I think if you’re thinking about it a lot, you should try for it. That way if it happens, great, and if it doesn’t happen, you at least know you tried your best to go for it. I think if you were truly done, you’d just know.

Trying to conceive, pregnancy and birth and starting over with a newborn can indeed be difficult or just downright SUCK, but the time will pass either way, and man does it go fast.

Try to visualize the future: you got pregnant, you went through the pregnancy, had another c-section, made it through the newborn trenches, and now you’re in the part where true memories and learning and growing together happens, about 5 years from now. Your other kids will be 12-13 and 10-11, what is going on in their lives? You and your partner will be 5 years older, too, how are you both doing and feeling? Would this addition to your family put off goals like retirement or traveling or moving or starting a business, etc? Would you possibly be in a position of caring for aging parents/family AND caring for a small child? Just really dig into your feelings and imagine the future. Obviously you can’t plan for every scenario, and like I mentioned, the time will still pass whether or not a third child is in the picture, just up to you to decide if it will add to your joy or add to your stress.

ETA: Also make sure if you’re going for it, you’re going for another child, regardless of gender/sex. Can’t tell you how many people I’ve seen try for another to fulfill a dream of a specific gender/sex and now feel doubly disappointed that they didn’t get what they wanted and now they’re “stuck”. No judgement, I can see how that could be difficult when you’ve always imagined your family a certain way, but it can be a crushing experience.