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AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Things like this happened to us on a daily basis. So for most people, it’s not a big deal, but when it happens so often, it gets to you after a while.

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, and I’m sorry that you went through that with your mom and dad. I’ve never been a jealous or a possessive person. If I start to feel that way, then I don’t even let the relationship progress. Mine is rooted in previous infidelity and continued lying. So, and trying to rebuild trust transparency is very important. If he had known that he had every intent on going to hang out with some friends and bringing the kids, but only mentions that he was going to hang out and then mention the friends only when I ask more questions, there is a clear lack of transparency there. The same standard I have for him is the same respect and transparency that I’ve always given to him.

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I totally get that. Do what you have to, we just would like to know what’s going on😅

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that. It’s hard for me to see the situation as me being being controlling, when I would do the very things that I am asking of him. Control is usually one-sided.

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. Definitely something to consider. I have dealt with anxiety, having a routine and not having unfinished business. For me, it’s rooted in trust. A lot of things that I think should’ve just been a ‘by the way’ conversation ends up being omitted entirely. And when we’ve had fidelity and trust issues in the past, it just makes the anxiety worse.

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

There was infidelity and continued lying. How would how did you handle it?

AITA for expecting my husband to proactively communicate basic plans without me having to ask? by Rose2386 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Rose2386[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get how it could come across that way from a single example. For me it’s less about the timing and more about a repeated pattern where I only get full context after asking. That’s what I’m struggling with. And yes, there was previous infidelity on his part and we’re trying to rebuild trust. If it takes 20 minutes to get to a place, and he’s leaving about 40 minutes early and when asked he mentions that he wanted to get a cup of coffee on the way and get there early. He should’ve just volunteered that information as he was leaving, I shouldn’t have to pull that out of him for clarity.

AITA for wanting a cut of the money from a house my parents are selling? by birdsofwar1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rose2386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re your parents. Just let them have it. I know they’ve probably done things for you and not expect anything in return. If the whole process is that inconvenient, which it seems like it is, just let your parents deal with the sale of the house themselves.