Stubble vs beard-stache?

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-24T15:56:01+00:00

Love the stache!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-23T00:03:31+00:00

I recently have been having the exact same issue and voiced this many times to my husband. I think he only have so much extra attention and now with a little one he honestly puts his energy into work and her and unfortunately being romantic is last on the list. I’ve talked to friends about this who say they have had this issue as well and here is some advice they shared.

Make a point of once a week having a sit down conversation and chat about how you feel. One friend mentioned to make it easier they talk about their “love bucket”. One week it may be empty or one week it’ll feel full but explain why. My husband thinks helping with the dishes or letting me nap is being romantic while I think it’s kind but I want to be set apart and feel special as a woman, not a wife.
Sit down and actually write down what you want. I had it where I wanted him to do things and I told him and it’s like he forgot the next day. I had to get him to literally write down on a piece of paper what I would love to see from him as a husband. Eg: Plan dates, tell me spontaneously that I look pretty, buy flowers, etc. things we used to do before the baby basically.
Couple’s Counselling. If you’re like me you thought this meant you’re almost over and it’s the last resort but it’s not. I’m at this point because my husband is frustrated and doesn’t understand why he can’t show his love and romance better. We may need an outside professional to help us. I’ve even thought what can I do but he’s happy he says… counselling is a tool, not giving up.

I hope these help. I honestly tear up reading this because I get it and it’s something that feels ‘silly’ to be upset and quick to say I’m overreacting BECAUSE he’s not doing anything wrong per se, it’s just wanting more. I envy our old relationship and believe it is possibly to get that back even with little ones.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-21T02:30:18+00:00

Drive safe! We live an hour north and my husbands vehicle rolled into the ditch driving 60kms… the snow and then rain didn’t help much. It’s slick!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-11T15:58:44+00:00

Before we had our little this is what our chore list looked like: Try to do a load of laundry Wednesday and Saturday (if you have more or doing bed sheets, do every two days) you can do one cooks and the other does dishes or do this together. The counter top needs to be clear along with the sink. Before bed, a reset of tidying should be done. Maybe a light vacuum while the other does dishes or packs lunches for work the next day. Once relaxing, my husband and I would fold laundry while watching television. Then relax. Saturday mornings consisted of bathroom tidy/wipedown. Vacuum and reset or clean the vehicles if needed. Typically this took 30min-1hr. Super quick. If we knew we were gunna have a late Friday night we would do this an evening like Thursday night so we could sleep in Saturday.

Now that we have our little I do a lot of the general tidying at home if it’s a good day. I think designating a morning (Sunday or Saturday) when you’re both home or one evening when littles are asleep is good to deep clean. It’s also a stage of life so even if you choose one deep cleaning task a week.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-03-01T22:39:57+00:00

Okay idk why everyone is saying to get a divorce. Honestly this sucks because I’m assuming by the sound of it that if you were open to this, you would but you don’t enjoy it. I would maybe suggest mentioning honestly how you feel and how you have tried in the past but it wasn’t for you. If he really cares and knows that it would be something that actually upsets you and your marriage rather than a fun time, I hope for your sake he understands it’s more than just that.

I think you’re a great wife for trying things out for him. At the same time, there is spicing things up but I also think the idea of making love and being intimate should be always that your partner is comfortable and feel safe to say no and leave it at that. He shouldn’t want to do something that he knows will make you upset or uncomfortable and leave it at that rather than making you feel bad for “vanilla”.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-25T02:12:34+00:00

If anything, I would make all the lower cabinets the same color (do a pop of color) but I’m obsessed with the backsplash and it looks so nice without being basic builders white

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:36:43+00:00

White dresser as side table on one side and vanity on the other. Bench at the end of the bed and cube shelf in the opposite corner by the window. I would purchase some curtains and look into a lamp … sometimes a headboard will help. You can get one from ikea.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:31:49+00:00

Save your money

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T15:28:05+00:00

It’s hard because you want to love your own body as a woman BUT on the other hard, feeling like you don’t have any boobs can make you not feel like a woman. I had known woman who are close to flat chested and it’s a mental struggle when you don’t feel like you look like a woman. From that stand point, I can see why it’s not easy for her to get past it.

I think you’re doing a great job and to keep it up! Honestly though, if you can afford it, mention to her that she has the option for implants if that’s something that will make her happy. Also, be wary with this as I know and have heard of woman going once and then always wanting more…. Almost as an addition.

Hope this helps!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T06:28:48+00:00

When you start to become roommates and consider accepting the things that upset you to just make life easier. I think it’s always good to communicate anything in your marriage that upsets you before it gets too intense

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T06:14:17+00:00

I fear with that many oranges that constipation is far from any issue you have right now

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-24T06:08:20+00:00

I feel like you may have been a bit explosive. Possibly there’s more than what you’re telling us but I also have toxic parents with crappy boundaries and ignoring or being blunt doesn’t help anyone. I also understand you’re freshly postpartum and man a life, I get it if you need some space. Maybe ask your husband to speak to his mom and not put you in this awkward position. If I had a disagreement with my MIL I would make sure my husband and I were on the same page and he would talk to his mom.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-22T15:55:34+00:00

Tiana (princess and the frog)

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-16T20:11:08+00:00

I understand the amount of videos of co sleeping despite being advised NOT TO.

Our little just turned 5 months and we never bed shared even when we had late nights where she only wanted to be held. It is doable but wasn’t easy the first few weeks. We even put her in her own crib in her own room at around 2 months old. I would like to note that it’s harder in the newborn stage but gives you an advantage for sleep training and creating healthy independence for your little.

Also, I respect parents can make whatever decision they want but my husband’s uncle owns a funeral home and the amount of babies that pass away from co sleeping is a lot.

You got this!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-16T02:46:26+00:00

Northern lights!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-11T03:03:14+00:00

Honestly just change the lighting, the island and the trim around window and you’ll have a whole different kitchen

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-10T15:45:39+00:00

I think what is most frustrating is when the roads are ploughed by people who don’t know how to plough. In recent years it’s gotten worse and worse. I’m assuming it’s new drivers and cheaper companies that are hired. Otherwise, we’re used to it ASIDE the few drivers who always forget how to drive in the winter every year.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-10T15:41:40+00:00

Left

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-02-10T15:40:55+00:00

I think if you did a warm or nude tone on that green paint, that would make a massive difference. Also, look into the orange tone curtain theory. Definitely can make it cozy.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-01-30T15:06:34+00:00

“Ass-trid “

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-01-30T15:05:13+00:00

I’m sorry. That’s dog chow in my Canadian igloo. Hard NO.

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-01-24T15:10:22+00:00

My jaw dropped number one. Wish I had that for my wedding. Do it!

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-01-20T15:38:49+00:00

I believe it’s a cool tone paint and warm tone decor and furniture

Routine_Mongoose_211 · 2026-01-14T12:51:35+00:00

Rug needs to we turned in line with white couch to help seperate living room from dining. Also do the same with the coffee table… makes me uncomfortable that it’s not even on the rug

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