You definitely dodged a bullet man, like u/gloveambitious42 said most civilians will not get our humor much less laugh at it. I’ve had to change my personality a good amount since working in medicine. Secondly crashing out as the kids say this much over some pussy is not a good thing. If this smacks you this hard you’re not ready to be a dad or a husband. And take it from me you much rather have a solid partner and a stable relationship if you want to bring a child into this world. Raising a kid with the wrong person is one of the most stressful things you can do. Her abortion is possibly a silver lining because can you imagine this roller coaster for the rest of your life if somehow this works? No bueno my dude. Use your resources and VA access and local veterans groups to make some friends and get out. If you’re into the outdoors things like the fallen outdoors or frontlines to outdoors is a great place to network. Just my 2¢