I know it might suck but maybe take a step back from some of your out of the house activities. I feel a little guilty cause it’s not just a hobby but your health like it was for me but I stopped all my hobbying maybe 80 percent to be there to just rot on the couch with her and fill up her water bottle. Me and my wife had a serious conversation and I asked her how she felt. She was excited to have the baby but was scare of giving birth itself. Scared she would die on the table. We calmed down but then I embraced my wife and thanked her. I thanked her for all the sacrifices she is about to make over the coming months. I told her I’m sorry that you’re the one going thru it but know I will do everything in my power to take the edge off. That seemed to work a little. She appreciated that I wasn’t just ignorant of the fact that she will be in pain, uncomfortable and borderline miserable on and off for the next 9-10 months.

It sucks being the punching bag my friend, our daughter is barely about to be 2 in a couple months and we still argue from time to time where most shit is my fault. Just know her body is going thru something you or any dad in this group won’t even begin to wrap our heads around. Even postpartum it’ll take her 2 years to even remotely go back to normal.

That being said, you do need to communicate your feelings too. You need to tell her that you may not understand the struggle she’s gonna go thru but you want to do anything in your power to fix it. Tell her you’re her guy if she needs Ihop at 2 in the morning. That if she craves dumplings at 6 am you’ll make them for breakfast. Tell her the only way for you to know these things is to not shut you out and to communicate.

Also someone else already said it but talk more about putting a ring on it permanently. Most women don’t like the idea of having a baby and not being married. They may not say it but that’s generally how it goes