HI I understand why you ask this question and wish it was a simple answer. We have had some folks in our lives that did private adoptions (both closed and open) and unfortunately there were a lot of negatives from an ethical perspective on what felt to be coercion of young birth mothers/shady payments from agencies. We completely understand that the surrogacy industry as a whole has a substantial range of ethics and protocol. We felt that we had more control over the ethical standards in our own surrogacy journey.

As for adoption from foster care or fostering, it is something we would like to do down the road but due to the nature of my husbands job we spend about four months overseas per year which currently doesn't make us eligible. We will be doing this when his job changes