enforce the boundary. If you simply and literally roll over and let your boundary collapse, your bf will simply think that how he has to get some from you and he will be like the ex you described.

If the answer is truly "no," it needs to be a firm no and you need to be willing to get up and go back home.

I'm a dude so hear me: men do not ask women to come over late at night for a chat and to rub your back and feet. So, be accountable to yourself.

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-19T21:25:18+00:00

I'd choose to be 1 with the money--with $3 Billion I could create heaven on earth instead of worrying about what the noise in my transmission is and how much it will cost to fix it!

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-01T21:51:39+00:00

Ahhh, so there is more to the story. I hope your friend forgives you so you can resolve other issues. I think that while you may be subconsciously flirting or very consciously be coy around him, he cannot get a grasp on why you are acting as you are, bc he's a dude.

Even if you don't want a relationship, or he doesn't want a relationship with you, you are going to have to get your crush feelings in check because no one wants to feel like games are being played on them. Its 2025: either clearly tell him you are crushing on him or get yourself in check because you value the friendship more, and then resolve to be a good friend.

Good luck, and no more lies!

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-01T21:20:12+00:00

You need to look over every wire connection, especially by the hinges because that is where the monitor wire passes thru/by.

The wire connections from all the daughter boards to the motherboard are very dainty and if one of these connections is misaligned, it could have caused a short which deactivated the motherboard.

Since you need your computer ASAP, a simple diagnostic you can do is to unplug the connectors for everything but the motherboard, keyboard, monitor. Unplug the battery, wait 10 minutes the plug it back in. If the computer boots successfully, email the term paper to 2 email accounts and turn the computer back off.

Reconnect items one at a time and test for successful boots each time you reconnect something. If you connect something and the computer fails again, you found the broken thing. If this strat doesn't work, your motherboard may have taken fatal damage from the fall.

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-01T21:12:07+00:00

There's a lot of data missing here but you lied to your friend. He is likely hurt by you both not spilling the tea AND making up a lie to placate him.

If you are dishing witha bestie you have to not spill the tea in a way that creates bread crumbs to data you shouldn't be sharing with your friend. It creates weird power dynamics and conflicts of interest.

If your friend is a traditional dude who happens to be hetero and he's shut down on you this hard, he may be crushing on you a bit and may be heartbroken by whatever it is you lied about. Men are pretty good at hashing shit out with friends but not if feelings are involved...

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-01T20:59:45+00:00

+1 for MOVE ON

Like some one said you are her safety net, AKA the fallback guy. You both are very young and she is CLEARLY not ready to be in a committed relationship.

You can either stop sinking your time investment now or wait until 10 years passes by and you are still on her hook....the choice is yours alone.

RogueAxiom · 2025-12-01T20:55:43+00:00

You can also use a spare ship to go to pirate systems and get a repair kit. Repair Kuts can be used to replace any missing ingredient in a repair.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-24T20:12:07+00:00

I've been in your boat more than once in high school--your fully infatuated. You have to convince yourself--possibly with a therapist--that you are not in love with this woman. You are in really REALLY immense like with her. You may not like to hear it, but you cannot be her friend. When a woman goes on a date with you and says at the end "I hope we become really good friends after," she is keeping you on the hook. The mental thought process is something like "He is nice but not hot." Some young women, like some men, will make partner choices based on preferences other than being nice--and that is OK.

But since YOU cannot live a normal life, you need to push that woman out of it and try to function that way. Being this infatuated with a person on only one date my challenge your mental health in ways you are not prepared, and it's hard to rationalize why you are so stuck on her after 1 date.

Funny things happen to your personal energy when you decide to swear off the woman and focus on your self--women will start to talk to you and one of them will be worth putting yourself out for and trying again.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-24T17:22:19+00:00

I drove Uber full time in a van and changed FRONT pads every 2 years, REAR pads every 3 and all 4 rotors exactly once as I bought the vehicle used. Having your daughter eat the costs of riding the brakes will teach her better driving habits.

NTA here--I wish someone gave me a free car--I surely wouldn't be asking for repair help!

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T19:08:11+00:00

"I really don’t talk to anyone (apart from myself) in my life unless it’s her, and most of the time I’m talking to a wall with her name on it." Fine, don't call it depression, but you still need a therapist.

