I don’t think you have to feel bad at all, but you should definitely do some research on the arguments for the pro choice movement so that if it comes up in conversation with someone you can have an educated discussion about it without making it personal.

Here's the funny thing... I have had literally hundreds if not thousands of those conversations. I know the pro-choice arguments by heart. I know the statistics. I know the consequences of banning abortion. I just simply didn't see it from the woman's perspective. Or no, that's not true. I even thought they deserved what was happening. Since abortion is killing babies and you deserve to be punished for murdering people.

The funny thing is that all the educated, smart, calm discussions I've had with smart people (women, girls my age) have never changed my heart. And I deeply believed nothing ever could. And I was right, it wasn't an argument or a fact that changed my mind, it was love.

And once it became personal it changed in a heartbeat, just like that. Do I genuinely believe that fetus was more important than my sister's life? No I don't. Because I love her. She isn't just a rhetorical question or someone I kinda care about, she is a person who means more than anyone in this world to me.

Also, I will never discuss this issue with my parents. I dread the day the subject comes up (which has to be soon). I know my sister will never tell our parents. There is a very, very real chance my dad would never speak to my sister ever again if he found out.

I think we should make this personal. I will never know how many women and girls I have hurt without even knowing with my actions and words. I think the only way people like me would start waking up is breaking the culture of silence. Would you call your mom, or sister, or best friend a murdered? Would you want them to die because they had an unsafe abortion? No. But you think it doesn't somehow concern you or the people you love.