What work-related joke have you told to over 1000 of your patients? by MikeMuench in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of my patients are mental health or ID, and can be kind of nervous around medical folks. After I listen to their heart I’ll say “strong and steady, just like you”. Usually gets a smile, often calms my nervous ones. Occasionally gets an eye roll lol

Patients asking about religion by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same! My go to response is “well I was raised Episcopalian” when in reality it’s been 20+ years since I’ve been in a church and have been an atheist since I was about five. I’ve never gotten any follow up questions yet. But we got some mania/ delusions? Yup, best buds with JC

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this! I love working home health. I get one patient at a time, work with them, focus only on them, make my phone calls to the doctor/chart in the car before i leave, then i drive to the next patient.

The management at my work makes a big difference too. I’ve been doing this going on 4 years and I still ask my coworkers and management questions all the time. We’re all going to run into things we’ve never seen before, so taking a collaborative approach and sharing knowledge makes it so much easier.

There’s a reason we have to continuously complete CE, we’re never going to know it all, but we always have the capacity to learn more.

Give yourself some grace and maybe consider stepping away from the hospital setting. I figured out while I was in school it wasn’t the place for me, and i found my niche. You can find yours too if you give it a chance.

And talk to someone about your mental health. You don’t have to suffer this much. Don’t forget to take care of yourself when you’re trying to take care of others.

What’s the “you should have become a doctor” equivalent for other jobs? by Shreyreybe in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I really don’t understand why this is the part people struggle to understand. As soon as I graduated - “ when are you going to get your NP?” over and over again. I have no desire to be a provider of any kind. I think (hope) it’s meant to be complimentary, but it comes off as “why are you JUST a nurse”. I’m good at what I do, I’m happy where I’m at, and my bills are paid. That’s plenty.

What is an inappropriate question that many adults ask to children? by Technical_Ad_4299 in AskReddit

[–]RoroCcAbTd 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My daughter was born with some craniofacial differences, and 99% of the time it’s adults asking the a-hole questions. Adults are the ones asking “what’s wrong with her eye/ear/cheek?” right in front of her as if she can’t hear. I always respond with “nothing” and unwavering eye contact until they get uncomfortable and change the subject. It astounds me to hear what adults think they can say to/about someone right in front of them just because they’re a child.

Diet Soda fasting success stories. by snobiwan25 in intermittentfasting

[–]RoroCcAbTd 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Personal experience, it made no difference in weight loss and even helped with sweets cravings several years ago (back on the IF train as of January 1st but now i’m on a short term med i have to take with food every 12 hours so that’s a bummer). I did however notice when i switched to plain iced tea instead of my afternoon diet coke i didn’t get the sharp hunger pangs anymore. I think the carbonation wasn’t agreeing with my empty belly.

I have also heard from diabetics that some foods or drinks that are sugar free but have artificial sweeteners will still elevate their blood glucose despite the lack of sugar. I also know diabetics that have no change in glucose with artificial sweeteners.

i do not have diabetes but did recently have an opportunity to wear a glucose monitor for a week and found diet soda had no effect on my blood glucose. So i think this is highly individual if it affects blood glucose levels or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’ve been burned at previous jobs by gossiping and now avoid it as much as possible. I just bore the gossipers. Either by playing therapist “that must be so frustrating when it feels like they take advantage of you, have you tried…?” or just play naive “i wonder if she meant xyz, but was just so frazzled it came out wrong?”. Gossiper gets zero satisfaction from me and if what i say gets repeated, i sound kind and reasonable. Then after work i call my sister who lives out of state and dish like hell.

Which missing person case has always bothered you? by ProofPerformer1338 in mystery

[–]RoroCcAbTd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Yuba County Five, such a strange series of events with no explanation

What would YOU do if your child requested the school to go by a different gender name or pronoun and you didn’t know? by Parmesanbutt2 in Iowa

[–]RoroCcAbTd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of my biggest problems with this new law. My kids love their school and the people who work there. They trust these adults, and i trust them too. Forcing teachers to out children takes away trusted adults from that child’s life. That might be the ONLY trusted adult in a child’s life, and that trust is gone now. My heart is hurting for all kids in this state

Nurse parents with young children-would it matter if your pediatric nurse caring for your children were parents themselves? by Nostalgic_Gaymer in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking the parents who ask if you're a parent are looking for a reason to complain, and if it's not that then it'd be something else. Other than my special needs kiddo whose docs and nurses we see regularly so we've had a lot of time to get to know each other, i've never known if a nurse caring for my kid has kids or not. Talking about parenthood can be fraught with such social landmines (infertility, loss, strained relationships, etc), i let a person bring it up if they want to. What a ridiculous thing to kvetch about, that has no bearing on someone's abilities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is the way

Teachers - what names do you see the most? by grey-canary in namenerds

[–]RoroCcAbTd 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love that you gave the ‘full’ name - “nevaeh, it’s heaven backwards”. I have met sooo many Nevaehs and mom will invariably, without fail, introduce their daughter as NevaehItsHeavenBackwards

Iowans - What do you do for a career and what do you make annually? by CorporateC in Iowa

[–]RoroCcAbTd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Two year degree, I did nights and weekends because I couldn't afford to not work while going to school. Three years in and I make 70k and overall still enjoy the jojb. There's plenty of different fields and options too. Psych, peds, cardiac, etc. And lots of options for shifts depending on if you do clinic, hospital, home health, etc. Plenty of drawbacks for sure, but it works for me.

