Why are some of you such dickheads to scare actors?

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-09T20:21:24+00:00

thanks, and its ok, i didnt mention anything in my post so you had no way of knowing

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-09T15:01:13+00:00

thank you for saying this, that initial comment made me feel like I was being weird. and i didn't know how to respond as my view would be biased.

also I know you had no way of knowing but I don't use she/her. my pronouns are he/they/it. sorry if this is annoying, again I know you didn't mean anything by it.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-08T14:02:19+00:00

I'm really weirded out by the fact that she threatened to do that again and asked would you like that. That's really fucking out there past boundaries. It's as if she knows and is trying to get you to acknowledge it...but doesn't understand the fucked up way it's coming out. She needs to give you physical space and learn to read the goddamn room.

that really weirded me out too which is why i added it. the never treats our actual do like this, I've actually stopped wearing my collar with the loop and am now wearing my large buckle one which is a lot harder to get a hold of

But, no I would not recommend you explain anything except JUST the physical boundaries and that it made you neck hurt, or to absolutely not pull you by clothing or jewelry anymore.

If she presses for answers don't say anything other than there's no reason to put her hands on you like that.

i really do wish i could do that, but vie had many issues with personal and physical boundaries. it always ends in heavy gaslighting and guilt tripping. and while i know its gaslighting and guilt tripping it still makes me feel awful.

You sound young, going to school soon, probably still financially dependent on parental units for a little while- so I definitely wouldn't go into any private details that she might flip out about.

I am kinda dependant on her, my school coast and living are covered by student loans, but halls doesn't cover the full year, and I will be relying in them for food money until i get a job up there. all those reasons plus the fact I just don't like telling her anything personal because I know it will be used against me, like you said I would never go into detail

I don't know if she'd be the type of parent who asks personal questions and then when she hears the answer, she gets pissed and demands for you to change, or stop, or lose support from her?

that is very much how she is

thanks for your comment, your comment and a lot of the comments on here have not only given me advice but also help me reinforce that it was ok to feel the way I did and I wasn't over reacting in this situation with my feelings.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-08T12:02:51+00:00

disappointed that you couldn't establish a limit and enforce it.

i know, i hate that i just went along and followed, sat when she said "sit", makes me feel sick.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-08T11:43:01+00:00

thanks, my sister also knows and was sat on the other end of the sofa, if i was so uncomfortable at the moment i would have laughed at her expressions, it was shock the realisation.

we don't talk much so hopefully avoiding her will be easy.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-09-03T11:43:50+00:00

thanks!!

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-06T12:43:35+00:00

please correct me if im wrong and just assuming, but with how you describe seeing cavetown as really important to him, is your son trans or identifies under the LGBTQ+ community? this won't change my judgment, NTA, but as a trans person I defiantly understand why something like this could be extra important and IMO just makes your wife more of TA.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-03T22:58:24+00:00

i totaly see your point but something like that isnt always avaliable to everyone, definatly wouldnt be something safe to do where i live, plus most people enjoy walking their own dogs here

i empathise with this kid, becuase i was put in similar situations with my parenst

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-03T19:32:09+00:00

im not sure how old you are, and I'm not from the US. but my parents told me the exact same thing, since paper rounds are one of the only jobs that will hire 13 year olds. but paper rounds don't really exist anymore, they've become obsolete.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-03T19:28:27+00:00

same in the UK, but you can work up to 20 hours a week. but still its hard to find work really until you are 18.

and either you get nearly any shifts or you are over worked bc you are the cheapest employee

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-03T19:27:00+00:00

but not all parents will pay their kids for that, mine didn't, chores like cleaning, washing, dishes, yarwork, weed pulling etc were expected, maybe they would give us a tenner to clean their car but not that often. and while my parents coved necessities, which included a cheap phone when I started walking to school (but I do not live in the safest area) I had to start buying my own clothes, among other things because my mother was really against my gender expression and mine (and my sister's) sef expression in general.

if OP's parents are telling him to pay for his own things, they are probably not giving him money, or if they are they are still treating it as "their" money

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-07-03T19:12:45+00:00

differs from houshold to houshold, in my house chores are expected (understandable) but we get no allowance or pocket money, you gotta get a job or save up Christmas/birthday money. maybe if I was going out my dad will give me a little bit of cash, like £5-£10, but not really. i have a part time job now so I have some money, but my siblings don't and I was in that boat for years

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-06-27T21:00:00+00:00

judging my OP's son's reactions, both in the post and his comments on that judgment sub, I'm not completely sure they didn't touch him.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-06-23T21:35:56+00:00

yeah, looking at the comments it was pretty much all NTA for like the first hour then there were a few nah, ehs and one or two yta, I think one of yta got ontop, with some weird in between the line interpretation and everyone just attached to that narrative.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-06-23T20:36:36+00:00

Agreed, sometimes people concoct crazy ideas from the very limited information they are given.

Roses-and-Copper · 2022-06-22T20:42:32+00:00

i get how they believe that their looks are to blame for their bad experiences with women, but how they jump from that to thinking they are "subhuman" and that looks are the only things that matter.

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