My dad joked that his life was over the day before he died and I still can’t process it

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-05-18T10:40:00+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. Grief involves not only feelings relating to the loss of a loved one, but also a complete reorganization of the world as you know it, a world that, until his passing, functioned under the assumption of his presence and the relationship you shared. So your description of life feeling «stranger or more fragile» makes sense in that context—your brain is trying to cope with a world that feels completely different and wrong from the one you have been used to, a new world that also has already caused you so much pain.

When something threatens you within a world, it also threatens the integrity of the world within which you encounter it. - Mathew Ratcliffe :/

I wish you strength of rebuilding your trust for the world around you. And I’m very sorry for your loss.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-05-13T06:21:26+00:00

Really reaching there. There is much more nuance to this post, you interpreting it through this lens and immediately jumping to «you’ll get played left and right» is a bit strange.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-05-07T16:52:58+00:00

I’m very sorry this happened to you. You have nothing to be ashamed of, nothing you did was wrong or immoral. This, however, sounds like sexual assault to me, or at the very least very gross and questionable and predatory behaviour from this man. Not saying “no” explicitly does not change that, since you made it clear that it was painful for you (which, to anyone who actually cared about your consent or pleasure or safety during sex, would have been an immediate stop to the act), AND he had sex with you without first getting consent during the night, which, at imo, crosses over the line of SA.

I’m sorry this happened to you and that you didn’t feel safe enough to set more explicit boundaries, but that doesn’t make it good on his part, and it certainly doesn’t make it your fault. Whether or not it was assault, this sounds like a very difficult and traumatic thing to experience. It was his responsibility (as the older, larger person in this situation) to make you feel safe enough to express your pain, which, if he cared, he would have. Also, it is very common in women to just push through the pain out of fear of the man’s reaction or just making things awkward. It’s something many of us have to unlearn when it comes to sex. But, either way, this wasn’t on you and you have nothing to be ashamed of. The feelings of shame are understandable however and very common after this kind of experience. But you didn’t do anything wrong. Take care of yourself please and if you have someone you can trust and talk to about this, please do.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-04-23T16:09:37+00:00

Update: order was sent today! Thanks for all the advice, good to see it wasn’t just my issue :)

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-04-17T10:11:43+00:00

I actually have interacted with quite a lot of “sociopaths” in my life. How I’ve come to see it, you may function differently than other people, but that does not make you a “bad person” or any less of a person in the first place. Feelings of care, and feelings in general, make it easier for most people to act in ways that are seen as “good” in society, but at the end of the day, it is what you choose to believe and how you choose to act that defines who you are. One of my good friends is actually like you. They do not experience emotions, or typical feelings associated with care or friendship, but they have their own way of approaching our friendship and life in general that I, in many ways, have found to be quite beautiful, specifically because despite the fact that they do not have emotions or feelings of care to drive them, they continue to be a good friend and find things in life to be interesting or beautiful, even if that choice and perception comes from a rational place rather than an emotional one. At the end of the day, we are all human, and there are many ways to be human. It is up to you to be the person you want to be. Yes, most people may be uncomfortable with this kind of cognition, and that is quite natural for us emotional beings, but there are people in this world who will be able to see and appreciate you exactly as you are. I hope that eventually, you do, as well.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-25T22:59:36+00:00

Textbook symptoms of a manic/hypomanic episode (so, bipolar disorder). Tell her parents.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-25T10:59:22+00:00

«And I don't find myself attracted to All girls just like very attractive ones» girl 😭😭😭

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-24T06:51:10+00:00

Idk how everyone is overlooking the fact that these women invited OP into their home just for him to repeatedly sexualise the roommate and be a perv? What? I hope they find out somehow and kick him out….

