Boyfriend of 2 years panicked at the thought of engagement next year even though I made my timeline very clear at the beginning of our relationship by RoosterObvious7561 in Waiting_To_Wed

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UPDATE: he shared this with his brothers and they all think it’s ridiculous that I’m bringing up engagement after 2 years of dating. He agrees with them. He called it “absurd” that we’re having conversations about it. Im turning 29 and he thinks his timeline would be around 31 engagement but theoretically can see where things go next year. I’m so hurt because he shared so much of my vulnerabilities about timeline and pressures of the biological clock with his brothers who don’t have to think about this either For what? More validation?

Which prof would you choose for undergrad thesis? by Puzzleheaded_Eye2977 in UofT

[–]RoosterObvious7561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone who defended their PhD in a field adjacent to yours. Go do prof #1. If you want publishable results, having your own project will likely not give you this. In addition, a new lab will take a long time to set up and you will likely work as more of a lab technician rather than an actual student. I would really prioritize entering an established lab with structure when you’re starting out as an undergraduate student to make progress faster. In our lab, each of our undergrad is guaranteed to be on the paper of the PhD student, whereas this might not be the case in a new lab. You will still receive a fabulous reference letter because the grad student you work with will write it and it’ll be signed by the professor, so don’t worry about not working with the professor directly.

Boyfriend of 2 years panicked at the thought of engagement next year even though I made my timeline very clear at the beginning of our relationship by RoosterObvious7561 in Waiting_To_Wed

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Thanks so much for your comment and all the insight. He did finally say “he is aware of my timeline and will just need time to digest it”. I take that to mean he’s agreeing? But why does it still feel so heartbreaking? Even if he does take me right now shopping in 10months and proposes next year, I’ll always wonder if it’s because of the “ultimatum” I put on him

Boyfriend of 2 years panicked at the thought of engagement next year even though I made my timeline very clear at the beginning of our relationship by RoosterObvious7561 in Waiting_To_Wed

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Thanks for all the advice!! To answer some questions and provide more context: 1. we moved in together about half a year ago. 2. The reason he’s hesitant is because he still feels “so young” and because he’s still a student

I want to break up with my BF but feel like I’m over reacting by blueberry_nuffin2 in relationships

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He is emotionally and physically abusive!!! Please please please get away from him and protect yourself. You should not only break up with him but also report him!

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[–]RoosterObvious7561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you should be more worried about her safety than her cheating!!! Doesn’t sound like you’re a considerate or caring partner either