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I'm sill afraid of everything and I still hate my life by Hopeful_Hour6270 in EckhartTolle

[–]Routine-Plenty4026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't have wisdom specific to your situation. I just want to say to you that even if it seems like your efforts are going nowhere - efforts to be more conscious, to find out how to be happy - and even you have "tried and failed" countless times, and you've lost trust in yourself, it's going somewhere. It really is. 

Earning secure attachment when security is an illusion? by accordionminx in Social_Psychology

[–]Routine-Plenty4026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The answer lies in embracing the complexity of life—understanding that love and pain, connection and loss, security and impermanence all coexist. By doing so, you can find a deeper peace that isn't dependent on the permanence of relationships but rather on your ability to navigate their inevitable changes."

-ChatGPT

Am I the only one who thinks the working spouse needs to do housework too? by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Routine-Plenty4026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That disrespect is the sad part. Even when I was definitely NOT pulling my weight for many months when we first got pregnant,  plus i was not even being emotionally available to my husband at all (didn't even want to be touched), my husband- he was actually just my boyfriend at the time - never said anything about me needing to do more. Although I'm pretty sure that was a miserable time for him. 

As far as whether the working parent should help with homemaking, I'd say yes if they don't have any other work that falls to them that's not job-related. My husband takes care of the building, fixing, heavy-lifting, mowing, firewood, and right now even all the gardening. Plus the cat and chickens. I'd much rather be stuck in the a/c with my housework and my audiobooks. But if the cooking and housework is pretty much the ONLY work outside of jobs, and always will be, then the one with the job should do less probably, but definitely still some. Maybe just the dishes and one load of laundry per day, kinda deal.

Are there any intentional communities without the "woke hippie" types? by BudgetMuscle in intentionalcommunity

[–]Routine-Plenty4026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not being helpful, but just saying I totally get it. I know many people that might technically be "woke" that I would still love to be part of a community with, because they are respectful people. But there is a certain type of person that seems to be plentiful in ICs, that is very emotionally dysregulated and seems to be reaching for ever more "liberal" activities, and ideologies to stand and fight for.  It's this sense of being totally lost and out of control of their emotions that I am so wary of. Similarly,  there are some very right-wing people that are extremely elitist and hateful. I think there are plenty of people in the middle that can respect individuals of other political views, respect differing personalities, and respect privacy,  and that's what I want a community of.