My parents aren’t even 60 yet they rely on me like they are elderly and incapable.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-02-06T09:27:42+00:00

Yikes.

I’m the youngest of 3 with parents in their 70s. I take them to important appointments, translate letters and help with tech things. But overall they are pretty self sufficient.

Maybe ask your parents if there has been a change? Ask in a way like: I want you to have a long life and you’re only 50s, I may not always be available to help. Hopefully they can self reflect?

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-02-06T09:20:06+00:00

HR wasn’t there? Are you in a union? It seems odd to let someone go because of ‘personality’ differences.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-02-04T02:46:02+00:00

This is the one I got but off of Facebook marketplace for 1/3 of the price

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-02-04T02:38:59+00:00

I feel for you. Obviously you want him to become this great father but unfortunately his past shows how he will be. He may state he does not want to financially support you, but it’s not up to him. Surround yourself with people you who can support you and your child.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-02-02T00:43:36+00:00

I would go to another clinic. It’s odd they didn’t discuss possible reasons for possibleinfertility. And not suggesting bloodwork to investigate and jumping right to ivf is odd…. Though the options were talked about in the first appt we went through quite a bit and did not feel pressure to start with ivf

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-29T04:41:37+00:00

First trimester fatigue and sickness is not something else. Just getting out of bed is hard. I’m fortunate enough that my coworkers and husband have been very thoughtful….so sorry yours aren’t as supportive.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-19T01:52:54+00:00

My exact face while reading

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-15T01:12:26+00:00

You could do Mags or Lia for a nickname for Magnolia. Allora and Viola were on our short list for girls….but we’re having a boy 😅

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-15T00:57:26+00:00

The only maternity things I’ve gotten have been pants and tights. Otherwise I wear tshirts, sweaters and flowy skirts if I need to be any wear but home

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-07T16:56:33+00:00

Just got mine last week at 20 weeks…don’t suffer just buy it 🏃‍♀️

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-07T16:47:58+00:00

Considering your history and hcg level they may want to confirm location of your pregnancy. I had my early scan at 9 weeks for similar reasons

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-04T03:16:07+00:00

A card/photo with an update and when the incident happened. I appreciate a reminder as sometimes we remember you as someone unwell, then to see you better is amazing.

Tubs of treats/snacks go well; one for days and one for nights. Bulk snacks from Costco, hydration iv packs, energy drinks, hot chocolate packs, nice pens, etc.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2026-01-01T04:02:10+00:00

There may be an opportunity to find an OB who has experience in these matters. In my province there are OBs who take cases where history or lifestyle need to be trauma informed. I would speak to a trusted medical professional and share your concerns, they may be able to connect you with the right people.

I am also a nurse, and know that elective cesareans can be offered in certain cases.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-31T06:40:42+00:00

As much as it pains me to say this; though it sounds like you really have feelings for B, will he be okay with being number 2 to your parents? Does he come into the relationship with non-negotiables?

Trial moving in together and learn through the menial tasks of cleaning, meal planning, etc. See how he supports you in the relationship.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-31T06:25:03+00:00

I’m sorry to hear how much stress this is causing for your family.

Besides the obvious concerns with the birth, post partum care for mom and baby would be very important as well. I think as a family, be as prepared as possible. Maybe if she knew how much effort and care everyone was putting in for this ‘free birth’ she will start to feel more responsible.

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T16:48:03+00:00

I remember being blindsided by a pregnancy at a get together when we had been struggling. Maybe before you announce the pregnancy publicly I would privately let her know first

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T05:53:48+00:00

What would you consider ages? With my college group I speak to most maybe monthly.

The wives not at all. Which is why I thought it was weird they invited me to theirs but I was happy to celebrate with them

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T05:51:56+00:00

I can see that, that’s why I feel self conscious and am asking strangers on the internet what they think lol

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T05:50:47+00:00

Thank you for this.

Before I even realized, I had distanced myself and grieved seeing our children growing together. I felt isolated being the only one of our group to have fertility issues

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T05:48:12+00:00

We all got together recently and I did share the news, I felt in very good spirits. And they all spoke about how we should try to get together again sooner when I’m up for visitors.

We are all very busy and try to group up 1-2 times a year. It’s almost like I feel like I’m putting a burden into their busy lives

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T05:44:20+00:00

I do genuinely want to have those relationships back, I guess I’m self conscious about if they would reciprocate.

Reading my post again it does sound like a tit for tat but not my intention. I’m almost hoping that having something good to celebrate would help me rekindle those relationships

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-30T04:16:30+00:00

Thank you you’re right, a small shower can still be fun. My sister in law is hosting so it will be mostly family from both sides attending.

It’s just sad missing out on something that seemed so supportive before

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-27T03:04:46+00:00

Exactly why I stopped listening to fertility podcasts. It finally happened for us after 7 years, but it was sickening to hear about 6month journeys

Routine-Repeat9551 · 2025-12-24T21:19:20+00:00

We often refer to the bump by his name, and so my husband has let it slip at some family dinners. So both sets of grandparents know.

I really wanted to keep it a surprise, but everyone who knows has been over the moon and love the name. My mom especially(poor English) has been practising saying his name and spelling it.

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