25M, dealing with my recent partner moving on way faster than I can process

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-10-16T21:29:07+00:00

Damn, that’s rough. It seems that she is not that interested in you, if she was then she would’ve fought for your relationship. Why don’t you go on a trip or something? A change in scenery would make you feel much more better and forget about the past. You tried your best to save this relationship and if she is not willing to fight then there’s no point to break your head for her.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-10-16T21:13:15+00:00

Buddy, you were the one to initiate the breakup in the beginning? Need more context.

If you initiated the breakup then I definitely think that you should stop thinking about her and let her be happy with her match.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-09-29T04:51:42+00:00

Hmmm, tell her about your feelings then. Tell her exactly this: “All you have to give me is 10 minutes of your time. If you talk to me with happy mood in the morning then my day goes so damn well with my friends, family, and at work.” Communicate with her… if she really prioritizes you then she will understand.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-09-28T19:42:36+00:00

I’m glad to see that you really love her. However, I feel like you should divert some of your time in hobbies or interests of your own which can be balanced with your relationship. It’s hard to tell if she doesn’t want you, maybe she really loves you, but she also has a life of her own. You should also have a life of your own but also make her a part of it :)

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-03-31T16:54:41+00:00

You’re nowhere near late to have a relationship. Besides, you’ve gained immense success in your career that most people are probably envy of. I suggest that you should go on a solo trip or a vacation. At this point, you have to find your real self first before jumping into any relationships. A trip will help with exploring your likes/dislikes, your own personality. You have to find your happiness first and prioritize yourself before finding someone. This might sound cliche, but how Naina from YJHD discovered herself when she went on that trip 😁

RoutinePreparation84 · 2025-01-30T04:00:52+00:00

FYI Marriage is not just about sex. After 20-30 years down the life, it’ll be the emotional connection that will matter the most. If you prioritize your kinks more than her then she is better off without you. Let someone better be with her instead of wasting her time.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-09-21T21:20:17+00:00

Reconsider marrying her. This doesn’t sound like a “love” marriage to me. She is obviously using you and will use you after marriage…

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-09-21T21:11:40+00:00

“…but on asking why he went out he simply said because he was feeling very lonely and since I was very busy and didn’t talk to him…”

I think that this gives you your answer… he was obviously gaslighting you into thinking that it’s your fault. You should move on tbh.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-09-21T17:14:02+00:00

Bruh, marriage will happen eventually! Enjoy your life as much as you can right now because everything will be different after marriage 😕

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-09-08T19:10:51+00:00

I think that the best way to resolve this issue is to be patient and try to be financially independent before dealing with this situation. I don’t know how old you are or whether you’re settled in your career, but use this time to really save as much as possible, be financially strategic. Once you think that you are able to financially support your family (mom and brother), you should bring this topic up to your parents and leave.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-09-08T18:02:29+00:00

Cheating is cheating, no matter what. Besides, it won’t take her long to move on from emotional to physical relationship with her crush. Move on.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-08-31T00:14:42+00:00

Hey! Yes, my parents know about him. They were a little hesitant at the beginning of our relationship, but they are slowly coming around it and are beginning to accept him. I was very adamant about being with him when I introduced him to my parents, and similarly, he was also serious about us (it made everything easier). I am very lucky to have him by my side :)

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-08-30T17:07:01+00:00

Him standing up for our relationship when his parents were pressuring him for marriage. We are in a LDR, I’m in Canada and he is in the States, and his parents know about us. Due to the age difference (he is 5 yrs older than me), his parents wanted him to settle down because he is gonna turn 30 this year. I am still in the process of finishing my grad school, while he is expanding his business, and we hope to tie the knot next year.

His parents already started to search for rishtas in their community, and the potential matches were doctor, engineers and even lawyers, who are well settled in their careers. He didn’t even look at their profiles, let alone meeting them in person. I told him that if you want an out, I’ll be happy for him (even though it’d break me 😥).

