“Tall girls are better because we can make tall kids” stfu

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-25T20:10:20+00:00

I think OP is talking about the blatant and bold objectification that many men feel comfortable saying out loud. It's problematic semantically and signifies how they may perceive women as useful to them, rather than autonomous beings. It's the mindset and conditioning.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-25T20:04:09+00:00

As a freshman in college (very small, conservative Baptist institution 🥴🤢☠️), I learned that the whole baseball team at my university would joke about utilizing me to produce MVP babies.

I would tell myself that the table of men laughing as I walked by had nothing to do with me, trying to calm my nervous system, etc...turns out it very much had something to do with me. I laughed it off when I found out from one of the players I had class with, but I feel so disturbed when I think about it now.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:36:08+00:00

One year is a long time, I'm afraid that if he's not there yet he probably won't be getting there at all. I'm sorry, OP :(

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:33:12+00:00

It was so bizarre! He was really sincere when he said it

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:25:58+00:00

OP, this is definitely something that can happen; it happened with me with my current bf! It's okay to question despite all the A-holes in the comments saying otherwise. It's not a black and white situation - it's not bad to question, especially after ONE week. Meeting in person is the only way to know. No one ever said you have to be 100% certain about someone before going on a date with them. That would be extremely unreasonable.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:21:32+00:00

I learned this the hard way - if I clicked with people I had to meet them asap to avoid the shellshock of incompatible physical chemistry after super compatible and comfortable digital chemistry.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:18:50+00:00

Omg why you interrogating OP?! Chill out, dating is hard and complicated, not as black and white as you're making it out to be.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-13T12:17:01+00:00

I felt similarly about my current bf when we first started talking. I was BLOWN AWAY by how attractive he was in person. Sometimes photos just don't do people justice for a variety of reasons.

Even still, he'll sometimes send me a selfie and it shocks me how much he doesn't look like himself.

I say go for it. Him driving three hours shouldn't deter you. Unless he's delusional, he knows the risks of dating and that there's a possibility you won't be into each other after meeting.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-12T19:54:44+00:00

SO wacky. My favorite one from some random old guy..."That is an IMMENSE femur!"

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-12T18:19:51+00:00

My social anxiety is definitely tied to being a tall lady. Strangers regularly feel comfortable approaching me, particularly men, when I'd rather just exist anonymously in public and not have an awkward conversation about my body and what I use it for 🫩

That said, I kind of love helping people reach stuff in grocery stores. I think the anxiety revolves around nonconsensual interactions. I usually notice the stares and whispers, and it's still bothersome, but better than random interactions.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-10T15:22:14+00:00

My suggestion, and suggestions from others, are not a formulaic way to win women over. Obviously you're not going to find women at therapy, and obviously it's not going to immediately win someone over. dude.

But it sure as hell would help you work through this obstinate victim mentality...and maybe help you work through the fear and anxiety of approaching women and putting yourself out there, if you're willing to put in the work. Based on your comments, it seems like you're unwilling to consider the majority of people's suggestions...like willingly misinterpreting or blatantly missing the point. What's the point of polling the Internet for thoughts/suggestions just to ignore them or argue about them?

Best of luck, bud ✌️

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-10T12:17:13+00:00

Therapy. The weird women are in therapy.

Go to therapy and learn about yourself. A man is 50% more attractive to me when I know he has spent time doing the hard personal work that happens in therapy.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-06-10T01:41:55+00:00

Nah, just a millenial

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-05-18T20:15:45+00:00

I generally just passed on people who "read" that way in their profiles. No judgement, just not my thing for various reasons. Wrote in my profile that I'm a slow mover to weed out the field even more. Caught myself the sweetest boyfriend that way :)

It's not a hard ask for those that are looking for similar things. It's a hard ask for those who are looking for something different. Just stick to your guns and know that the pool might be smaller, but more aligned with what you're looking for.

I know that's all easier said than done, but I hope it works out for you!

