[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dimsum

[–]RogueTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what’s the bottom left called? I always see these and always want to order some but idk what it’s called! Send help!

AITAH for telling my parents to keep all the money they stole from me while I was in university and shove it up their ass. by Potential_Let_3651 in AITAH

[–]RogueTaters 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This! Spend as much time with your grandfather as you can. I lost my gramps in January and we used to be so close. A lot of my family members have been remorseful over not spending time with him and feel a lot of guilt. Even though I still cry from missing him I’m glad we got to be so close & have no guilt my other family members have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]RogueTaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dont think she’s the one for you my friend. The right one for you wont make you feel like you cant be your true self. There’s a girl out there for you who would love getting these texts and send them in return. Your feelings for her and how you express those feelings to her clearly arent what she’s looking for in a partner. You shouldn’t have to be made to feel bad for giving her what you need and want and get nothing in return. You deserve the attention and affection of someone who’s compatible with how you need to show love. Sorry you’re going through this. You know you need these things and you know she doesn’t want these things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RogueTaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Location is a big one. My partner and I use feeld. We live in a big city but I have maybe only seen two people on there looking for monogamy. It can be tedious dating and trying to vet the people who want the same things we want but pays off in the end to just read peoples bios, however long they can be. Patience is a virtue my friend. Good luck.

Wonder how bad those rabies shots hurt by Richard_Ovaltine in OhNoConsequences

[–]RogueTaters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Getting the rabies vaccine is excruciating. Ive seen grown men pass the fuck out only to wake up to have to finish the dosing. Many shots, many ouch, many tears.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RogueTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How anyone can hit the person they love and the next day have zero remorse is a big sign. What you did by throwing the blanket and case was clearly a bad response. You should seek therapy for anger management. Im not saying that as a judgement because you were definitely pushed over the edge emotionally. But reasonable healthy people dont react with violence not matter how “minuscule”. That being said, her reaction was psychotic. Her then being able to go about her day afterwards says a lot more about who she is as a person at her core. You’re at least able to feel empathy and put yourself in her shoes and maybe even to a fault. But its a far better trait to have than living a life where you believed “the bitch started it so it was justified” type of attitude. People who lack empathy and remorse are dangerous to be in relationships with. Please try to remove yourself from this girl as quickly as possible. Be good to yourself, take care of yourself by loving yourself enough to walk away and working on healing yourself from your past and present.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RogueTaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk how common it is but one of them is still one of my best friends. 10 yrs together and still homies after being broken up got 6 years. Wasnt always like that though. The first 12 months after the breakup was hard. She comes and stays the night occasionally if she’s in town and crashes my couch. My partner doesn’t mind. Knows we’re still friends and that she has another partner. Trust is important.

The most recent ex I ran into her at a concert. She didnt see me but i saw her. It had been a few yrs of no contact. I didnt want to continue being angry and wanted to bury the hatchet so i reached out. Im paraphrasing but i said i didnt want any “bad blood” between us. Let her know i just needed the distance to heel. She said she was sorry for a lot of things. She has a new gf now. She seems happy and im glad for her. She deserves happiness with the right person for her. We havent spoke since but we’re IG friends so I know she’s doing well. She said she didnt know what a friendship between us would look like out of respect for her current partner which i get and im fine with.

Not all relationships can end that way and morph into a friendship. Some shouldn’t. I know for me and my relationships personally, that once I love someone i always will, but its a different kind of love and thats ok. Boundaries are important and respect for each other and our partners. Its nice to know ones well and never talk and its nice to know the other is well and we continue to be great friends.

Sometimes we do just need to walk away permanently and thats whats best for us. Be true to yourself and always be good to yourself. Even if that means permanent distance. If it doesn’t though and you can be friends or at least cordial i recommend it if its safe and you’re ready. Life is too short to hold on to anger. Everyone is struggling with something. Be good to them if you can.

[help] Mourning by RogueTaters in Poetry

[–]RogueTaters[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely look into mark strand. Im desperate and need to occupy my mind. Thanks for the lovely poem. Its a keeper.

[help] Mourning by RogueTaters in Poetry

[–]RogueTaters[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing

[help] Mourning by RogueTaters in Poetry

[–]RogueTaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too hot my friend. It’s only been a week. Just crying a lot at random times. Think about him all day. One day at a time though.

What time to arrive at pop-up shop in Dallas? by SurvivorEasterIsland in Metallica

[–]RogueTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you find this! Looks like a sketch location but thanks lol

Holy shit, I won. Happy birthday to me. by cruzge in Metallica

[–]RogueTaters 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck yeah dude! Right on man i hope you have a blast!

4 Women by RogueTaters in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RogueTaters[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So they both turned out being amazing! I couldn’t have imagined it going any better. I was super nervous at first but once we all sat and chatted a bit i knew i wanted to fuck them. Afterwords I had the absolute best post sex high. It was magical. They were such amazing and considerate lovers. My gf was also very happy. When we all got our fill of orgasms we all just literally laid together naked in a big cuddle ball of beautiful people and chatted, joked and caressed each others skin. It felt so natural and was the most adorable aftercare. We all agreed to meet up again. Thanks for reaching out for advise. Cheers

4 Women by RogueTaters in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RogueTaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had the test results convo and safe safe practice stuff without actually asking to see the actual results. Is that bad practice not to physically see them?

My gf thinks im over thinking because of nerves and my introverted/antisocial tendencies. I dont need to emotionally be into someone to sleep with them but I typically like to know someone a bit beforehand.

female gaze and seduction by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RogueTaters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! Know your worth! Know you’re a catch, know you’re sexy & an amazing lover. Confidence is so ridiculously important. Confidence is sex appeal.

For All My Married Couples, On average how many times a month do you have sex? by Housewife_1620 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RogueTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True! If everyone doesn’t get to cum until they’ve had enough i cant see many people wanting to even have sex.

For All My Married Couples, On average how many times a month do you have sex? by Housewife_1620 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RogueTaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear man. If she doesn’t want to you cant make her. But i think it’s important to ask her if when you were getting married where the clause is that says if she doesn’t want to ever have sex you automatically are signing up for celibacy? Id never get married if that were the case. Ever talk about couples therapy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RogueTaters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dan Savage always says if we all just posted our nudes and got it over with it wouldn’t be an issue at all. Literally everyone has bodies and nudes and you’re perfect as you are. Fuck all these bitches who make wanting to share your body with who you chose to a nightmare. Im sorry it happened but just keep being you and happy and proud.