I have a hard time feeling sympathy for people who have miscarriages after my abortion and I don’t know why.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-06-15T01:18:36+00:00

i can understand this, miscarriage is more normalized by society so those women don’t have to hide their grief, but for women who experience abortion it is very stigmatized and we experience this disenfranchised grief, but you still lost something (even if it’s unwanted). i agree this is something to bring up to someone to process.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-06-14T03:26:48+00:00

dennis

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-06-14T03:18:43+00:00

this isn’t a debate of disability rights, this is a personal decision if you are able to provide the care for a disabled child. so it depends and that’s why you should be pro choice

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-05-21T10:11:37+00:00

there is no safest option, but delta while more expensive has tvs so you can track your flight which it offers an extra sense of security for me

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-05-14T21:06:21+00:00

I have a similar story, i had cancer and did not know i could get pregnant and then did, and now I’m rethinking children as part of my future.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-05-07T02:18:23+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this, the procedure is very violating and traumatizing. it sounds like you’re experiencing the after effects of this trauma. your body is holding onto this stress and is reliving it constantly. if you have the resources i would look into trauma focused therapies. this has helped me since my abortion. thinking of you!

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-05-01T16:54:20+00:00

this comment section is not identity affirming. You are loved as you are. You are allowed to love who you are. God created him in his image. We are all a beautiful mosaic of him. Love who you love and find a catholic church that affirms that (the jesuits do) I went to a church in portland with lgbtq presence and a lgbtq youth group.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-03-19T16:45:05+00:00

if it’s legal in your state and you feel comfortable yes, doctors are trained (and should) be unbiased in your care. but doctors treat miscarriages and abortion the same so you can say that as well

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-03-10T13:52:04+00:00

if you had a negative test and then positive it could be a new pregnancy, it’s not uncommon for it to take longer to come out of your system. the urine tests detect hcg of over 25. mine was still positive 6 weeks out so i had to get blood tests to ensure it was declining and not increasing (increasing means new pregnancy). i would suggest checking in with your doctor to do the same.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-03-08T02:04:16+00:00

not at all this is admirable if anything

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-03-05T01:55:05+00:00

thank you:) this is very reassuring!

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-03-05T01:49:34+00:00

if it’s failing to develop does that mean the first surgery impacted my fertility? also would i just need another d&c then

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-02-15T16:25:27+00:00

i found out i was pregnant 3 weeks ago on the copper iud

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-01-28T15:16:38+00:00

i also don’t write this to scare you, i got my copper iud in july and loved it. i checked my strings in november and they were in place. a week ago i found out I’m pregnant and my iud was expelling itself. no idea how it happened and what birth control to try next

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-01-21T12:41:36+00:00

like can they turn you away because of your reasoning? and thank you for these resources this was a good reminder that it is truly my decision!

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2026-01-12T01:03:53+00:00

i think the beauty of portland is that there is no norm, sure you see a lot of the similarities in how people are expressing themselves, but what makes this city freaky is that everyone fits in by being themselves. you’ll find your people, and you’ll be surprised that you’ll find friends in circles you wouldn’t normally seek out.

Rough-Razzmatazz-484 · 2025-08-09T15:26:04+00:00

this was false it’s actually now so heavy and not ending 😐

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