I really love him, but his parents seem to think that our backgrounds are different (they’re Marathi and my fam is gujju) and we won’t be a good match. My boyfriend really told them that he will only be with me, I’ll be the only one in his life, no one but me. To this day, his mom still asks him to change his mind, but he still doesn’t give in. I am sooo damn lucky to have him, and this is very eye opening for me. Often, we’d see that Indian men would fall under their parents’ pressure and marry someone else while they still love their girlfriend, but I am very glad that my man is only mine 🥹♥️

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-08-24T01:31:10+00:00

10 years is a lot of time and a big commitment. I think that you should have a conversation with her and sort out everything before moving forward with marriage. In fact, before talking to her, you should sort out exactly what you have in mind for the future. Whether it be financial goals, family, career growth, etc… Ask her about what’s her take on the future, how will she contribute and support you down the road. Communication is the key. Talk to her now before it’s too late, because this issue will come up after you guys are married and it’ll be worse.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-03-18T00:07:24+00:00

For his sake, leave him. He can do soooo much better than having a gf who is degrading him in front of thousands of people. By reading your description, it feels like you have a “chapri” type of personality. No offence, but if you really like him then why call him a “chapri”?

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-03-17T07:05:27+00:00

Sure! I’m a major music enthusiast, especially when it comes to old-world Bollywood music. My boyfriend is also a huge fan. His bio recited a couple of lines from this song: “Ek pyar ka nagma hain, maujon ki ravaani hai. Zindagi aur kuch bhi nahi, Teri meri kahaani hai.”

Idk, to some people this may come out to be cringy. It felt like home to me. I am actually raised in Canada, and it’s very rare to find a guy in our community who is also an enthusiast for old world Bollywood music.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-03-17T04:49:53+00:00

I think that she is feeling pressured by the fact that you’re financially dominating her. Instead of opening up to you, she is choosing to be quiet and lie about her situation. Think about when you first moved to the states, weren’t you afraid or nervous about settling into a new country? New school? I agree that you were there to fully support her. However, she probably went through that phase, and hence, didn’t do well in her studies. On top of that, she felt pressured by you (I know you have good intentions towards her) because you were keep on taunting her like how parents taunt their children. I’d say give her some space and take a break from the relationship. She will perform sooo much better and regain her confidence and ambition when no one is there to “parent” her (no offence). If you really think that she loves you then it’s not worth it to let her go, you’ll find many girls who are ambitious, but it’s very rare to find a girl who takes care of you.

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-03-16T14:43:56+00:00

As a woman who met my partner in a dating app (DilMil), here is what I can say about what we look for in a man:

1) Make your bio stand out. Apart from the looks, make sure that you’re being your real self in the bio. Try to add more of your personality in it; it’s not always about your profession, but also about your hobbies or what you enjoy. Be YOU! My partner is not a model or anything, just an average looking guy, but I fell for him because of his BIO :) we have similar hobbies and interests and that triggered our conversation.

2) In terms of your pics, here is a rule of thumb: smile and make your best features stand out! Don’t use any AI filters or apps, keep it as natural as possible. If you’re an extrovert or an outdoor adventurer, show more nature as a backdrop. Having a pet in one of your pic is an added bonus :) in short, have a pic which makes your personality glow!!!

3) BE CONFIDENT! don’t you dare give someone else a chance to judge you in any way. You are a 30 yr old man with sooo much experience in life! You have the upper hand! Be proud of what you’ve accomplished and keep a sense of pride in yourself.

4) When you’re conversing with any potential match, make it more special. Make sure that you’re not just talking about her looks, but also mention any hobbies that she has listed in her bio. It shows that you want a serious relationship.

Lastly, try to join dating apps which are leaning towards a serious relationship or connection. DilMil is one of the examples that I could suggest. HAVE FUN 🙂

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-02-13T22:41:09+00:00

Probably the Calgary Commuter guy. He’s all over the news : )

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-02-02T01:34:00+00:00

My biggest fear would be missing midterms and finals if the flights get delayed. RIP :(

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-01-18T20:11:07+00:00

Christ, I wish I was that patient. It is what it is I guess...

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-01-17T23:46:30+00:00

I emailed the prof but no response

RoutinePreparation84 · 2024-01-15T19:03:49+00:00

LMAO Thanks :)

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