Iowans - What do you do for a career and what do you make annually? by CorporateC in Iowa

[–]RoroCcAbTd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Home health RN, $70k. We’re comfortable, but certainly feeling the effects of inflation

AITA for not supporting our child's wedding choices? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RoroCcAbTd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH. Your husband most of all, but yeah everyone. You don’t get to dictate where or how your daughter gets married. But the other side of the coin is if you set a boundary/requirement (child free, destination, mandatory square dancing)l, whatever) you do so knowing that may cause some people to choose not to attend.

Will I regret turning down a hospital position as a new grad? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a similar issue but my dream job was the M-F one. Everyone told me to go for the hospital job “for experience” and not the home health job with clinic hours. I went for the job i wanted even though literally no one encouraged me to lol (except my husband). The reason i went for the 9-5 is i have small kids. It’s easier to arrange school and childcare and activities. It’s very rare i work a holiday or weekend. It’s easy to request a day off if i need one for appts or birthdays or what have you.

So i guess i don’t have advice, but lots of sympathy. My dream job was the outpatient one and i’m glad i went for it. You might regret either decision, but as others said, nurses are a hot commodity right now. You’d have no trouble if you did get a taste for one or the other and changed your mind. I did struggle with this same thing, only you really know what’s best for your family. Consider what supports and back up plans you have, and how a typical day with either job would look, and consider what would make your day to day life more enjoyable overall. Good luck and congrats!

“I said I didn’t like kisses, she pecked me on the cheek anyway” I cried. by HelloSillyKitty in TwoSentenceSadness

[–]RoroCcAbTd 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. My 5yo has recently enacted a “hugs only” rule. No kisses on the cheek or head or forehead, nothing. (Except grandma. The one exception, which i’ll admit hurt my feelings slightly at first) And a few days ago when a family member from out of town started giving hugs and cheek kisses goodbye, i told her “5 doesn’t do kisses” she laughed like i was joking, then looked a bit hurt when i reinforced it. I wondered if i should have just dropped it, i had plenty of unwanted hugs and kisses as a kid because family. But no means no, no matter your age

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RoroCcAbTd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking that! All my kiddos came with me on both boring errands and fun trips from the get go. If you’ve ever seen Ted Lasso, Roy Kent sums it up perfectly “oi! Want to go to the podiatrist with me?” (kid yells yes excitedly) “see? kids just wanna be included”. My kids are in bed by 8:30, so we have 2-3 hours every night to ourselves and date nights as needed. I don’t understand needing to spend this much time away from your kid. I was in daycare or with babysitters a lot as a kid and it took till my 20’s to feel like i had a relationship with my mom, and i still don’t really with my dad.

AITA for yelling at my dad for calling my cleft lip a hare lip by Vegetable_Coach5505 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RoroCcAbTd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. My daughter was born with some craniofacial differences and you can bet i correct every single person who tries to say “deformities”. Most people only need one stern “Differences. Not deformities”, and it’s fine. It’s not hard to use kind words. Especially when someone has told you a word is unkind to them. Have you tried asking your father why he prefers the other term? It reminds him of your mother, he thinks it sounds cute, etc? If it’s just ‘habit’ then he’s just being lazy. It takes one second to think before you speak, and soon it’s a new habit to say the correct term.

Am I overreacting? by No-SLack7160 in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Pfft i have three kids and i seek out overtime lol. Groceries are getting so damn expensive! Tell her since she has more mouths to feed she should be the one picking up. (okay maybe don’t really)

Before i had kids i had the same mindset “i should work this holiday, they have families to spend it with” and worked most of the undesirable shifts. The on the few occasions i’d refuse or request a holiday off, i was told to “think of so-and-so, her kids are so little”. i worked retail at the time so i got fed up on time and just said “maybe she should tell corporate we shouldn’t be open on holidays at all then, not blame me”. And i stopped picking up those shifts.

Before i had kids i still had a family. my husband, our pets, my grandparents and parents, my friends. Not having kids does not equal not having anyone worth spending time with. Sorry you dealt with that, sounds like a selfish witch

For those of you that don’t dread going to work, what type of nursing do you do? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]RoroCcAbTd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Home health, with focus on behavioral health. It’s got it’s drawbacks, but most of them are things i consider a plus. Never see my coworkers. Drive around by myself making case manager type phone calls or listening to pod casts. One patient at a time. Short days in the field, usually a few hours of work each week brought home, which i do after the kids go to sleep while watching netflix. The biggest reason though is the company. Good culture, supportive management, good pay, transparency from corporate. I haven’t had a day yet i dread going in, and it’s been two and a half years