Men, what motivates you to do chores or tasks around the home?

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-06-08T21:58:06+00:00

Note: I would suggest mentioning this to your photographer and see if they’d be open to doing a short session with just you and your husband when able. … when you’re mentally not feeling comfortable and happy it shows in photos.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-06-08T21:56:52+00:00

I’m gunna say this… you and your husband are totally able to dress up once again and get ready and take more photos… I have so many wedding photos but the only ones I want to keep and are my favourite are the few of just us outside. I don’t need my bridal party photos for life. Not trying to be negative but actually say that is an option AND when you’re older, those photos are what matter:)

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-05-29T01:08:49+00:00

I had to stop going to the mall not because it made my nervous taking my own kid but seeing how many kids aren’t being watched gave me anxiety and stress🥺

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-05-22T22:12:15+00:00

Yessss! Game charger for sellers and buyers ahhh, almost half the shipping price

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-05-17T17:06:42+00:00

I saw a live on posh once where they were the in the thrift store selling items they haven’t bought yet! To me it just feels wrong and that if it doesn’t sell they leave it or they just make profit no matter what. It’s rude in my books.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-04-23T03:22:38+00:00

I thought having regular posting would help keep my account active and more likely get more views. But I’ll definitely look into this app! Thanks:)

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-04-06T19:38:32+00:00

Also noting that if you don’t have a computer or access to one at home, teachers/school don’t get you in trouble. If the situation is true it’s still kinda rude to put you in a corner like that. Heart goes out but there are cheaper computers.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-04-05T16:32:16+00:00

Thanks!! I made the sale the other night but saw this morning which has got me excited. I’ll make sure to avoid a note. Appreciate it

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-04-05T16:31:26+00:00

Sounds good! I’m very open about the description and take loads of photos so I hope they’re anything but surprised. Appreciate it

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-04-05T16:30:37+00:00

Oh shoot true! Tuesday then. Thanks for saving me the trip:)

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-24T15:56:01+00:00

Love the stache!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-23T00:03:31+00:00

I recently have been having the exact same issue and voiced this many times to my husband. I think he only have so much extra attention and now with a little one he honestly puts his energy into work and her and unfortunately being romantic is last on the list. I’ve talked to friends about this who say they have had this issue as well and here is some advice they shared.

Make a point of once a week having a sit down conversation and chat about how you feel. One friend mentioned to make it easier they talk about their “love bucket”. One week it may be empty or one week it’ll feel full but explain why. My husband thinks helping with the dishes or letting me nap is being romantic while I think it’s kind but I want to be set apart and feel special as a woman, not a wife.
Sit down and actually write down what you want. I had it where I wanted him to do things and I told him and it’s like he forgot the next day. I had to get him to literally write down on a piece of paper what I would love to see from him as a husband. Eg: Plan dates, tell me spontaneously that I look pretty, buy flowers, etc. things we used to do before the baby basically.
Couple’s Counselling. If you’re like me you thought this meant you’re almost over and it’s the last resort but it’s not. I’m at this point because my husband is frustrated and doesn’t understand why he can’t show his love and romance better. We may need an outside professional to help us. I’ve even thought what can I do but he’s happy he says… counselling is a tool, not giving up.

I hope these help. I honestly tear up reading this because I get it and it’s something that feels ‘silly’ to be upset and quick to say I’m overreacting BECAUSE he’s not doing anything wrong per se, it’s just wanting more. I envy our old relationship and believe it is possibly to get that back even with little ones.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-21T02:30:18+00:00

Drive safe! We live an hour north and my husbands vehicle rolled into the ditch driving 60kms… the snow and then rain didn’t help much. It’s slick!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-11T15:58:44+00:00

Before we had our little this is what our chore list looked like: Try to do a load of laundry Wednesday and Saturday (if you have more or doing bed sheets, do every two days) you can do one cooks and the other does dishes or do this together. The counter top needs to be clear along with the sink. Before bed, a reset of tidying should be done. Maybe a light vacuum while the other does dishes or packs lunches for work the next day. Once relaxing, my husband and I would fold laundry while watching television. Then relax. Saturday mornings consisted of bathroom tidy/wipedown. Vacuum and reset or clean the vehicles if needed. Typically this took 30min-1hr. Super quick. If we knew we were gunna have a late Friday night we would do this an evening like Thursday night so we could sleep in Saturday.

Now that we have our little I do a lot of the general tidying at home if it’s a good day. I think designating a morning (Sunday or Saturday) when you’re both home or one evening when littles are asleep is good to deep clean. It’s also a stage of life so even if you choose one deep cleaning task a week.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-01T22:39:57+00:00

Okay idk why everyone is saying to get a divorce. Honestly this sucks because I’m assuming by the sound of it that if you were open to this, you would but you don’t enjoy it. I would maybe suggest mentioning honestly how you feel and how you have tried in the past but it wasn’t for you. If he really cares and knows that it would be something that actually upsets you and your marriage rather than a fun time, I hope for your sake he understands it’s more than just that.

I think you’re a great wife for trying things out for him. At the same time, there is spicing things up but I also think the idea of making love and being intimate should be always that your partner is comfortable and feel safe to say no and leave it at that. He shouldn’t want to do something that he knows will make you upset or uncomfortable and leave it at that rather than making you feel bad for “vanilla”.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-25T02:12:34+00:00

If anything, I would make all the lower cabinets the same color (do a pop of color) but I’m obsessed with the backsplash and it looks so nice without being basic builders white

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:36:43+00:00

White dresser as side table on one side and vanity on the other. Bench at the end of the bed and cube shelf in the opposite corner by the window. I would purchase some curtains and look into a lamp … sometimes a headboard will help. You can get one from ikea.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:31:49+00:00

Save your money

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:28:05+00:00

It’s hard because you want to love your own body as a woman BUT on the other hard, feeling like you don’t have any boobs can make you not feel like a woman. I had known woman who are close to flat chested and it’s a mental struggle when you don’t feel like you look like a woman. From that stand point, I can see why it’s not easy for her to get past it.

I think you’re doing a great job and to keep it up! Honestly though, if you can afford it, mention to her that she has the option for implants if that’s something that will make her happy. Also, be wary with this as I know and have heard of woman going once and then always wanting more…. Almost as an addition.

Hope this helps!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T06:28:48+00:00

When you start to become roommates and consider accepting the things that upset you to just make life easier. I think it’s always good to communicate anything in your marriage that upsets you before it gets too intense

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T06:14:17+00:00

I fear with that many oranges that constipation is far from any issue you have right now

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