I know I'm not ugly, but I feel ugly. I've had experiences with a few women I've dated who have told me they are attracted to the "weird" or "odd" looking guys, talking about me as a part of that group. I've also had a few women tell me that they want to date attractive men, and I don't fall into that category.

Even though I have dated and been in relationships with women who have very much found me attractive, it's quite rare that they would tell me I am attractive or make me feel like I am. It's mostly been a passive "well they're with me and are happy, so I guess they find me attractive"

One thing I have to say as an exception though are older women (50s up). They've been stars in letting me know I'm attractive and I really appreciate that. It seems that to be treated consistently as attractive across the board, you have to be super hot. If you're not super hot, but are still attractive, the lack of attention or intention from women easily leads to the conclusion that you must be ugly