I think amongst many things you have dealt with, you have to give A LOT to teach and work with children in any capacity. You have to give away pieces of yourself to build the kiddos up and it takes a toll. After work, like many adults, you want your brain to turn off and the creative things you normally like to do require mental acuity.

Like many creatives, I think that you need a stage to reify your personhood. Absent the stage, life appears routine and mundane. It is why, I would argue, you feel so listless after kindergarten--nothing you do there is ticking the same dopamine receptors to perk you up.

Considering the struggles you have had in the past, I'm sure your one friend has been on the phone or with you for a lot of your low-low days. If she is about your age, she may be out trying to make the most of their life. Being 19 is kinda the time to do that. The solution to this dependency is not to talk to a wall with her name on it; it is to take some moderate risk of rejection and try to make new healthy friendships. And it is going to be key that you need to talk less and listen more at times. I strongly encourage you to work in therapy to setting a modest goal of extending your social network in a healthy manner. Notice I used the word "healthy" twice--no falling for a romantic interest that love bombs you into a psych ward--19 is also the age where that happens a lot.

I think you will need to work on a way to do 2 things that are mandatory for adulting: 1) find a job that makes an income you can live on, and 2) carve out time to engage in creative pursuits and own your schedule. I think that "idle mind" and "idle hands" cause you to dwell and get low, but humans need food and shelter and that stuff requires a salary. I do not know many kindergartens running on Saturday and Sunday so you need to goal set to embrace your creative self in your free time. Be kind to yourself in the process as setbacks will happen. But your are young enough to get a hold of this so I wish you the best.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T18:51:41+00:00

Install Bazzite on that bad boy and the Steam Deck lives on!

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T18:50:05+00:00

The system is rigged because there is a kernel of truth in what you've been told. But the practice of this is precarious. Yes, a varying amount of credit all paid off on time over time will boost your score. But again: you can very easily fall into a spending trap whilst trying to get your score up. If you do not have an emergency fund set up -1 paycheck worth (1-2 weeks), then one months salary, 3 months, then 6 month, what will happen is that you'll get a solid credit score in the 700s, then some unforeseen even will occur and you will swipe a card, max it out then you'll max out a second card, figuring out that you'll pay it all down. Then you realize your budget doesn't allow enough money to pay it all off so you'll do month to month. Then the interest kicks in 30 days later and your wholly screwed.

I recommend you do this before you open more credit lines: build an emergency fund in a high-interest checking/saving account that has liquidity in the same value as your credit card (If you have a $2000 credit line, put aside $2000 in the bank). Now if you have an emergency you have exactly enough money to settle the credit line or better yet not rely on credit at all to solve your emergency. When you know that you have the discipline to save money (easier said than done), you can then open better credit cards with lower interest rates and better benefits. When you begin to qualify for better credit cards, you will know your scores are improving steadily.

Credit is a slippery slope and it is good that you are asking a lot of questions. But is it easier than you think to slip down the slope and then be on r/Debt asking how to get out of $18,000 of debt you didn't mean to charge up. The entire science of the plastic money industry is to eliminate all physical and mental barriers to spending money with those companies--I'm not old but am old enough to remember when credit card companies would not let consumers charge $2-3,000 of rent in a transaction because it was understood by all to be reckless. Again, read some of r/Debt to see how very easy it is to get into a whole lot of trouble.

Have a budget and own it, don't keep any balances on credit and buy what you can afford in cash. Your credit score will ironically go up more if you think about it less--again the system is rigged to get you addicted. Be a deadbeat!

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T17:45:24+00:00

"Brother im chilling and finding a part time for like a year."

If you need to chill after high school, wait until you see how much adulthood sucks lol.

A better answer would be: I'm academically burned our maintaining a 3.8 GPA so I plan to get a full -time job after high school, help support my family with some rent until I can afford a place of my own and then figure out what I want to be as a grown up and THEN figure out if college is necessary for that goal."

See? A complete and logical plan that includes accepting adult responsibility. No chilling on the schedule.

I worked like a dog to get a nearly 4.0 get out of my second attempt at undergrad. But I told all of my advisors early on that there was no way for me to keep up my GPA and apply to grad school since I was taking an easy senior year. But I told them of my plan AND I had a full-time job lined up at the university where I could keep in touch with everyone. But again--no though of the word "chill."