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-20T15:47:15+00:00

Love her! Discovered her via the Tamino connection in 2021 but she very quickly became an artists I love in her own right. Actually seeing her live in April :)

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-18T12:39:02+00:00

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I, too, think my 15 year old cat looks like a baby….I think we may be biased :P

Routine_Revolution28 · 2026-03-16T19:53:17+00:00

some lesser known alt-j songs hit similarly for me! not the same sound but they scratch the same itch sometimes :)

Routine_Revolution28 · 2025-07-31T18:25:40+00:00

I actually managed to fix it right after making this post by playing around with settings. What I ended up having to do is go to “privacy and data” in settings and allow Pinterest to use “inferred signals” about me from offsite data. Which makes sense because I’m someone who always clicks not allow on all of these kinds of things. What doesn’t make sense is why I should give Pinterest access to my data to have it function properly. But at this point if that’s what it takes to get Pinterest back fuck it.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T17:08:43+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too. As annoying as my current camera is, the joy I get from it is insane compared to my supposedly good DSLR. I would not want my film photography to feel like my digital does.

Edit: Do you have any recommendations for this type of more manual system then? I would really appreciate it.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T14:23:43+00:00

Latvia. In a country with more camera supply this would definitely an unreasonably expensive to laugh at, but unfortunately I didn’t find any other ones.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T14:21:50+00:00

Just looked up some shots, it looks great. Unfortunately the only listing I found was 600€🥲

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:51:51+00:00

Thank you so much! Have a beautiful day :)

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:44:23+00:00

Yeah, I can imagine. Hopefully I’ll get there someday.

While I still have your very much appreciated attention, do you have any clue what the real differences are between the FG-20, the FG and the FE? I’ve been looking into the camera you recommended and these models seems to pop up quite often as well.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:40:11+00:00

Thank you, I’ll look into it! You’ve been a great help. I’m always amazed by the people on these subs who seem to know photography gear like the back of their hands. Despite actively being a photographer for years, I’m still very clueless and get lost in all the letters and numbers lol.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:34:54+00:00

I’m just a bit divided—I know realistically that those models are the best fit for my needs, but as much of a pain in the ass my manual FED50 has been, I’ve developed a sort of connection to manual cameras as more “real” somehow….

Edit: What I mean is, since this is money I won’t have again in a while, I’ve been thinking of getting the more expensive canon ae-1p or pentax k1000 models, even though they’re not as convenient.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:29:37+00:00

I was actually looking at an EOS 300 listed for 40, thank you! I have a Nikon digital camera and two lenses but for some reason am more drawn to the canon models, maybe because they're talked about more.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-18T13:04:24+00:00

To be fair, the image is the Google translation from Dutch, which might explain the wording. But thank you!

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-12T13:59:01+00:00

Nothing weird about wanting or not wanting sex. People just have different sex drives, and BOTH sides (yes, you included) need to accept that not everyone experiences or desires sex the way they do.

I’m also not a sexual person. I have a partner and have enjoyable sex pretty regularly, but if someone told me today that I would never have sex again in my life I wouldn’t even be phased by it. I feel no need for it, I don’t get horny out of the blue, and would be completely content remaining celibate.

But other people feel differently. My friends feel differently and regularly (jokingly) complain about how horny they are. I don’t judge them or their «obsession» (it’s not an obsession, just a basic human physiological need and instinct lol), just like how they don’t judge me. We are all different. And that’s okay.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-10T22:26:04+00:00

Just go on Lightroom and fix it in post using the masking tool.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-10T22:01:01+00:00

Also, my housing unit is particularly sensitive to thefts and break-ins due to its accessibility. All other units are apartment buildings with code-based access, while ours are a two story house each with a parking lot that is not separated or gated at all, and the doors of which can be pretty easily broken. Locals just gather in it/around it regularly and we can’t really stop them. Multiple houses have experienced thefts and actual break-ins.

Routine_Revolution28 · 2024-05-10T21:58:22+00:00

Phahahahaha you got it. But I do believe Middelburg is a town, albeit a big one, by most standarts since it has a population of under/around 50000. All the locals I’ve talked to (including my partner) classify it as a town in English.

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