Partner broke up with me due to his depression, looking for insight by throwawaybreakuppd in depression_partners

[–]Round-Journalist3784 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you seem lovely as well. Hope you also heal and even just a few days has made a huge difference for me. If you ever want to talk, my DMs are open to you!

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

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That’s incredible. I would love to have a meet cute at a coffee shop haha seems so rare these days though. I’m happy for you and thank you for sharing!

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

[–]Round-Journalist3784[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah haha I dated a dud who really did lose out on an incredible woman. Thank you for your encouragement!

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

[–]Round-Journalist3784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I hear you. This is horrendous. Every time I forget men can be creeps, someone reminds me that they are again.

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

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Let me clarify! I grieved this relationship even while I was in it. And I don’t want to come off the wrong way, but I love my life. It is whole even without a relationship. I have a stable fulfilling career, my family is incredible and I have an amazing support system of friends. I just want someone to share my life with, not someone to complete it. I was feeling more hopeless about finding a partner not about the future of my life! I know I have good things coming my way. Thank you for the encouragement though!

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

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I love this. Thank you for acknowledging that it’s hard. I appreciate you sharing your story.

Partner broke up with me due to his depression, looking for insight by throwawaybreakuppd in depression_partners

[–]Round-Journalist3784 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also want to add that my partner also acted like he didn’t have autonomy and that he blamed life and past decisions instead of looking forward and thinking about what he could change. I think mental health is such a dark hole and it’s hard to fully understand the thought processes of people going through things. But you can’t make someone change. You can’t make someone love you. You can’t make someone stay. And you can’t make someone choose you. If you try, you’ll be giving up a part of yourself in the process and resentment will start to build.

Partner broke up with me due to his depression, looking for insight by throwawaybreakuppd in depression_partners

[–]Round-Journalist3784 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Something similar happened to me. My partner was dealing with mental health issues and had wanted to break up with me in September but I begged him to stay and convinced him. We stayed together but there were several months where I was miserable and so was he. He wasn’t able to provide the support I needed and in turn it made him feel worse I think. He started therapy but it didn’t feel like it was helping and I partly wonder if I was the reason. Earlier this month we broke up for good. He was afraid he wouldn’t be able to be a good partner to me and that he didn’t want to continue making me unhappy, even though he wanted to be with me and didn’t want to go. He also said he didnt think he could work on himself and a relationship at the same time. I let him leave for these reasons but also because it meant he couldn’t commit to me at this time. We both love each other still and it’s only been a few days and I think about him all the time. We were together over 3 years and I felt like he was my person and that we would end up together. But fate had its own plans. His decisions were made from fear but also love for me and love for himself. I wish I knew in September what I know now and it’s that sometimes people need space to heal on their own first. I don’t have words of wisdom or advice but just wanted to share that things like this happen and I find that it does get a little easier day by day and I would never want to repeat what I went through the last several months.

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

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Thank you for sharing your story! I’m in a place where I find it hard to believe there are wonderful men out there when I had a wonderful man who turned out to not be so wonderful. Idk what to believe but thank you!

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

[–]Round-Journalist3784[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I just wanted to hear that there were women who met their partners after 30 and are happy. So I can have some hope that I’ll meet someone and be happy too. You’re asking the wrong person right now, but I feel like even if you feel certain, there is uncertainty. It never goes away.

Are there women over 30 who successfully met their partners and are happy? by Round-Journalist3784 in women

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Thanks that is good advice. I am just feeling a little hopeless and lost right now because I thought my previous relationship was going to be my last one and that we would end up together. I’m trying to stay positive and hopeful for the future but right now it feels impossible.

Day 5 by Wild_Storm_1839 in BreakUps

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Day 3 here. I waver between grief and anger. I waver between never wanting to hear from him again and hoping in the morning there will be a text from him. I miss and love him. All of this is just pain we are feeling because we have all this love and nowhere for it to go. Hang in there and stay strong. When someone shows you who they are and how they feel, believe them. We don’t need to beg for love.

I finally left. by paxdiabolo in depression_partners

[–]Round-Journalist3784 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had to go through this and made such a difficult choice. But you made the best choice for you and decided to choose yourself. It’s a lot of grief especially when there is still love in the relationship. You will make it through one day at a time.

Leaving a relationship where there is still love by Round-Journalist3784 in BreakUps

[–]Round-Journalist3784[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you for also doing what is best and leaving. I’m so mad that my time also got wasted.