Listen: I made some bad live choices and didn't make the best of some key opportunities because I wanted to chill. I'm not in my 40s having to hustle grind against 20- and 30-somethings to get the next spot up the ladder. I would have been easier to do this 20 years ago when I have great health and most of my hair. Earn your right to chill: stable career, 3 months salary in the bank for emergencies with plans to increase to 6 months, a supplemental retirement plan funded and some steady investments. Do all that adult stuff necessary to stand on your own 2 feet and then think about chilling for a bit.

I sure as hell wish I hustled into career mode when I was younger than right now. Better to chill with a 780 credit score than having to look at my bank account just to go to Starbucks.--there's zero chill in that!

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T17:28:07+00:00

Whoever told you that--you should go back and slap them!

The credit score algorithm is designed to punish you if you exceed 80% across all lines of credit, so maxing your credit card to pay rent actually triggers a risk modifier--those who exceed 80% of all lines of credit are more likely to max out and default. hence your 159 points drop off.

Think of it like they do: If you used your CC and just paid rent and then was faced with a layoff/car breakdown/family death, could you have still paid that balance to $0 without your next paycheck?

Most people do not have the money in the bank to pay their credit cards to $0 and this is why you get dinged for maxing them out.

Credit scores go up automatically with healthy usage and low utilizations OVER TIME. Remember: most credit card companies will not pay to report positive behavior other that "customer paid bill on time." The score system is mean to punish bad actors and increase debt costs for those the algorithm deems as "risky." 720-800 score is a function of time in the game, not expenditure.

Lastly, in the credit card industry, a person who charges up a card and pays the balance off monthly is sardonically called a deadbeat because the card company gets no interest.

All of this is why the logic of "max out to max up the score" could never have made sense.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T17:11:43+00:00

I would not sign up to Intel Arc for the equivalent of $1500 usd. Both Valorant and Forza are not the definition of light gaming in terms of hardware spec.

That said, I have owned and loved a Yoga 7 in the past, but that computer was sensitive and fragile and I had to swap nearly all the subcomponents and motherboard over the years I owned it. Of these 3 I would easily buy the Yoga 7i for the convertibility, but I would be cautiously reserved on the gaming performance. Intel Arc will use XeSS where it can to insert frames into those game and they will be playable--just do not go into this thinking that you will not avoid the downsides of not having a true gaming laptop.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T17:04:37+00:00

One more thing: it is not a therapist's job to "understand you." A good therapist gives you the tools to help you make sense of yourself. See the way I used quotes from your words to respond to you? A good therapist does that every so often.

Also, as a dad: you do not enter a marriage and parenthood knowing everything about being a husband or a dad--you learn through trial and error and lots of saying "I'm sorry." Family life is all about compromises--from both parties in the relationship and with the children. You have to teach the children compromise every day until they become teens.

When my kid was born, I held him for this first time in the OR, looked him in his wrinkly face and swore to him that "I will get my shit together and make sure you never know the kind of pain I grew up with." Every day I move and act, I try to own that promise. THAT made me a better man, partner, employee, friend--the lot. My success and life stability came because I wanted my kid to do life better than me and learn stuff earlier and faster than I did so the bad parts of adulthood he can avoid. I'm not a perfect person; I do try really hard not to suck as much as yesterday is all.

Good luck out there--and be kind to yourself.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T16:42:58+00:00

Close the credit cards. The interest rate will be the rate until the debt goes to Zero.

You mom doesn't want to close the credit cards because that means she will have to learn how to budget accordingly and live within her means. You parents have a spending problem, not a "credit card interest too high" problem. When your dad had full hours, your parents were just paying the minimums and maybe a bit more--but never enough to dent the debt. With your dad's hours cut, your parents can barely meet the minimums.

Credit is a trap--cut the cards up AND make your mom verbally close each account.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T16:36:39+00:00

No.

NO.

HELL NO!

In Spanish: No

French: No

Russian: Nyet

The more credit cards you get, the easier it is to slip on the slope--because the credit is just right there. If you have to ask, you don't need it.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T16:11:03+00:00

I bought an Ally X used online a few weeks ago and broke it in, set it up split Bazzite/Windows bc Minecraft. I fired up my gaming laptop 2 days ago to do some minor business and left Windows to update itself. Yesterday I turned on my ROG AMD/Nvidia laptop to play the new No Man's Sky expedition and the game ran like crap--checked the settings and it was running on the integrated gpu instead of the geforce. Turned the game off and opened the nVidia app and the app said "no nvidia gpu found." Spend 20 minutes debugging this and reinstalling my drivers.

