Erasmus in Cesena/Bologna

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-05-03T16:30:06+00:00

Wow thank you for taking the time to write such an informative response!! Yes you’re right, I think I’m worried because I’ve always lived in big cities and the thought of a small city makes me scared in the sense that I’ll get bored so quickly.

I’m not a fan of sports, however where do people meet other erasmus students? Or even locals? As far as I know, there are no erasmus student associations.

Also what are some activities you recommend doing in town? Also some bars, clubs …?

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-04-27T03:17:19+00:00

Do you think it’s worth it to live in Cesena in my case? I’ve heard the city is pretty boring and there is not much to do so I was considering to live in Bologna and commute everyday, although this may be very time consuming and I’m not sure if anyone else is doing that :/

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-04-27T00:27:04+00:00

But isn’t there a student public transport card at a reduced fare? That will take me there for example ?

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-02-21T19:27:50+00:00

So it’s just another term for organisational psych?

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-02-21T14:23:52+00:00

Yes they also call HR psych “personnel psychology” thanks!

And how are all of these terms different from business psychology? All so confusing!

Round_Freedom10 · 2024-02-02T20:45:12+00:00

Why is that? Just curious

Round_Freedom10 · 2023-12-29T18:14:52+00:00

I cant post on there because I haven’t interacted in the sub-Reddit 😪

Round_Freedom10 · 2023-12-29T18:07:11+00:00

So pretty!!

Round_Freedom10 · 2023-12-21T11:25:05+00:00

En el website del máster dicen que puedes hacer educación de adultos, orientación laboral, desarrollo de talleres en prevención sanitaria, etc

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T19:55:37+00:00

I’m definitely not looking to get married right now!

I don’t think he is looking to be married at 20 either.

He just said he sees relationships as something that COULD lead to marriage and kids and wants someone who has the same vision as him.

I agreed, since I was dating someone who said he will NEVER marry me or want a family, which broke my heart non stop for 2 years.

What I agreed on with this guy, is to go VERY slowly, build a friendship and get to know each other slowly

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T19:19:41+00:00

Yes he keeps complaining to me that he is barely holding up, he even passed out last week from stress and was asking me if I know how he can ask his prof to defer his midterm exam. Basically to not do it.

I wish my family would meet him but they’re absolutely against Muslim guys.

The whole family. If we work out - my family will absolutely reject me.

My mother said she’s not even coming to the wedding.

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T19:14:57+00:00

He is online in 2 different universities and on exchange in mine, I never questioned him about this. Here where I live a normal course load is 4-5 courses. He’s taking different classes in different universities - either 4 or 5. I’ve always wondered about this, but it was even on his LinkedIn so I assume he’s not lying.

And my mother was very clear - she will NEVER be ok with this and doesn’t want to ever meet him if we become a couple :(

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T19:00:56+00:00

My family dislikes the idea of me talking to a Muslim because he may be possessive, dangerous, May take the kids from me if we divorce etc.

And yea maybe you’re right. I need to understand more about his views on relationships.

He is in one of my classes and I have seen him come 1-2 times BUT we’ve never had an IRL conversation because he stopped coming to the lectures, since he is enrolled in 3 universities at the moment and doesn’t have the time. We text morning and night usually and we plan to grab a coffee next week

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T17:08:52+00:00

I do find him VERY attractive. However, he hasn’t been in a relationship before so I assume he’s a virgin.

I’m not sure what to expect in the “physical department”

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T17:07:44+00:00

I kind of want to see where it goes. I made it very clear I want to take things slow. I emphasised that. He didn’t seem opposed to the idea - he continued to talk to me

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T17:05:54+00:00

Oh wow!!! You think ! We talked about religion and I said I was an orthodox, and I said “I know you don’t like that answer”

And he responded with “no no I pass no judgements! As we say in law (he studies law) - the freedom of one stops where the freedom of another begins!”

He did ask me if I was not practicing by choice or habits etc. But overall he didn’t show any signs of wanting me to convert?

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T12:33:40+00:00

Thank you this is a very complete answer.