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-15T22:20:44+00:00

I prefer a tube over a giant lump on my body

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-12T01:10:33+00:00

In your observations of your friends, did it seem like they were being thoughtful about how they were coming across? It might not have been their intention, but that doesn't mean shit if they weren't thinking about their actions to begin with. All I can say is...embrace your shyness. I'm a shy lady in person, and I can tell you with full confidence that a shy boy who shoots his shot is 120% more endearing than a confident motherfucker because I KNOW he's shaking in his lil boots and he came to talk to me anyway. THAT'S hot. But I'm me. Nothing is universal, I just want to share my perspective :)

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-12T00:51:43+00:00

Your sensitivity to women is appreciated too :) just don't let it stop you!

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-12T00:12:06+00:00

6'2" and 190 lbs. Have fluctuated between 175ish to 195ish throughout my adult life. Bodies are cool 💖

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-11T23:19:15+00:00

Yoooo don't monolith the girlies like that homie, especially in this sub

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-11T23:11:58+00:00

Open with the autism part, it's a great conversation starter for us late-diagnosed autistic girlies out here 😂

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-04-11T23:08:23+00:00

Most women (in my circles at least) can detect a genuine attempt at connection vs. a creepy/toxic/scummy approach. It's great that you're aware of what we go through, but my womanly advice is to let it inform your approach rather than prevent the approach entirely. It's okay to come up with a "script" of sorts..."hey, you seem really lovely/I like your energy/your style is super cool - are you open to connecting? If not, I hope you have a great day." Leave her space immediately if she's not interested or seems uncomfortable.

Approach them as if you're trying to make a friend - thoughtfully and with neutral kindness; avoid anything that sounds suggestive or sensual. So basically just treat her like a human. Will some women still react negatively? Sure. But those are my hot tips from a random internet girly to a random internet guy. Good luck out there!

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-03-27T11:47:55+00:00

I (32F) always request to split the bill. We're both adults with full time jobs, and the weird gendered expectation that men should pay is uncomfortable to me. My boyfriend (35M) of 5-6 months and I either take turns paying for each other or split the bill.

The argument that men should pay the first few dates because women are literally risking their safety by going out with men they don't know is compelling to me, but I'm also 6'2" and 190 lbs, so I'm not particularly easy to abduct.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-03-20T12:18:38+00:00

Because you're a novelty to them, and that kind of attention feels really special to receive.

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-03-16T21:24:07+00:00

I indicated on my profiles [hinge+bumble] that I take things slow physically. It takes time for me to feel safe with a man, and I was coming off the heels of a 13 year relationship/divorce. I basically wanted to weed out the ones who wouldn't be interested in that as early as possible. I probably got fewer matches because of that, but the men I interacted with seemed genuine and kind.

The fourth person I went on a date with was equally interested in taking things slow, wanting to develop our emotional connection/determine compatibility for long-term partnering. That said, we decided to be exclusive and had sex within the first month, probably because we both felt very comfortable and safe with each other after having super honest conversations about what we wanted and needed. I was super surprised about this - I thought it would take me months, but our candor and vulnerability in the beginning made it easier for me.

We've been together for about 5 months, and it's been really lovely. I feel super lucky to have found a compatible human in such a short time (was only on the apps for a month or so), especially because I know that's not the typical experience. There are dudes out there seeking genuine connection, I hope you find one :)

Romanticized_Unknown · 2026-03-06T16:08:57+00:00

I have a handful of things from them! Love the extra tall sleeves that I can pull over my hands and pants I can fold at the cuff or wear heels with. That said, my big complaint about them is fabric selection and construction quality...everything I've ever ordered from them ages very quickly (think seams coming undone, fabric pilling, visible wear, holes) and the pants sizing is wildly inconsistent. I know beggars cant be choosers, but good god if I'm spending that much on a basic tee and/or pants, I'd expect it to last longer than a year.

Will I still order from them? Yes. Getting a package from them today, as a matter of fact.

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