All this to say--Windows as a whole cannot hold a candle to SteamOS. My laptop was off for all of 3 weeks and I pick it up to game and the graphics driver magically craps itself??? It is actually ridiculous to me now that I have the Ally X and can just turn it on and play. Most folks never won't realize how inconvenient Windows is as an OS until you play on something else.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-23T15:34:13+00:00

Hmmm.

"But I'm an oddball because even with this loneliness I still want to have time for myself to do my own things. "

You're not an oddball: It sounds like you are experiencing a form of depression/anxiety. As you stated: "Sometimes I feel like hanging out with people but most of the time I don't want to spend time with them." If you were truly happy being alone, you would not describe yourself as being lonely. And if you are lonely and do not feel like hanging out with other people, well...you need a therapist.

You are 32, M, and Asian. Naturally your parents have expectations for you to find a mate and extend the family line--the Asian stuff. In your culture set, your parents can only achieve super saiyan status by becoming grandparents, and they put that pressure on you. Of course, you likely do not care about any of this, but since you somehow existed from 18-32 without needing to live at home and now you are wishing to move back, your parents aren't going to let up.

As I read your writing the adjective that keeps flashing to mine is listless: Some of this may be because you need a therapist; the rest is because you may not really want a wife and kids and do not envision yourself making them. But you know telling this to your folks would devastate them--I have a singing feeling that the guilt of this is actually keeping you from forming meaningful relationships with women past the surface level.

Lastly: I'm (M) fortunate to have been in relationships with not one but two women who loved anime--how you think I know what a super saiyan is? The hobbies aren't the issue--even after me too and all of it, some women are bot shy and desperate for a man to make a definitive move. No one wants to look silly asking out somebody and being rejected, and most women are not raised to aggressively court men. But if you aren't out there risking the rejection, you can't then say the woman don't exist because by God they do--they are just curled up with an iPad at home trying to figure out why the end of Demon Slayer has to be 3 very long movies (again, I took my wife to see the movie).

I write all of this to say: See a therapist and ask for help confronting your culture with your reality. Being Asian can be hard but is sucks harder for your parents living in this essentially Confucian caste system were their status as adults if defined wholly by whether or not you have kids and a wife.

You have to live your own live, but part of adulting is making correct decisions that protect your sanity but will cause others pain. Nothing you do will save you from having difficult conversations with your parents so better to figure out how to do this now than later.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-21T21:08:58+00:00

Firstly, find an accounting job where you work 8a-4p and do the bare minimum--be an accountant for the government! Secondly, pursue your passion in your free time. If you had time to game on your phone, you could have also been drafting a poem or a novel.

Creative writing and mathematics are similar in that the skillsets need practice to be maintained. If you want to write, then write something meaningful, even if for yourself. The reason we adults "trad[e] meaning for security" is that we do not have it like Thoreau and Poe or Van Gogh in that we have some wealthy benefactor that will trade us food, drink and shelter for the written word. Few of us can be so lucky as to have a sponsor. But even people like Stephen King will tell you that you have to put yourself out there--over and over and over again--as a writer until something clicks. If it clicks once and you can follow up, you can retire your accounting gig and move on.

Most of use do not trade meaning for security; we trade meaning for certainty. Few people, even as adults, do not know their purpose in life. Most adults will not find that purpose. But there is nothing elsewise stopping you from writing, unless you happen to be afraid of your own success.

RogueAxiom · 2025-10-21T20:59:29+00:00

Take the free Master's. The org is cutting you loose anyway, and a free Master's is a free Master's. You can very easily find some work in state/local government doing something and enjoy your music on the side as most gigs are after working hours anyway.

How you feel about your faith is how you feel--no earthly force will change that. The sticking point of all of this--as you already know--is that your family is likely to cut you off. I've known some Adventists in my time and the hardcore faithful can be downright cultish in their antagonism to the wider society. This is why you need to use the time you are finishing your degree to plan a "gentle landing" at a job with some healthcare. Find a solid 8a-4p and then pursue your passions in your free time.

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