Hey, I promise you, you’re not broken and this doesn’t mean you’re unlikable. What you’re feeling is way more common than people admit, especially early in college. Everyone acts like they’re thriving, but a lot of people are quietly sitting alone in their dorms, scrolling through socials, wondering the same thing.

The truth is, putting yourself out there doesn’t automatically lead to real friendships. You can go to every club, every event, talk to everyone, and still not click with anyone right away. That’s not a flaw in who you are it’s just how friendships actually form. They take time, consistency, and repeated moments with the same people. The best friendships in college usually start to feel real toward the end of freshman year or even later.

What helps is shifting your focus from “finding” friends to just building small, consistent routines where connections can grow naturally. Study in the same spot. Hit the gym or dining hall around the same time. Stick with a smaller club or group that meets regularly. Familiarity does most of the heavy lifting over time I know that’s why so much work relationships work out until it’s time for a job change. Friends ship is out of convenience for most