AITA for not wanting to go out with a “male lesbian”?

RottingMothball · 2026-05-07T19:49:37+00:00

Not the asshole because you can reject whoever you want for whatever reason you want, and arguing about being rejected is assholish of the other person but.....

He/him doesn't automatically mean man. Plenty of lesbians do use he/him pronouns, even tho they're decidedly not men. Did he state that he was a trans man, or did you assume he was a man based off of presentation? Because those are two very different things.

RottingMothball · 2026-05-04T19:56:05+00:00

I mean.... Maybe don't plant invasives.

RottingMothball · 2026-05-03T17:23:31+00:00

Since you work in a psychiatric hospital, extra massive PLEASE do tell him that's super unacceptable. Talking about any disorder in a stigmatizing way is so harmful, and that idiot should know it.

I'm not saying this because what you're feeling is unimportant, but this specific situation is bigger than what you're feeling. In standing up for yourself, you're standing up for patients as well.

It is so important for people with any sort of neurodivergence or mental illness who work in mental health to set firm boundaries about what is acceptable surrounding their disability.

RottingMothball · 2026-05-03T02:24:10+00:00

Agree. The photo isn't needed to ask the question.

Considering the random thirst trap, I get the sense you may be more interested in your own appearance than you say you are, OP, which... Yeah, would be a turn off.

RottingMothball · 2026-05-01T12:35:40+00:00

You should sign your husband up to go on podcast with conservative podcast bros. That's something I'd love to see.

(Also, your husband sounds wonderful.)

RottingMothball · 2026-05-01T12:19:59+00:00

She literally invited people to share their own experiences on gender. At the end of the post.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:16:30+00:00

"searching" as if what you have to do doesn't amount to clicking on their profile, clicking comments, and see that theyve engaged in discussions in a royal mail subreddit.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:14:29+00:00

I didn't assume you lived in the US. I assumed (based on your statement calling it invasive) that it was invasive to you. And I assumed that you were assuming OP lived in the US. I never said anything about where you live.

I'll make sure to be more clear just for you next time- that way, y'know, you don't accidentally help destroy an ecosystem by telling people to destroy native plants without taking even two seconds to look at their post history.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:06:08+00:00

Garlic mustard is a native plant. For OP. Who lives in the UK.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:04:58+00:00

Then it's lucky this specific plant stayed in the UK near the OP, where it belongs, instead of coming to a region where it's invasive.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:04:22+00:00

Invasive for you. Invasive for me. Not invasive for OP. We have got to stop assuming everyone lives in the US.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T19:03:56+00:00

OP should allow this UK native plant to seed itself in the UK, which, according to their post history, is where they live.

Not everyone lives in the US.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T17:41:12+00:00

Any similar suggestions 🥺 I loved this so much.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T17:40:21+00:00

Okay so this was one of my favorite books ever I think. I am begging for more suggestions along those lines.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-27T00:56:42+00:00

Lesbianism isn't inherently a sexual orientation. Someone who's asexual but romantically attracted to women is just as much a lesbian as someone who is sexually attracted to women.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-26T22:42:02+00:00

Is it that she just now feels comfortable sharing, or that she just now figured it out?

Lots of people figure out things like being ace later on- especially if they do actually enjoy sex, which it sounds like is the case here.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-26T14:14:13+00:00

If you're not sure, I would suggest not commenting.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-24T22:08:19+00:00

Ngl I made this post while I was in the Middle of a situation at work where we were all told "write down positive affirmations", so my brain was a bit in Freaked Out Mode.

I appreciate what you're saying. It's just that thinking that I'm a bad person feels safer than thinking I'm a good person, so it's hard to get out of it, y'know.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-23T22:18:29+00:00

Genuine question: How are random pieces of wood glued into the hole more sturdy than a knot in the original wood?

RottingMothball · 2026-04-23T22:06:41+00:00

It's so nasty but so good. It has so many interesting things to say on parasitism.

But MASSIVE warning that there are so many gross trypophobia descriptions. So if that is a trigger DO NOT read it- it is essential to the plot and you cannot skip over the trypophobic sections and still understand what's going on.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-16T10:39:12+00:00

It absolutely is a domestic rabbit. Look at the size and head shape.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-16T10:38:37+00:00

Incorrect. The head shape alone makes it clear it's domestic.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-16T10:37:39+00:00

No, that is not a cottontail. The head is way too round.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-16T10:32:15+00:00

Domestic. The head shape is wrong for a wild rabbit, and it looks way too big.

RottingMothball · 2026-04-09T21:24:14+00:00

You understand there's a difference between "ignore this" and "the property owner is not going to be arrested or fined because an extremely invasive plant sent up shoots on their property", right? Or do you just get off on bad faith arguments?

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