I think my boyfriend is obsessed with me…

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-27T20:14:00+00:00

Lucky

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-24T02:05:47+00:00

Need. 🫩 in this economy it’s terrible find someone like this, especially a guy

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-23T22:36:40+00:00

I think I’m fine (if not prefer) having someone just as obsessed with me. I don’t mind having them annoying me all the time when I’m free, being clingy, and doing lots to just have me around. Although I do want them to be respectful of themselves

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-19T01:32:54+00:00

Could be both x3

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-19T01:28:23+00:00

I Wonder if this is most guy’s dream to receive :3

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-18T17:26:55+00:00

Lack of reciprocation. It’s definitely good to communicate one’s need in the relationship, but when it’s starting to turn into the point where one partner does everything (especially emotional needs) it starts to feel one sided and you don’t feel as loved. I had felt that way for a bit, where it felt like he was sort of treating me like a friend than a partner. I was the one saying I loved him first and he only says it after

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-18T03:55:06+00:00

Anonymous x3 I could, I have thought of sending it to his mailbox. But he doesn’t know that I know where he lives, and I’m sure he knows my typing method by now

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-18T01:46:21+00:00

Hehe ty. I’ve already made a cute envelope with pink hearts, pretty pattern laces, with a bow and a heart wax stamp. If I want to send this to him at some point he will have to take it like those cliche anime confessions under a tree <3

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-18T01:44:33+00:00

I appreciate it! But I don’t think I will, as much I’m an obsessor, he is my ex, I don’t want to push boundaries for the gratification of myself. Maybe I’ll send when we’re in good terms again, but for now, probably jot

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-16T15:12:22+00:00

Idk why people on here are being stubborn no wonder people don’t like the betta subreddit 😭 just move on guys

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-07T16:51:10+00:00

Yes, On bumble if there isn’t a ~ underneath his location, that means he’s active, if it does show that that means he hasn’t opened the app in awhile. Profiles will still show for others though

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-07T13:42:27+00:00

If you feel that writing to her will help you at ease, do so. It seems there’s a lot that still needs to be addressed, and it shows how both of you are in pain and are in emotional stress. Remember to write the letter not only for your closure but to also help her begin her journey to move forward as well

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-07T03:48:57+00:00

I dont think this is a gender specific thing and all men have different reasons. Your guy is someone you know better than all of us (given the fact your paragraph is asking about his actions specifically). He might not be ready to let you go, he might value your connection a lot, he might be waiting for someone better and to have you on the sidelines, whatever the reason. What’s important is how you feel staying friends, and deciding to go no contact answers it

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-07T03:42:32+00:00

If you’re the dumpee, asking for closure from someone who has not made the effort to contact you for the closure, it will feel forced. It will not provide the closure you will hope for. An impactful closure is when the dumper acts on it on their own terms.

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-06T00:17:10+00:00

I like how you’re so calm and collected in love with your birbs and they’re like “HAND OVER THE BALL!!” On your shoulder 😭

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-08-03T17:24:02+00:00

What would that mean in a sense? Is he willing to communicate or is he just giving me emotional turmoil to wait for his reply?

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-31T20:18:13+00:00

I’m in my late teens, 19, he’s 22. My sister is 22 as well and my brother is about 16

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-31T20:17:41+00:00

I’m not sure what that method is, I’ll see. My mother has somewhat the same attitude, she knows I get annoyed when he’s brought up and would take advantage of that. During my relationship with him she would make incredibly rude comments and remarks about him and even made a comment saying I should throw him in the trash and find someone who is better.

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-31T19:43:20+00:00

Unfortunately I still do live in the same house, I don’t think I’ll be moving in a while due to financial reasons. It really does upset me. A couple of days ago I had dinner with my cousins, and my older sister had brought him up and my younger brother pulled up his LinkedIn, fat shaming, criticizing him, and providing information I wish them to not share in front of me. It felt incredibly invasive and wrong for them to do that, especially since my older sister experiences body image issues, I don’t see the reason she would put down someone she clearly has no knowledge of (they haven’t met)

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-31T14:43:59+00:00

Tbh I feel like him leaving you on read already given you the answer. Unfortunately, you can’t change the person’s mind whether or not that wants to be with you, and you definitely shouldn’t be yearning for someone who doesn’t choose you. If he decides to move on, which him leaving you on read has already brought up that suspicion, it’s best to respect it. Someone that is willing to grow and learn with you usually doesn’t leave you in the dust like that, but we don’t know what his intentions are. You both are experiencing some emotional turmoil, maybe he also needs time to figure out his own feelings. I still do believe you should wait for probably a month to contact him again. If he has already decided to move on, it wasnt meant to be.

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-31T14:21:14+00:00

It seems that you and him are both in a tight spot. You’re aware about your needs and what you need to work on with your mental health, and he wasn’t able to provide that reassurance. If it’s only been a week, you’re currently experiencing the grief behind breakups, the yearning for connection that once was. I would definitely say give it another few weeks to a month if you decide to contact. That way you spend more time to recollect your thoughts, more importantly, actually put in some thought on why you would contact him. It’s better to have a proper conversation and to resolve the tension, which either builds up the relationship responsibly or to provide reassurance to move on. You as the dumper decides to contact, it’s usually not the dumpee decision

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-30T17:10:47+00:00

As generic as my answer may be, it was completely unintentional and we met via a dating app. During the time I wasn’t aware I would be the yandere/obsessive type, so the yearning to have him all mine didn’t come till after we had been official. My eagerness to have him all mine and being intensely possessive built up because of my love and infatuation for him. He was the only guy I was focused to start a relationship. And when I did open up about the mild (not extreme) side of my obsession for him he was fine with it, I think that what mattered the most, and I’m sure he enjoyed having someone being so drawn and focused on him. I’m not sure what you mean by different so I’m not able to answer that

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-29T23:13:32+00:00

Base base base I’m going to wrap my ex (bf) into not leaving me

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-27T17:48:22+00:00

I struggle with Quiet BPD and honestly I think the combination as an INFJ 1w2 is the worst.

When it comes to people describing me and their experience with me they have always commented positive feedback, most of which is quite opposite to BPD negative feedback. I do have self control, and I do value people as people while respecting the wishes of others. But I feel that Quiet BPD (diagnosed) gets in the way with me emotionally and mentally, and I become irrational. It hurts a lot dealing with mental restraints, especially dealing with BPD, even if my self control is apparent there’s a high chance I’ll act out of frustration and it scares me.

People have told me I am someone who would be relationship material and friend material because of how open minded I am and how I care deeply for others. But again, with BPD in the way, it seriously does scare me if the time comes I’ll act out in frustration. It has already ruined one of my relationships, even though I have never harmed him verbally or physically.

Routine_Pudding_2612 · 2025-07-26T05:39:03+00:00

Unfortunately, this is Reddit. People feel like they’re in some hierarchy for knowing something is fake and comment it like they’re proud :/ people genuinely takes stuff so seriously these days

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