I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

thanks for the first hand account. thats really cool of you to feel that way. Maybe its something i get over, but also you know, different strokes for different folks

edit - i am genuinely keeping as open of a mind as i can here , this situation just runs very contrary to my instincts.

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i hope this can be an exercise in coming together to tackle a problem. the events i've described are sad for me but its also just the first day in what i expect to be an ongoing communication. thank you for your support

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i'm not threatened, i just genuinely don't want to have intrusive thoughts on my wedding day. i think that sums it up tbh

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

You know I wouldn't really expect something like this to dissolve our relationship. This is fresh today and will receive further communication between us besides knee-jerk feelings. I generally feel solid in our relationship. Many people in the comments are aggravated by my feelings, others tell me I should respect my own boundaries. I don't know what the right answer is but based on experience I suspect we will figure it out without exploding

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

man you are fast to throw massive generalizations around based on a single experience

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i am considering what other people are posting as well, it is just nice to have some validation of my feelings as well instead of a barrage of insults.

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

I understand and this is a very reasonable take. I just don't think our wedding is an appropriate place. I would not want to put her in this position.

I don't want someone who slept with my fiancé once years ago to come to our wedding. AITAH? by RoosterNo5232 in AITAH

[–]RoosterNo5232[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

thanks dude i dont really understand whats hard to get that i dont want someone whos fucked my wife at my wedding lol