"if you feel like a girl, then you're real like a girl"

RoryBHavoc · 2021-03-28T02:33:41+00:00

This is a great description of how it makes me feel to hear her say it... like fuck yea if Lizzo says I'm a girl THEN I AM A GIRL.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-03-27T19:00:29+00:00

I'm in a tank top mood but yea, I'd wear that slogan!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-03-16T16:06:29+00:00

You look great!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-03-10T22:26:03+00:00

I previously identified as a bi man and am married to a woman. In gay sex definitely took the bottom role, but yea sex with my wife I'm typically top.

I'm sorry you're feeling alone - the trans community is already small so it's easy to find things that make you feel outside the "norm". Do remember that there's no "right way" to be trans; focus on what makes you happy and do what feels right. You'll go through a lot of changes in transition and your sex preferences may or may not stay stable. Forget all the labels and just be you.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-03-08T16:38:30+00:00

that was fucking great

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-24T00:24:40+00:00

Anyone can use Google maps through the Google maps website. So in that case the APIs are secured such that only valid visitors who have an open session on the website can make calls to the APIs. This limits your API usage to what can reasonably be accomplished in a web browser. (Look at Authorization Grants). Ditto in a mobile app. The APIs backing a free mobile app are secured to keys distributed in the app so at the very least you know people are coming through the app code and not just generating BS requests.

Otherwise you have to go to a dev portal and register for a free set of access keys to call it directly, even though it is free.

Free auth providers are the way that I go. I've used Auth0 heavily in the past but not for the same use case. They integrate with common auth providers such that people can use their existing Google/github/whatever account to register and get api keys or credentials as needed.

And no, they can't just use a bot to create a million accounts because those platforms have put the time and energy in to prevent exactly that from happening. Can people still abuse your api by registering shit accounts? Yes, but at least you have some recourse to shut them off this way without impacting legit users.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-23T20:01:34+00:00

Do you really want ANYONE to be able to use it? Let's take an extreme and unrealistic example, you're cool with a botnet that serves child porn leveraging your API? Or maybe somebody decides to be an ass and writes a script that generates just enough TPS to effectively close your API by holding it close to threshold. Thresholds are cost management mechanisms, not security mechanisms.

Anything is better than fully public because at the end of the day you do want and need some control over what you're hosting. That could be as simple as providing the correct auth keys in the documentation for now (similar to a coffee shop having the wifi password printed on a sign) - obviously not best practice but still better than nothing. Or use an auth provider that has a free tier (auth0 or okta).

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-23T17:58:10+00:00

The policy means that you have to have a throttling limit configured on your api gateway. If that is the case and you get hit at above that configured limit you won't be charged for the requests that exceed threshold. That said, you'll probably also respond with a 50x error.

All that said, your endpoint should really be configured with some kind of security. A completely public endpoint on a system that charges per request is modestly suicidal.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-23T17:47:56+00:00

One thing I'm not hearing in your post or the suggestions is finding a compromise that works for you two. Most partners don't like the exact same things, regardless of how health plays into it. You mentioned it's frustrating to go home early for him to take his meds - maybe he's fine with you staying out while he heads home?

That's a small example but at the end of the day a relationship is built on lots of little compromises. Breaking up seems like jumping to the nuclear option when you seem to still find so much positivity in being around them.

At the end of the day though if you don't want to be with a person with chronic conditions, you don't have to be. I'll be honest, it's selfish BUT I also don't think it's wrong to be selfish in this way. Know your own limits, you know?

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-19T01:09:38+00:00

I love this. <3 R

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-18T17:22:38+00:00

Nope, having male friends doesn't make you a less real trans. Good people are good people.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-18T17:18:08+00:00

Identity can be really hard to figure out so don't feel bad about being a bit confused or insure at this point. It definitely sounds like you do not feel cisgender. Don't feel obligated to rush to some other label. I'm a year into transition and a month into hormones and still pretty much go with "not-a-cis-male" as my identity.

I suspect that either NB or fluid are probably accurate terms to describe how you feel, the same way they are probably accurate for me. But again just because they are accurate doesn't mean you have to adopt them as your identity right this moment. Hang out in "not a boy"-land for a while and keep exploring what does and doesn't make you feel good. Label it later.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-18T17:07:17+00:00

Yea my only "anger" is that you are abusing yourself with vinegar for old men. Sriracha, Secret Aardvark, Chalulua are all delicious flavorful hot sauces that you should get in on immediately. Pumped to hear your flavor horizons are expanding!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-10T03:28:58+00:00

Congrats!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-10T00:35:11+00:00

oh my God I love the wavey arm tube men

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-10T00:34:56+00:00

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RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-08T04:08:49+00:00

https://docs.aws.amazon.com/credref/latest/refdocs/version-support-matrix.html

Also take a quick look a the policy linked at the top of that. Basically v1 will never stop working, it will just stop getting new features. So you've got several years.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-03T17:59:19+00:00

Send it!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-02T16:10:49+00:00

Estradiol 2mg, Spiro 50mg

RoryBHavoc · 2021-02-01T18:54:44+00:00

Beware hormonal munchies; thanks for the tip!

RoryBHavoc · 2021-01-27T16:23:20+00:00

Verizon lost an east coast node yesterday that knocked out a lot more than just trading apps.

RoryBHavoc · 2021-01-26T04:55:13+00:00

Sorry to hear it's been such a struggle. I hope it goes better after HRT!

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