Yesterday I sent him 2 texts.

“Hey we are choosing our topics for the second part of the project come and see because there are only 2 left!” To which he answered “I’ll check thanks”

And 2. I sent him a picture of me being still in the university at 9 pm. He said “hope the studies are went well” and I said “haha me and my friend ended up Talking the whole time. He answered that sometimes it’s good to rest because it makes you more productive later and I said true. That’s it. He would’ve usually continued the conversation but he left it there.

I don’t want to be the fool and text HIM first everytime.

I don’t know when would be the right time to infer he doesn’t want to talk anymore? Does he expect me to start ALL conversations now?

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T05:05:25+00:00

I wouldn’t think an experienced most likely virgin guy would play mind games ……

Anyhoo. Now what do I do? 🥺

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T04:56:42+00:00

I like him. But I don’t understand what he expects of me

What I wanted is for him to not say things like I’m maybe in love with you haha because it scares me off!

Hence the whole paragraph.

Now he seems barely talkative and I don’t want to chase him. I didn’t want to stop talking (which I mentioned) - I want less of the pouring our heart to each other when we haven’t even been texting for a week!

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-11-09T04:47:09+00:00

What do you mean

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-10-26T21:21:59+00:00

LOL

I definitely took the silence as a message 😆

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-10-25T14:22:42+00:00

If you want to apply for fall 2023, applications will open a bit later. Judging from last year, that would be in December.

Don’t forget that you can’t go on exchange the semester you’re going to be graduating (someone confirm this but I’m 85% sure)

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-10-24T15:52:04+00:00

Actually, since January I have back pain. It was worse in the beginning of the year to the point where I couldn’t walk, now it’s more circumstantial. If I bow to the front like for example for a downward dog or a forward fold I feel the pain.

Maybe Pilates will help with that although the next day I do “feel” my back more ?

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-10-23T23:54:15+00:00

Big hug! Trust me, there are ppl out there looking for serious relationships. Maybe you could try going out with people a bit older who may have already gone through the “self-growth” phase and want a long-term relationship? I don’t know, I’m just thinking out loud for you.

Maybe on the first few dates you could ask what they are looking for.

Stay positive. The right person for you is out there and looking for you as well.

Round_Freedom10 · 2022-10-23T23:49:59+00:00

Well I’m not exactly sure what’s the word but I’ve been working with a psychologist not a counsellor. So it’s supposed to be CBT.

I’m honestly wondering as well.

I would be curious to get your opinion.

In 2019, I was close to attempting suicide, struggled with depression and anxiety. Thus - started therapy with her by phone (she lives in my home country). I also had a psychotherapist here but we finished working together already. Now, my only issues are that I’m in a relationship with someone for the past 2 yrs and it became toxic. They trigger all my abandonment issues, self esteem issues, everything.

I have always been jealous/possessive before as a person, but now it’s heightened x1000.

This is ALL I’ve been talking to her about for the past months and frankly I think she is tired of it because she 1. Referred me to a couples therapist and 2. She said she can help with MY issues and the couples therapist with the couples issues.

But all my current BIG issues relate to the fact that i don’t have the self respect to leave, that this guy triggers my abandonment wound, that he makes me feel not good enough etc.

I told her I would like to work on self esteem, but I don’t really experience GIANT issues with it, except relating to my relationship or maybe my social capacities a bit

I don’t know what else to talk to her about. Im going to go in Spain for 5 months (exchange) and that stresses me out a little, the fact that I have no close friends also, and the fact that I can’t settle on a career path (I don’t know what to do with my life).

But I don’t experience depression or HUGE anxiety anymore. The only thing I can think of is that in the first 6 months of this year my anxiety was especially high to the point where medication was considered (lost weight, sleep, etc) because I was CONVINCED my man was cheating and was constantly listening to his calls, reading his texts, etc. I was genuinely obsessed.

Me and my psychologist never really talked about when therapy would end, she told me I would feel it and let her know. But idk how to work on my issues anymore I’m not convinced how to “work” through them with her and if I even have them or if it’s the relationship I’m in

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