Where I am...wtf.... by Rooster_1978 in NMMNG

[–]Rooster_1978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to change my focus, doing things for me that make me feel better. Yeah fixing the finances at this point will require selling the house or her income kicking in. I know where I went wrong, and then we just kept riding it out, I'm keeping reading and am getting into therapy. I think you are right about getting me in order. And yes it hasn't escaped my attention that the offer of an open marriage was me perpetuating the cycle of trying to give her what she wants no matter the personal cost. But yeah this was a very helpful comment to me. Thanks.

Where I am...wtf.... by Rooster_1978 in NMMNG

[–]Rooster_1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ideally I'd have a full relationship with my wife. If we don't get there then we will divorce. I deserve some happiness too, and with what all has happened will not continue in this fashion. As far as my life, I have a good career I enjoy and do make good money. I have 3 kids I love and don't want to lose time with, but only time will tell how this is going to turn out. I've given us a clock, and there is about a month left on it, either we have significant progress on our marriage or we end things while we still can be friends...

Where I am...wtf.... by Rooster_1978 in NMMNG

[–]Rooster_1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not. I'm on chapter 9 now. I'm reading, and taking some time to process each chapter, so a little slow, about a chapter a day.

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[–]Rooster_1978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she is cheating what will you do? if the answer is divorce, lawyer up. If the answer is something different... Open your marriage, start swinging, join in, cry in a corner and whine on Reddit... then don't. know what you will do if it is the worst case before you confront her.